I wish my heart was cold. And then I could go about my day not caring or worrying. Maybe then I could sleep. Seems so many are that way anymore. They go about their day using and abusing leaving behind broken pieces for someone else to clean up and they don't miss a wink of sleep either.

Try to focus on the good people who build others up, if you only focus on the bad in life, you'll stay depressed.

You should be glad your heart is warm and not cold because you will not do any of those things you listed. Stay real, your a good person, feelings make you human, we are all Gods childeren!

Yes, so do I, but that's not the way it is meant to be, we are meant to love and have a partner, so much pain and suffering, but, if you have never experienced it before, you cannot grow, maybe a little clinical, but true. Most of all, don't give up as it will be all worth it in the end.

Don't let anyone destroy that warm heart that you have? Thats what makes you the person you are and you'll be happier in life than some1 who goes through life cold-hearted and uncaring towards others. You're a nice lassie Calli, don't become 1 of those bitter and twisted people who only torture theirselves in the long run. Chin up and take care, ok?

Thanks for all the encouraging words and caring! Its just what I was needing.

I totally understand how you feel right now, but as the others have said not everyone is cold hearted. Just concentrate on the people who do have a warm and tender heart like you. Life is full of them and the world is full of limitless possibilities to encounter them every day. We just have to keep our eyes open and search for them at times, as they cross our path in life. Keep a smile on your face, joy in your heart, and you eyes wide open!

Thank you!

I think you need to be around people who give off good vibes. It's too easy to get sucked into a murky world. People are too easily influenced by everything that's bad for us. I see it all around me. But as long as you know who you are, and what you want from life, I think that is a good place to start.

I was discussing this with a "friend" the other day. He is shut off emotionally because of a few b**ches from his past. I feel like if I let my past dictate my future I could miss out on a lot of great people and experiences. I am going through a lot (A LOT) right now, but I don't let people see me upset. I try to joke and be happy because if I don't I might completely lose it. Don't ever let others determine who you are going to be and what you will do, it may hurt, but it's better to feel and experience than to be numb and cold. JMHO

I guess I was just thinking in general people are becoming cold hearted and uncaring. Specifically tho it stems from a father breaking a promise to his children and I'm the one holding them when they cry. Which will always be my honor! They are my world. I'd just don't know how someone can be so cold to their own babies?

A lot of guys do that. I'm sorry that happened to you.

I nkow the feeling, I used to have that issue myself not so long ago, I was so in love with this guy, it ended up him breaking my heart and then I fell in love again and he did the same thing.

For a while it made me wonder if love was really something to persuit, but at the end of the day I think it is worth fighting for! Even if only for a little while you can be in the presence of that one person you know you can trust and love indefinitely.

That is worth all the heartache and struggle in my opinion.

All I am saying to you and everyone else who has had their hearts broken so many times: DONT GIVE UP! THEY ARE OUT THERE SOMEWHERE!

Again I wrote a small little essay while I am on the search myself. But I believe there is someone out there who I can be myself with and share the fun stuff with, that thought makes it all worth it :)

I nkow the feeling, I used to have that issue myself not so long ago, I was so in love with this guy, it ended up him breaking my heart and then I fell in love again and he did the same thing.

For a while it made me wonder if love was really something to persuit, but at the end of the day I think it is worth fighting for! Even if only for a little while you can be in the presence of that one person you know you can trust and love indefinitely.

That is worth all the heartache and struggle in my opinion.

All I am saying to you and everyone else who has had their hearts broken so many times: DONT GIVE UP! THEY ARE OUT THERE SOMEWHERE!

Again I wrote a small little essay while I am on the search myself. But I believe there is someone out there who I can be myself with and share the fun stuff with, that thought makes it all worth it :)

U write a lot

No need to have a cold heart, just have to not sweat the little stuff and have a short memory and don't think to much about the past and future, learn to live in the present

My motto in life (who cares). That doesn't apply to everything in life but it works for me.

Good advice.

It's just math. Maybe it used to be 50% and now it's 70%. It doesn't matter. Associate with the shrinking group and try to stay focused.

you do too with your 415 posts :P But I do like to express myself with a lot of words, and hopefully in proper grammar.

In any case, you shouldn't be sad, it only makes you stronger and more educated, all these experiences will teach you how to spot a faker and someone who is actually true.

so, do nto give up! :D

I will tell you from personal advice that once you become cold; there is no going back as that is where I am in life. I had this reading done about me and it is true. "The underlying cause of your problem is an inner persona which has closed off its feelings. You have curled up like a hedgehog, built a wall around your feelings ("a shell"), and now your reactions are cold and distant. The task is to take responsibility for your hardness instead of attributing it to the world." Its too late for me to change but my advice is be careful of the path you choose.