thanks Tom .... you echo my feelings and assertions very eloquently.. Living together Apart ... works great!!!

Let the person decide what & how they want things to go

If what we do is easier for us -but messes up the world overall -it's not good.

People don't get that.

You are perfectly right . Many expenses can be saved in this process of L T C . that's why people opt for this kinda Option .

The world has changed a lot and new changes might take place in the coming years . I am not telling you its going to be easy . I am telling you its going to be worth it.

Worth what?

We are nearing 8 billion people alive on the planet.

Potatoes are basically the same thing they were 40 years ago but the price has quadrupled.
You could buy 4 cars for what you pay for one now.

Value is declining as the population grows.

Looking from a different angle, competency is also being negatively effected. Quality of service is terrible as more people are forced to take jobs they really don't want to do.

Society is trending towards isolationism. There's very little unity in communities, neighborhoods and families. Electronic devices take the place of human interaction.
The media tells people what to buy, what to eat and how to think. Tells us how to raise our families and what it means to be a citizen.

More people are living together because its easier to get sex and companionship that way. Dedication and commitment towards another requires too much focus and more people want that focus on themselves and their own satisfaction.

70 Years ago getting married didn't have to make sense. People married because they wanted to spend their lives with someone they love.
Now, marriage must make some sense or it isn't done. A money or power play based on self-interest.

Its only going to get worse, not better in coming years. There's still more people being born than dying. World population continues to rise. Isolationism continues to increase. Unity continues to decline.

How is any of this ...worth it?

I relate, living together I've experienced before is good. If there is a second chance i will not do it again.

In Living together it isn't all about arguments that some people make it out to be . Its All about honesty, understanding and learning to care about each other . I dont know from where did the spark come out in your relationship , It could have been solved , Feeling bad to hear that, Try and you may succeed . Give it a second Chance.

I think the most important thing to try to remember is that each and every relationship is different.
As time marches on, we change too. Our values change and our tolerances change.

What Worked in the past with a specific person is unique to those circumstances.
Consequently, what Didn't Work in the past with a specific person is also unique to those circumstances.

If you are currently in a living with relationship with someone and its not working, it may be prudent to examine the unique circumstances of that arrangement to see what has changed. Since relationships are at least two people, consideration must also be given to the other person in that relationship. Find out what changed, for them, which changed the relationship.

Finally, its wise to remember that what worked or didn't work in the past or what worked or didn't work right now has little to do with what will or won't work in the future...because everything changes with time. Including the main reason why living together seems like a good idea.

Living life changes us all.
As we change, we either become more of the person which attracted them to you or we become less of the person which attracted them to you. Also vice-versa. We either become more attractive to them or less attractive to them and looks has little to do with it.
Anyone who claims they never change is deluded.

Living with somebody is about sharing and respecting each other's space. Clean up after yourself. And look for ways to enjoy shared responsibilities.

hlo