My very young friend just told me , that his girlfriend of two years got pregnant from another guy ! And wanted to know what I think about this situation .
Apparently his peers told him to be a real man and stand by her !!!!
Without hesitation , I told him , if it was me , I would be outta there like yesterday. I mean she cheated in the first place , right there the trust was broken . And that's the main reason I would leave . And I have no doubt that I am a real man .
Wondering if there was any other piece of advice , I could still share with the young fella ???

So let me see if I got this right...

First of all she was with your friend, and while she was with him she cheated. Then found out she was pregnant. If I have this right...

Then how does she know who the baby belongs too???

Ya see I have been through this same story with my son and his first gf.. She cheated on him caused a big issue they were living with me.. Found out she was pregnant about 2 months later.. He stayed with her I requested that a DNA Test would be run asap after the baby was born and I would pay for it,, It is the same advice I would give him... Just because she says it is his does not mean it is.

With my son it was 99.9% my grand baby..I was happy but I had peace of mind in the end..and so did my son..

But shortly after all that, one of his friends came and told me the girl he had been with said he was a dad to a 6 month old.. I asked him to please get a DNA Test he did found out the kid was not his and the one that was the dad did not want to have anything to do with her or the baby.. My son's friend decided to stay with her and they had 3 more kids together..

I would say get the test and then go from there once the baby is born.. If one walks away it will always be in the back of his mind was the baby his...

Depends on if he is an Adult and how he feels about the Young Woman. It is his decision. He may learn by his mistakes if he makes one. Many Men has raised other Men's children.

Many OLD Men still make mistakes.

Dump her and don't look back.

It appears everyone agrees it is not your
friend's child.

Only one way for that certainty..they have
not slept together.

That being the case, the choice is not your
friend's but rather the girlfriend's.

And she made the choice.
Seems simple.

This is for men to answer.

I would tell your friend to move on and date women closer to his own age. I'm assuming he's near your age and dating someone much younger? If not I'd need some more context.

I find it hard to believe all his male peers told him to "be a man and stand by her". If true, it confirms how utterly weak and pathetic men have become. I refuse to believe it....just for my own sanity.

A question I would ask your young friend is, how would he feel, and what would he do now that he discovered that she had cheated on him, maybe seeing the other guy regularly behind his back. My thoughts are, he has been happy with his girlfriend for 2 years, clearly he has feelings for her, but could he forgive her and live with the fact she had been unfaithful, broken his trust. This would be the key question in my opinion. If he felt he would never be able to forgive her, then better to break up with her and move on.

I assume because you are asking the question here, that for whatever the reason she wants to stay with your friend and not the father of the child. I must agree with others regarding a DNA test because he should know with certainty the parentage, even though this may or may not have an influence on any decision he makes. The baby when born is the innocent here, and many men and women marry partners whom have children born out of previous relationships, and they take them as their own. I think it comes down to whether he can forgive her infidelity or not, how much he loves her, and only he knows that.

Being in a relationship and cheating on your partner means to me, there is something wrong in that relationship ... not even talking about getting pregnant by someone else. It is all about trust, which was broken and won't be restored.

Your mate should show that girl the door and move on.

Girlfriend is not your Wife. You can not cheat on a girlfriend because that is not a Real commitment like engagement or marriage. Sex is not a commitment to anyone.

Thanks all for the advice , which I have passed on in my own words .... it's up to him to decide ...
Now let me just go cheat on my girlfriend who , I like very much ..... because that's not really cheating , as we are not engaged or married or any thing .... wow !!!if only I had known this earlier ....

Now we find out, and all those wasted times staying true and faithful to girlfriends, makes me wonder what they were up to.

Now you know! It's just Sex .

If only I could find a playmate who will not snitch to my girlfriend .... perhaps we can conquer the world huh !!!

Once a cheat,
always a cheat.

I gather that having sex with your girlfriend is not really a commitment ..... hmm looks like it's time to change my modus operandi.... hope she don't call me a cheat .
As once a cheat is always a cheat !!!!

I was with my boyfriend for almost 33 years, I thought it was a relationship. I learn a lot here. Now how am I going to tell the children it was only some sex all 4 times.

Personally, I would leave. Loyalty and trust are everything to me. You know this is a decision only he can make as it impacts his future.

As many members already said, loyalty and trust is everything, once the trust is broken, it's gone forever....

As far as the pregnancy is concerned, he should get a paternity/dna test, whoever the father is he will have to pay child maintenance costs if they don't live together...

No child asks to be brought in to the world, so each biological parent must play their part, regardless of the relationship breakdown... That's where the stepping up to the plate comes in...

Naughty