I think it is so sad they people are judged more for their looks than they are for the person that they are. Weight can't be lost , but a cold nasty heart will never change.
Shallowness is getting out of hand in todays society.
Could that be why so many people are whining and moaning about being lonely?

Thank you HB , I personally would not even want to be with a man than judges me on my looks alone.
I was married for 30 years and when my weight went up and down my husband never noticed. He loved me for me.

Now I would not settle for anything less.

What are you expecting from your date, when you find Her/Him.

I notice there are more average/below average looking guys on here than there are handsome ones. So you'd think all the birds would come flocking over to me but the exact opposite is the case. So the question is why? I'm just guessing here but do you think my striking good looks make women feel intimidated?

Yes it's personal growth, but personal growth is part of the bigger picture, a more overall process of change. And yes, everyone goes through this process his/her own way, at his/her own pace. But overall there is a difference between genders.
I don't see how ppl can keep coming up with the argument that one gender is better. Maybe think why YOU interpret it that way, cause I don't.

Judge not ... and in the same breath say it's hogwash, lol

What about this, for ppl who don't agree I'll make it a hypothetical statement:
Woman had the opportunity to grow, evolve, become more empowered, because men helped us do so. While we were/are growing through all these processes, they held the fort, made sure the world kept turning and basically kept a framework intact to keep things stable and going, while we were experimenting, learning, sometimes kicking up dirt to find out what was underneath and so on.
If men hadn't done that, our growth, change, would not have been possible.
Meaning men supported women, it's teamwork. This is mostly not a conscious process, it seemed to just happen, but it's part of this bigger process.
Now roles are (about to) reverse, meaning men will have the opportunity to grow, evolve etc. while we women support them, hold the fort, provide a framework for them to learn.
As we've already come far, we are able to better support them, so men might go through their change much faster than we did.
It's NOT to do with better, superior, not at all. If you can see the bigger picture, it's just a wonderful process all of mankind is going through and men help women and vice versa.
If both genders would have entered this process simultaneously, this would have let to utter chaos and neither would have had a proper opportunity to grow and evolve.

As women were in an inferior position when this process took off, it wouldn't have been feasible, if at all possible, to have men be the first to change.
In the end it doesn't matter which gender was first or last, it's NOT a competition! It is about evolution of mankind and the best possible way to achieve this.
It's quite patriarchal (which is the old way that we've been brainwashed with for over a thousand years) to think one gender is better, that's exactly the way of thinking we need to dump.

Why is love so difficult to find,but easy to say?!

We are going to have to call you {{{{missrighttiming}}}

"Timing is everything" (I can see in your future)

So missright is sitting at the sox game for
the World series, game 7 a man sitting
close by struck up a conversation,saying
isn't it strange that one of the best seats
in the house is empty.
misswright explained that's where my husband has sat for the last 35 good years but has recently past.
well the man passes on his condolences but has to
ask "it's a shame that you couldn't have brought a friend or a family member. misswrite replies, " well normally I do but they're all a the funeral.

Yes timing is everything! The sox won by the way

Try Thinkaholics anonymous..
I try to think as little as possible

wow..but u dont wear underwear ?