This has come to my attention several times over the years. I've never said anything about it up till now.

Do you think that there is a double standard when it comes to men,lets say in there late 40's, early 50's living at home with their elderly parents? And women that do the same?

In other words, It's a well-known fact that men are looked down on for living with their elderly parents. But for women, It seems to be OK.

Why is that? Most men that I know don't seem to really care where the woman they are interested in lives. Whether it be with their elderly parents or alone. At least to the men I know,It doesn't seem to matter. So, Shouldn't it be the same for a man? What does it matter where he lives at this late stage of life? As long as he is willing to step out of his parents home and be with you?

One last thing. I know several women that were married,had kids,divorced, and raised those kids as best they could. But for whatever reason,after the kids were grown and gone on to live their lives,she never remarried. To keep from being alone so much each one eventually moved back home with their parents. Everything was OK,No men seemed to care.

But these same women will not date a man who has done the same as they have. Why,The double standard?

In most situations, I can't imagine it would bother me if a man I was dating were living with his parents.

On the other hand, it would bother me a great deal if I lived with MY parents.

I think people make ASSumptions

they assume that 'living with' a parent means 'living off of' a parent

people in many cultures have lived in extended family environments for generations, where three or four generations shared a home and everyone pitched in

but then in those cultures, family was also more involved with 'dating' process

so, in a more individualistic culture, I Think its frowned upon for a potential partner to be living with family , because it kind of brings an expectation that the family will be involved with the relationship which is frowned upon by many people

also, women are considered nurturing, so people may be quicker to believe a woman with parents is helping them,,, then they are to believe a man to be

bottom line is, it depends upon the person,, I think its important not to assume what someones situation is just because they reside in the home with parents,,,,

definitely a deadbeat (man or woman) who has parents supporting them while they just enjoy life and spend their earnings on things they want,, is a loser

but many people do have extended families, where everyone pitches in some kind of way, these families can be pretty close, and a joy to 'date' into,,,,

I agree with harmony. I also think that the old adage is true: Two women cannot share a kitchen.

I would be reluctant to live in the same dwelling with a man AND his parents. But no problem beign nearby if he is helping them

I guess it's a double standard that I was not aware of

When I was an only child, my mum rented a small two-bedroomed house. They were more affordable a few decade's ago. These days, in the screwed-up era, you're lucky if you can even afford a room, just one room. Our government are ordering builders to only build four-bedroomed houses now, so how in hell is any first time buyer meant to afford a FOUR bedroomed place? Why not build two and three bedroomed housing, like they used to? I think it's a ploy made on purpose, just so the poor won't be able to afford them. Also doesn't make sense when my goverment just choose to shut down any company they want. So now, there's more living with their parent's than ever. Why are we being robbed of the chance to just bring up a family of our own, in a HOME of our own? It's all over the place.

I believe it's more of a cultural thing.
In some cultures, an individual will stay with the parents til he/she gets married. Some will stay beyond marriage. It just depends.

In America most parents can't wait to kick their child's butt out of the house once the kid hits 18.

wow, sure its a double standard, but there are many, spousel abuse,custody battles,
there's a couple that are slowly changing but have been one sided for years
equal opportunity & wages for woman in the work force, again, its changing but
still very much exists, in Canada many of the woman's products made for
woman like razors & other products that men also use are inflated 30%+ more
in cases and they are often getting by on a less wage, how fair is that!
the goverments forcing their hand on that, as much awareness has been
brought to that. rightfully so.

the other one is money, if a woman doesn't have an income, that's the last
thing on my mind, but If I don't have money, I sure don't feel
much confidence in the woman department.

as far as living at home my bloods not like that:

we're as instinctive Ungulates (moose, deer, elk) , we run off the young to find

their own territory, and just before the governments law permits

us to do, just to send I strong mes.

The double-standard that Charles mentions has been in existence in the USA. Whether or not it is still common I do not know.

You can believe me Alf, It's common as dirt here in the USA. What my gripe is, I don't see the point of it being this way. What got me started on this,A very good friend of mine got his feelings hurt the other day by a woman that he thought a lot of. He's 51. Been divorced a long time. He still helped to raise his kids. Paid his child support like he was supposed to. Always did his best to try to do right.

Back in 2007 when this recession hit he was one of those people effected by it. He tried his best to get another job. Couldn't find one,anywhere. He even traveled out of his home state trying to find a job. He couldn't. In two yrs he lost almost everything. To keep from losing every dime he had saved over the yrs,He moved home.

Now, He's 51. He finally after three yrs of struggle and coming close to losing everything, In 2010, He found a job. In order to do so, He took a cut in pay. A pretty big one by my understanding.

To shorten this story, His parents are 79 and 80. They need his help. So, He stayed with them. After he found a job he decided to try to start dating again. Most,after they found out he was living with his parents, Turned a deaf ear to why,And their nose up to him. Another woman that he liked did him that way a few days ago. This time it got to him. All these women were living with one or the other parent,or both.

I personally know all these women. I've known them for yrs. Basically, They are good women. The kind of women any man would love to date and maybe even marry.

I'm keeping my nose out of it. None of my business really. But, I have seen this over the years many times with other people. I can't help but wonder why it has to be that way.

Most men that I know love their parents just as much as any woman would their's. And it does sometimes fall in a man's lap to at the very least,help out with his parents in their old age. Especially if he is the single sibling.

Also, Shyt happens to men and women both. Many women here in the USA are unemployed and can't find work. I happen to know a few of them to. To me, It just doesn't make good sense for things to be one way for a man and another way for a woman in like situations.

Most men will not turn up their nose to a woman they like just because she for whatever reason chose to live at home with her parents and help take care of them. But, It seems a man can't do the same.

In this day of equality for men and women alike,One would think this would never happen.

Ah, but some women don't want absolute equality, only when it works in their favor.

Be careful Alf, Some women may not like you saying that. You will have them on you like ugly on an ape.lol But, In all honesty, What you said is true of a lot of people. Not all,but a lot. What's good for men, should be good for women to. But, That's in a perfect world. Of which,There is no such thing.