Start with saying hi. The long term part works itself out, if it's meant to. This latest one sure surprised me. Feels like a movie.

Where's that tootsie roll commercial when you need it?

That works too. I'm still smiling.

I think Patsfan is right. At least here, you aren't very approaching, or are doing that hard to get thing. "Just here for forums" "Friends"... You're pretty clear in your boundaries on this site. Most locals probably get the idea. Otherwise, I didn't see anything that screams run. "healed", yet still guarded is what comes to mind. When it's safe, you'll let your guard down.

Oh and toss that "I'm not worthy" attitude.

I didn't see anything in your profile that suggested anything that screamed run. YMMV.


IRL outings is probably a better option. Regular participations in group settings, such as sporting events with your kids or church groups, might be more fulfilling. I know for myself, I realized that when not a single site worked for me, I was already owned. In fact, earlier this year, a woman on another site suddenly became interested in me while I was overseas in Ireland, and here's the clincher... I get home, and my first thought was, "Just great. I'm in love with one woman, and off dating another." That date didn't pan out well, either by instinct or lack of interest. My next trip, a month later in New Zealand, I made sure she knew I missed her, spending nearly $800.00 in phone calls, and its been growing ever since, in spite of all of my protests. So yea, my ideas of dating anyone else went out the window, months ago and I've pretty much stopped fighting it.

Perhaps your situation is not much different? Is someone distracting you?

Notoriety is overrated.

Personally, and professionally. In my personal life, divorce helped alot. Professionally, my work speaks for itself.



First, you're talking about the kind of person who is clinically mentally ill. And you expect to reason with insanity?



Be glad you live in the same state O.J. did, in his pre-prison years. New laws will protect you because of that.




No response is the best response. Eventually... and sometimes that means a really long time, they get bored. One stalker started in June of 2005. I think it stopped about a year ago, with only a brief spattering on rare occasions, perhaps once a month or so since then. In the end, not feeding the fire, not responding, not acknowledging has always been the best answer, except in cases where threats exist.

People aren't expendable, nor are feelings. Sometimes, however, it's best to cut your losses and run when those people who aren't expendable, push those buttons they shouldn't. Setting appropriate boundaries with ex's also help, as I well learned recently, in spite of her being glad we could still be friends.

For future reference, never make a romantic statement about a current love interest in such a way as ex has never heard it before.

ex: "So how are things going with D?????"
Me: "She owns my heart"

Yea, it pretty much went downhill from there.

In the end, stats don't matter.

Uh yea. That one painted a picture.

Christmas will probably be just me, but I'm grateful to have Christmas Eve with her and hers. It's no Norman Rockwell painting, but close enough.

We have hurricane sirens every Friday at noon. At the same time, the church bell starts ringing. I've never seen a decent hurricane, and the church bell can't count worth a damn. So, yea, I got nothing.

Strange dreams? Yea, had one recently, and while you'd think this alcoholic had his share of drunk dreams, it wasn't the case, and in fact, in 6 1/2 years sober as of today, I've only had one such dream. About a week ago, it was a "skank dream", and in the dream, the one I really loved IRL, said, "Oh, you just wanted to get laid".. Yea, it was a horrible dream.

Your tooth brush suddenly smells and tastes like the toilet.

I'd ask her to call me back in a month. I know, sounds stupid, but my first thought is she got dumped and has low self-esteem as a result, so low, that she'd call me again.

If you have a towel, throw it in. It's futile.

It's a heck of a lot more decent than any dating site. I actually use it for my customers to keep up to date with my latest developments.

Accept it at face value, and be patient with her. "Things got weird" is pretty generic, but it sounds like she wants to take it a little slower so at least her half isn't so weird.

Wow. That was for real wasn't it.

Once, I prayed to God to put me where he wants me. I ended up moving from a city of 3 million in sunny Southern California to a city of 13,089 where the family tree is a bean pole. See? God does have a sense of humour. In fact, it is where I belong for all the right reasons.

Never did find much intelligent life, though. That was what I was hoping to find, but the real thing is in the heart, not the mind.