i see one of the biggest problems a couple has is accepting there

partners otherness......???????...ideas out there?????....

That's why my marriage broke down. It didn't go both ways

'Opposites attract' is why Paul Hogan (Crocodile Dundee) hooked up
with his co-star Linda and divorced his wife of decades.

Now after he divorced HER, he said 'opposites attract but sometimes
you are just opposites.'

Sadly, perhaps those quirks thought so endearing to begin with become to be not so. Long lasting relationships are usually formed by those that have been dating for at least a year, and when they know each other very well.

Couldn't agree more! And also giving the other one both mental and physical space!

Otherness??

I hear you.

Yes, I think you're right. Especially when we get older and are more resolute about what we want/don't want, and are more set in our ways.

Exactly my sentiments...
I have to accept that all my crushes are gonna be just that

Naw, but die happy knowing you were loved Spooky.

yup ... have to accept the inevitable.... and happy about it to .....

Hmm, younger than you, but it is what it is. My consience is all good. I have made many mistakes, but when my anger dissipates, I find nothing is worth my faith being compromised. Forgiveness is easy peasy.
Possibly being too deep, but I am what I am.
Having said that...
Forgiveness does not mean forgetting disrespect....

Challenge is we are expected to follow this dating book. All expected to fit in this "relationship dogma". Other than that some of us are misfits.

Has me confused a bit too...

If you mean a partner being different or needing different things...

You of course have to choose the right partner that is a match. Aside from that I think being able to deal with this is mostly a matter of self-confidence and self-esteem.
Many people need a partner to be and do exactly as what they feel good with, so according to their plans and expectations. If not, they feel unsafe.
Apart from that it's a matter of healthy communication. Telling your partner what you need and also being able to listen to what your partner needs and not taking that personally. This too requires a healthy dose of self-confidence.

During my last relationship I actually found it easier because I myself have grown so much. I know what I need in order to be happy, which is a lot of personal freedom. I couldn't handle that when younger, now I can.