um.... yea.... I think I'm gonna find another thread to play in...

Wow. finish growing up first?

I met one woman on each of the 3 sites I was on, here, okcupid, and pof, none of which were successful long term. In fact, I have created accounts on multiple sites, deleted them and recreated them in protest of my feelings for one woman, ultimately surrendering my heart intact to her. I'm pretty confident that the protest phase has ended.

The most notably ironic was in August, being noticed on a business trip to N. Ireland on pof. On the drive home from Dayton, I was texting her my status, looking forward to getting home, and quickly getting ready and the first thought? "Great. I'm in love with one woman, and about to go on a date with another". We met within a half hour of me getting home, still raw from the 22 hour flight and 1 hour drive home. Yea that one didn't work out well, and that's when I knew I was owned, and being on any dating site at all was an exercise in futility. For my next business trip, a few weeks later in New Zealand, I kept in touch with the right woman and now we have a direct line, and it's been getting better ever since. These dating sites served their purpose, if only to provide distraction so I don't notice my heart being stolen right out from under me.

Ultimately, I created and destroyed my pof account 4 times, okcupid account 3 times, and for several months, deactivated this account. I hope to never go through all that again.

Love matters.
Understanding what love is matters.
Here's one. Understanding that the definition of love changes with age and experience matters.

What I thought of as love 15 years ago is entirely different than how I perceive it today. I'm quite positive I will see love an entirely different way, as I'm learning from a woman 11 years younger than me who has children. As we spent our time together sharing gifts, she said, "You're in heaven, aren't you". "Yup" Just before they left, baby girl came up to me and gave me a hug, and looked at her mom and said, "Group hug!" So I picked her up and me, her mother and her group hugged. Remind you of a song? I'm still taking it all in.

Like TxsSun says, slower is better. From opposite sides of the fence, I have to say I'm grateful Me and mine haven't rushed into things, in spite of having mutual feelings. I've grown to cherish her in such a way as I've never done before, and really appreciate being a small part of her kids' lives too.

Last week the forecast was snow, which has turned into a rain forecast. I'm glad I got to celebrate Christmas 2 days early. Tonight and tomorrow is supposed to be just rain, followed by more snow Christmas night.

Wonderful day here. Still smiling from yesterday. Ironicly, the best days of Christmas here for me are yesterday and Saturday.

Mine was every bit as exciting, but no where near traumatic. In fact, today was Christmas for me with the woman I love and her daughters. Next year, I hope we get to have the same and more, Christmas Eve and Christmas day. You know, it's exhausting smiling all day long.

Owned and appreciated.

My first thought on this thread, It's actually progress for the OP over this past year, worth noticing.

Simply put, the roses, the recipient, and the feeling behind them are all much more beautiful than my mug shot.

Both sides of our species have our share of liars. All is a loaded word though.

My facebook is mostly (90%) customers and potential customers. I have some fun there, especially chasing the owner of my heart, but it's really mostly business there.

Nope. You just haven't found him yet. Stick to your ideals, appreciating the emotional intimacy along the way as it happens. I know I am, and in fact, might have missed something special if things had gone faster. I may still miss something, but what is happening now for me is something very special and cherished like no other. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to become an accidental breeder.

What I suggested actually has very little if anything at all to do with Christmas. I do, however know it to be one thing that consistently breaks me out of depression.

1) Find someone to do something kind hearted for.
2) Do it.
3) If spirit still unmoved, see #1

Praying, yes. Preying, no. I believe that's your bo's job to prey on ya, and a few other things. ;-)

You already said it. What's going on now makes me question the reality of loves past.

I really don't care about the statistics. I only care about my level of committment, her level of committment, and that I probably should be committed.

In most cases, distilled water, if you're concerned about unexpected chemical reactions. If the substance is of the diatomic variety, oops, but entertaining.