My parents invited my daughter and I to vacation with them and I think it's a nice, generous gesture. [But] I imagine it'll be a little trying to be cloistered together like that for any somewhat extended period of time, but I think it might hurt their feelings if I turn them down... right??. I don't want to go CRAZY or anything like that over a VACATION (albeit a vacation under the influence of their company) and all, so I had my psychiatrist order something stronger than ativan since I'M NOT COMPLETELY OVER my traumatic childhood/early adulthood. Maybe I'll make it through without an emotional breakdown. Isn't that better than rejecting their offer which is probably another way they are trying to make amends?

Emotional breakdown versus rejecting an invitation

What did your doc say?

Did ya talk to him to work it through?

OMG now what

Talking to them is always a good start.

daytime, I like your screenname. this may be part of a destructive pattern, but you can't really get rid of your parents and they are family. I should value something about that. (?)

I should not be so concerned with their feelings and reaction, rather my own well-being??

If it is really this choice - sanity wins!

Perhaps (but maybe not) this would be a chance to talk to them about why you are declining their invitation...

My mom and I are best friends yet I shy away from to much time together under one roof. In a situation like yours...try to start a discussion, not expecting it to be a one talk 'conversation' but rather a starting point toward healing old wounds.

Best to you. Take best care of you and yours first!

The man with the pad has grown quiet over the years... some things in a life cannot be changed I suppose.

WOW. It really is always something!

The relationships are reactionary. Probably, normally talking would be the right thing. I have to pretend and keep quiet.

Thank you seamac.

That starting point and what ensues may take the rest of our lives.

SO MANY rolling eyes. WHAT is the problem???

i can't do wi drama no more.

Then if I were you I wouldn't go. No excuses needed. End of story.

Personally, I'd have to be busy...
I know it sounds bad, but taking care of myself (and kiddos when they were little) has to be the priority. OMG, I hate disfunctional family situations!

It really is exhausting, draining. I'm working on it.

exactly. you are the only one that owns your feelings. if its too painful, dont!.....unless you are a glutton for punishment