If a man is too scared to get married again, then maybe it's better he just does not get involved at all.
It's time men learn to see outside of their own ego box. It's quite likely my ex husband feels he got ripped off, but we owned everything together, I also put my time, money and everything in it. I too lost that. But men -including him- get so caught up in feeling sorry for themselves that they don't even think for one second the woman got hurt too and lost out as well.
Like me, I didn't get married and co-owner of a house, mother of 2 kids, with a man with the idea of "Oh, lets get a divorce now! That'll be fun!"
I had intended to stay with him happily EVER after.
I moved on, healed, he has been in a new relationship for longer than we were married, yet he still holds a grudge.

Thank goodness there are men that are different. And some don't want marriage anymore until they meet the right one. I've seen that happen a few times.

Pffffttttt

This is the second and last comment I will ever direct towards you. I disagree with pretty much everything I've seen you post. Granted that's not much because I ain't paying attention to you. If I paid attention I probably wouldn't like you at all. You strike me as a holy roller even if you aren't one. I'm not big on hypocrites. Understand?

A few years ago, I was talking with a guy who I didn't know very well. He told me that he had been living with a woman for about 25 years. They split up. They still had to go through all the paper work of a divorce, even though they never got married.

Yup. Common law marriages are a legal thing in Idaho if created before 1996.

This wasn't in Idaho.

Alabama
Colorado
District of Columbia
Georgia (if created prior to 1997)
Idaho (if created before 1996)
Iowa
Kansas
Montana
New Hampshire (for inheritance purposes only)
Ohio (if created prior to October 1991)
Oklahoma
Pennsylvania (if created before September 2003)
Rhode Island
South Carolina
Texas
Utah

Well, this guy who was talking to me said the states he lived in - Oklahoma, California, and North Dakota, Then in Idaho.

I don't know, if the law has changed.
But, at a time in the not too distant past,
if a man an woman, checked into a Texas motel/hotel together
as Mr. and Mrs.,. they were... Under common law.

Depends on the country/state and laws.

In general I think it kinda depends on the mindset of the people.

If the people in the relationship have beliefs like: "F the government. F the bureaucracy! F the lawyers! We're not having kids, we're not breeders! I don't need a piece of paper to define my relationships."

Then it could be good.

Otherwise, I don't think it's that good of an idea.
Friends with benefits, roommates with benefits.
Not good for long term relationships for people unless their lives are ruled by fear.
And if so, then they have bigger problems than living arrangements.

Seriously???
Weird chit, haha. I guess you have a lot of common law (whatever that is) wed people who are married to someone else.

instead of getting married and divorced it is better to be in living relation . if everything goes well then can go for marriage

The public doesn't mind people living together without being married , providing they don't overdo it.

It's illegal for couples of a particular religion to live together without getting married where I'm from

Living together Apart ... works wonders for me .... cuts the tax bills in half and doubles the enjoyment... not to mention stress free freedom to all .... oops meant to both !!!

I think a lot of couples live together to save money. I don't see that as a good reason to live together.

I have to remember that, it's a cheap way to tie the knot, don't even need paperwork - LOL

But how is that handled if people check in that way with different partners all the time, is that considered polygamy then?!

If you do decide to allow someone to move in to your home to live together, it may not be easy to have them leave if the relationship does not work out, even if it is your home. Maybe think about something like a prenup before living together that protects each others interests in the event of a failed relationship, because in many ways you are entering in to a marriage.

Here I want to highlight a small point .
L T C is good , no matter what people say , but the Society in which they live will not give a Tag mark of Mr & Mrs until they are really married .

Thank you Duttoneer for your Valued comments on This.

I have enough room for my gf to live with me and in some ways it might be good but....

Having time apart, in our own domain, makes our relationship stronger.

She comes over on weekends and holidays and spends the night. Its wonderful.

Sometimes when she is really missing me during the week she pops in for a few hours.
Sometimes when I'm missing her during the week I give her a call and she comes over for a few hours.

During the week, we talk on the phone for about a half hour per day but not everyday.
We save our conversations for the weekends.
We always have a smile for one another.

Unlike some people, we don't experience irritations in each other. Our time apart refreshes our relationship and our time together has more meaning.

I've had a few live-in girlfriends in my past. After the newness wore off we started to focus on personal habits which started to irritate us and our relationship lost its focus.

Being adults, we both realize we don't need to be joined at the hip. Wisdom and maturity allows us to trust one another while we are apart.
We have no need to police each other or watch each other's every move.

I accept her as she is and she accepts me as I am.
We both know if our feelings change for each other we will honestly and tactfully end our relationship by mutual agreement.

Where living together goes bad is when one or both try to control the other to remake that person into someone they are not. This causes animosity and trust is affected. Jealosy develops and things get worse till one no longer wants to be with the other. One can feel trapped by the other.

Who Wants a relationship like that?

I'm not saying all live-in relationships are bad.
What I'm saying is many live-in relationships are created without wisom and maturity. They require trust and dedication which some people cannot give.
They enter into a situation and find they made the wrong choice but do not know how to fix it. The trap causes a downward spiral in a once strong relationship until it gets to the point neither person wants anything to do with the other.

Many marriages suffer from the same downward spiral. Some marriages last a lifetime in contentment.

Just like marriage, living together requires it be done for the right reasons. If you do it so you can have sex every night, you are probably going to develop problems. If you are full of jealosy, you are probably going to develop problems.

When you try to change someone to be the person you want them to be, you kill the person they are which is what attracted you to them in the first place.