I married my husband when I was 19 and was married for 20 years until he passed away last year. When I got married I had freckles and a dimple in my chin. I used to bug me so much. Laying in bed one night he looked at me with those loving big brown eyes and said those freckles are were God kissed you because you were so precious and the dimple was a thumbprint from God that said perfect, his seal of profection. I know it sounds corny but I have carried that with me forever and ever.

Indeed, real true love and intimacy feeds the body, the mind and the soul all in one, it's all encompassing. Anything less then that isn't really love as much as it is lust.

I understand what you mean about playing into that role of pleasure giver too, cause I've been just as bad on the man's side of things as far as taking, far more then I'd like to admit even if I have my virginity (which is really about all I have).

It's very easy to get sucked into that life, when everywhere people are screaming at you to not think and just act, to not care for anyone else except yourself and your own pleasure. Messages come at us from all sides today as to how to be, it can be very overwhelming.

But if one really wishes to rise above it, they can, we are not slaves to our bodies, and we are not slaves to the world. We can do better if we put our minds to it.

Thank you, I try my best

People have got to realize this, sex does matter, but it also has a place, in a committed relationship and a marriage. It stands for something, a symbol of love and commitment, it's not something to be taken lightly. Real true sex, intimacy, goes way deeper then anything physical. It's bonding at it's deepest level, physically, emotionally and spiritually, that's what sex is really about and really means, but we've lost that, and turned something beautiful into something cheap and tawdry.

This is why so many get hurt and end up alone, why so many marriages fail, so many broken homes and families, unwanted kids (and by extension abortion), we've taken sex out of where it belongs. Whatever happened to really getting to know someone before sharing yourself with them on that level? Whatever happened to respecting our bodies, respecting ourselves?

Bottom line really is simply this, in the end the physical looks fade, it's the heart and soul of a person that lasts longest, right to the end of our lives, and as such really is what matters the most when you come down to it. If we as a society could realize this, and change our priorities as to what is important to us, I think the world would be a lot better off, and people in general would be happier.

Maybe they on some level feel that's all they deserve? I know a lot of women tend to see themselves how the world sees them, as bodies, nothing more then pleasure givers for the men, that they don't matter, that their hearts and souls don't matter as much as whether they put out or not, or how big their breasts are. Even though deep down inside they aren't happy, they go along with it, cause the culture expects this of women now, to look and act a certain way. I feel sorry for a lot of women to be honest and even some men.

There's so much pressure to act like everyone else, to treat sex as a game, as something that can be easily given away to anyone that wants it even if they don't deserve it, to use the other for love and for lust. So much pressure to have a particular look, to conform to the world's beauty standards.

To go against all that is to basically become an outcast, cause very few seem to really understand what truly matters, that they mean something, that their heart and soul matters more then anything exterior, that they are worth waiting for. It's so sad that things are so backwards like this, it's like right is wrong and wrong is right.

If they are gonna choose their player boyfriends over a real friend, then you really don't need them. You know your friends and the situation at hand so it is up to you to make that call, but it sounds like they are blaming you for the players club faults

You know something, I'm gonna be honest here, any guy that gets off on the idea of two women hurting each other in any way like that, isn't that much of a man to me. I admit I do have my struggles in this area though and want to make it right and view women properly, but women deserve better then that to be viewed as objects in that way among the other ways they are seen in this culture.

A true man would do anything he could to protect a lady from being hurt in such an occurance, not just stand back and watch while he gets off. I think it's rather degrading for women to have to put up with that type of thing.

I've never understood the fascination of drinking and getting drunk to begin with to be quite honest. Never got into it, rarely drink and if I do it's like a glass of wine at a restaurant, but that's it.

It's silly to me, you end up making a fool of yourself at the least if not worse sometimes, and end up in pain the next day. That's fun? I'll pass thanks.

As for the rest, there's plenty of ways to let your hair down and have a good time without alcohol and drama that comes with it and the club scene in general. Try and find some other ways to have fun, maybe go bowling for example if you're into that, or if you do go out to a club, make sure there's no alcohol involved.

Girls can be funny like this, they automatically seem to think other girls are competing with them in cases like this, even when they're clearly not, and can't help it if others including their guys are gonna hit on them.

Just be honest with them, and if they are real friends they'll understand. Oh and next time this happens if the guys do it again, speak up. If that wouldn't prove you're not competing nothing would.

They are just jealous cause you are hotter than they are and could take their men if you wanted too. Be proud that your a hottie

It doesn’t mater what they or anyone else thinks you can’t help how others reacted the important thing is you showed morels. Be proud because you can look your self in the mirror and know you did right.

I meant you

I get hit on constantly

I handle it accordingly

Not whine about it!!

ADDA girl, whats the ole song say?
"I am woman, hear me roar", lol

Ya know what, what happens when you're drunk, tends to be forgotten pretty easily within a day or two. Call your girlfriends, explain your point of view and you know what, they'll probably feel like jackasses. I wouldn't worry too much about it.

Next time, though, be very clear that you aren't interested in getting with the ex's, that's probably the assumption they made.

Also if your a confident women you handle it as so

Not whine about it

Be a warrior!!


Ohhh I'm tough early in the morn

Then again, they could be jealous that you got more attention then they did.

guys lose friendships over unworthy girls too.it's part of life,so ya might as well have a cat fight and turn some guys on