Maybe he is holding his breath?

Oh I agree totally with what you just said. There are two sides to the women's story. I was just stating how the guys see it. SEX. Like you said, the guy ain't turning it down.

The sad truth is that the bars and clubs are crawling with older women who are "damaged goods". They have issues that they are not dealing with. They escape by filling their existence with something. The need to feel wanted is a very powerful motivator. The young guys are just taking advantage of a given opportunity.

Sorry I kind of went and started ranting

I'm a believer in that we create our own realities. There is no such thing as things happen to those who don't deserve it. We choose what happens to us even though we are not consious of it. But if you took the time to see, you would notice.

We are 100 percent responsible for everything that happens to us..check out the "law of attraction" I see this happening everyday. "Life is what you make it" isn't just a saying..

[Ducks] I think I may have just opened up a can of worms

It's not about admitting that what you want is unattainable, it's about finding out whether what (you think) you want is the right thing for you. Quite often you find that you were aiming for the wrong thing, but it takes time to see and understand this.
For instance, I started my own company, web-shop, in 2006. I had big plans, wanted to make my living out of it, grow big. I even started wholesaling, by popular demand. But after a real good start, sales didn't go up anymore and eventually started to dip, seriously dip. In the end I had to quit.
I didn't get it, I was doing what I wanted to do, the absolute right thing for me, putting in time, energy and love. So why the h*** didn't it work out??
Looking back I now see that my own company wasn't really the right thing for me at all, even though at the time I was convinced it was. So I'm glad it went hay-wire, even though it upset me at the time.

Often what we are trying to get, achieve, are merely lessons in life and not the real purpose, not the right thing for us.
This also goes for relationships (both friendships and partner relationships). There was a reason why you got together and a reason why you split up. There's a lesson in there, once you've learnt the lesson, you can move on. That way you get closer to your real life's 'goal'.

So yes, you should keep the faith, which doesn't mean you shouldn't be realistic! You gotta do/be both.
Sometimes we're also looking for something too specific. For instance wish for the right partner and envision how he/she should be or look or where he/she should live. That way you could be asking/wishing for someone who's not the right one for you at all! So you will keep meeting the 'wrong' people.
You can have faith you will one day win the lottery and get rich. But maybe you need to work (your *** off) to get rich and that one really good job is right there in front of you! You just fail to see it as you're focused on something else (the wrong thing).

I've been frustrated about not being able to find a job. Angry even. Because of that anger and frustration I failed to realize that I needed time off. To learn and do things I wouldn't have been able to do if I'd had a job.
Now I'm more relaxed, let go of those negative feelings and enjoy, use this time off to my benefit.

In a way it's about the Law of Attraction: if you give up, become negative, feel let down etc., you won't attract positive things either.
Letting go (of insecurity, fear etc.) is one of the most difficult things for us humans to do ... I mention the letting go, cos if you feel let down by fate, the Cosmos, you didn't really truly have faith. Then you've latched on to something, and you gotta let go of that something.

Yeah, i understand it all!

Unfortunatley im still looking for the answers myself

Absolutely, in every aspect of life there comes a point of surrender....It's imperative to understand that surrender does not always mean failure, sometimes it means success and winning!....Like the song says, "You've got to know when to hold em, know when to fold em....Knowing is where faith comes in...Faith in yourself, faith in god, doesn't really matter....

I once used to purge, whenever I broke up with someone. The hurt of feeling heartbroken made me feel slightly angry, so I had this secret urge to make myself feel sick, to take my mind off the hurt. Because when you're physically unwell, you forget anything that may affect you mentally, as long as you're in enough pain, or feel quite pukey. I couldn't find a good enough reason to convince me to stop, until one morning, I got one of the harshest stomach pains I've never felt before. This pain was quite bad. I thought my binge eating was the cause. My dr warned me that if I don't stop, I coukd end up damaging my colon/bowel. He told me why there's a reason we get full, and should stop when we feel full. It was obviously pretty serious, so I knew it was bad. I had to snap out of it. I discovered comedy, and that's a much better healer, and probably a HEALTHIER one, too :)

I envy people with faith.

Its not that im not a believer in a higher purpose. Too many bad things happen too often to people who dont deserve it(me included recently). The people who dont deserve it are lavished with good fortune.

The rich get rich the poor get poorer.

People killing each other the world over. Chemical attacks, genocide, facisim, racisim, bigotry. People using god as an excuse to do all the afore mentioned.......im sure if god exists, this wasnt his grand plan.

I have had to much happen to me, and seen to much crappy stuff (as im sure other people have) to believe it anymore. Im sure there are people who will argue that god leaves us to our own devices, to choose our own path. Why then did he speak to people at the time of Jesus, but not now, when all the worlds in such a bad place?

Faiths just not a luxury my mind allows me to have, although I realy wish it was!!

Just want to say at this point I respect everyones beliefs, and all the above is just me personaly. If anyone can change my mind about it all, Id be the happiest guy alive

WOW good topic. I will say this, I met someone 9000 miles away from me in New Zealand and he came here and I went there. We talked for over a year before meeting but when we met, we both knew it was right. When I left New Zealand, I had a ring on my finger to marry my Kiwi Man.
I guess when you know enough is enough is...when it hurts both people. Love should never hurt and being that far apart and in different countries, it was impossible to be together. This just actually happened right after the 911 attacks, so that made things even harder.
He was so confused and so hurt that we couldn't be together..he told his Mum not to write me anymore. We kept in contact for years, but then she said he asked her to stop because his heart was breaking. I told her that I understood and would always think of her and pray for her. It was just a sad situation all the way around.
I actually had a chance to move there for my nursing and the rewards of moving there were wonderful. I didn't do it because I was afraid of running into him and maybe he had married. New Zealand is a beautiful country and I would have loved to move there and did my nursing BUT I would have risked seeing him.
I think enough is enough when you know people are getting hurt from a love that just can not happen!!! Do I regret going to New Zealand..NO but I do regret that I didn't think things out before I went and he came here!
BUT ALL HEARTS MEND AND WE MOVE ON!!!

Plenty of times.
With bad relationships, dead end jobs, my own self defeating attitudes.

Sometimes, the only way to win is to surrender.

Surrender the path and take another.

Never give up there, Darlin'! You don't come across as a quitter.

Will you propose marriage to a woman you never actually see face-to-face?

It's around 11pm and I left to go get McDonald's is that bad?

What kind of emails do you send to people on here?

What kind do you expect from others?

In those first few emails, what makes you keep chatting?