I broke up with a guy recently. He was baffled. He thought things were going so well and that the relationship had had real 'potential.' I found myself biting my lip to giving any details that would answer the question 'Why?'.

I should have liked to be honest and tell him he spoke too much about his mother, that I couldn't stand those plaid shorts and that maybe he should never even wear shorts, that I lost all sexual attraction when he actually allowed me to pay his beer, that having his car towed cause he had an expired tag AND no proof of insurance made him a loser...the list goes on. Yes, he did need dental. No, he shouldn't have only replaced the lenses of those frames. Yes, he did need a shower before we got intimate. Don't brag about a cheap, bad haircut. Driving a classic doesn't automatically make you cute or interesting. The list goes ON.

I think he would benefit in a future relationship if he knew maybe some things to do or not do. Isn't that better for him than letting him scratch his head about my ending it, or do I simply have a greater sadistic side than I realize?

There is a poetry and creative writing forum here also. I support you to use it!

I guess I vaguely wondered why you projected so much about emptiness.

I follow your logic, but really, don't we all have 'reasons' we choose to be with someone, tolerate them beyond the first week rush?

I breathe just like everybody else, now back to my post..

I accuse you of loving the opportunity to post this!

That's something to ponder that I did want part of his attention, but also, is he using me?

It might have to be said I was using if I knew that I didn't really want to be with him long-term and basically had a lowish opinion of him. Come now, though, I can't be the only person who finds herself in such predicament...

relationships are weird, can be weird..

That is him being the manipulator like SK post.

Getting closer

Poor working gathering man.. must be tired of hearing woman down on man

The age thing makes it the 'prize' situation and thats just too much pressure anyhow. It is pretty funny he admitted he would be ok with me leaving but for looks. Screwy!

I think you are right, SK. I resent his attempts to manipulate.

I have to agree with you, auburngirl. I knew I'd have to deal with reason in posting this..

Yes, this would keep things from becoming personal.

That's not really what the post is about, but you'd then have to say that about all who post.

I guess I'm discussing. I should end it. It is a pathology on my part to be involved with him, but look.. I've done it anyway..

I curse my inner workings.. I am going to have to end it and walk away and not call cause I miss the way he rubs my lower back.

Yes, this was another moment he'd have been better without speaking. The worst part may be that he doesn't see himself. Perhaps I am slightly amused.. and experiencing a loss of appetite

I feel the need to be very nice to him now.