So if you have many aquaintances, and they happen to have very attractive friends , in their friends list, how would you approach them ? Directly or Indirectly.
Personally, I have asked my friend if she would introduce me to her very attractive girlfriend....and the answer has always been ....maybe later. Which I am now taking as a No...so can I go ahead and take the direct approach!!!
What if any is a possible solution ???

Humm if you don't take the approach no one is going to take it for you.. Man up and hit her up...

You will never know till ya try~~

I would forget about it.

I think you were polite in asking your acquaintance, but I agree with your assessment of the "maybe later" meaning "no".
I would just go for it and let the subject of your intentions decide.
Good luck! And, if there is an update let me know (please and thank you!)

Ha ha! ....you will know the result, of the direct approach, when you dont see me having fun on these forums !!!

So you are telling me that, even strange women prefer the direct approach......hmmmm! perhaps I will take this sage advice and give it a shot!!!

Coming from you , that is expected!!
I often think , thats what I should do.....but then I would have to give up the fun and games I am addicted to....so, yeah , sorry , no can do !!!

I would say that if your friend doesn't want to introduce you to her "attractive" friends, she probably feels that the "fun and games" you are "addicted to", may make you a bit unworthy of her friends companionship.

Humm one never knows maybe the friend he is talking about has a thing for him, and never told him and does not want him to hook up with one of her friends..

Honestly that is no ones choice to make but his and the one he may be interested in..

As they say one never knows till they ask...

not taking sides here folks.. lol but after reading everyone's answers.. this straight forward one seems to me to be the best approach.. go for it.. asking a friend for an intro is commendable.. but iffy if that friend is also a female and you're a guy..

as my dad (a very wise man) used to say.. "ya never know till ya ask.. what's the worst they cud say.. no?"

both of these IMO are valid points.. just sayin lol

Lol...!! Okay, point taken.


Btw, I personally appreciate the direct approach similar to what Zee's Dad said, I feel the same away. If someone likes me they should speak to me about it and I am the same way once I've tested the waters a little. I'm hoping that Keanu will get back to me in the near future 🤭🤭

Exactly what I was thinking too!
There's a reason that your friend said "maybe later".
And I don't know you but from what you keep telling over the years is that you hop from one woman to the next and the next and the next and... and...
No judgement. Your life, your choice.
But I wouldn't want to introduce someone like that to a friend of mine either. Sod that! That's basically setting my friend up for disaster. I'd never do that to my friend since I care about my friends.

Aside from that, or because of that reasoning, you might PO your friend when you do approach this person regardless. Is that worth it for you? Maybe find another 'game' and 'addiction' to entertain yourself with?

Not saying this to P you O, just answering your question and being honest.

Not saying this to P you O, just answering your question and being honest.



Well thanks all for the great advice and observations. So I went with TG and Zee's advice and directly approached this very attractive , to me , friend, of a friend and asked her over to watch this crucial hockey game last night. Yeah, I cheated a bit...cause I already knew she was a big hockey fan. First thing she said blew my mind....my friend thinks you have a crush on her....and I was No Way, I only wanted to get to you , but she was putting of the intros... Well lucky you approached me directly, you would have waited forever...and I am happy you asked me to watch hockey with you.!!1
So yeah , my problem is solved....hopping from one woman to another is called searching for Mrs Right for me.... but everyone is entitled to their own opinions...fun and games definetely ...coming up...starting with Game 1 ....Canes' VS Knights...

Glad going for it worked out for ya Slimbo.. if ya play yer cards right.. she cud be a keeper.. good luck

Humm guess the advice to go for it worked...

To me regardless if you think someone is not right for one of your friends, why would you make that choice for them and not let them make their own choice..

Regardless one never knows till they take that first step..

Sounds like it all worked out for now Slim.. happy for you never know it may develop into a Relationship or just a good friendship.. Only time will tell..

Funny for if one of my friends had refused to let someone they knew when I would drop by so they could actually met me we would have never had a 13 year Relationship.. Oh and her bf was against us meeting.. go figure~~~ and it was one of his friends..

I am a bit late to comment, but pleased to hear all has gone well. I hope this does not mean you will be leaving Mingle2 now you are dating. I would certainly miss your postings here in the Forums, your many topics and ideas put forward, but I suppose this is what happens.

I would like to echo what Duttoneer has said.

Duttoneer & Merry y'all don't have to worry his azz ain't going no where...

Even if all works out great he will still show up once in a while .. Or well he don't want me to come to Canada to straight his azz out.. I mean there are a few I could visit while there hehehe

TG in her infinite wisdom is about half right ...
I already had that dicussion with her....as she to is on Match.com( three years and counting))and we decided , together, that in case we decide to go exclusive, we would pause our accounts, but still keep the friends we made online , and limit the time we spend on dating sites...and come only for the Forums....something we already actually do!!1
TG and anyone else who wants to straighten my azz out , are always welcome to come and do so ...
So yeah! let the fun and games begin...and not in the way soime on here take my flippant manner to mean !!1