just wanted to say hi

i got asked if i would consider a promotion. (i gotta interview for it still). Still worried cause i am not sure what will be up next for me and im lonely

Marie...I take it the appraiser was from the bank. If he said it looks good to go, then maybe you will get the refinance. I will say prayers for you.

Hey Jeff...good news about being considered for a promotion!

..Wow, thought I lost this post..........

The appraiser was a contractor sent by the bank. Sure hope it goes the way he said it "should." Started off the day with a surprise - won a penguin Christmas decoration in a drawing here at work today. Keeping my fingers crossed that this is a good sign. The bank wanted his appraisal report by tomorrow so hope to hear for sure then. Just hard to think about much else, so much riding on this refinance. Will put the house in my name (not my parents) and I can then fix a few things and put it on the market this spring. But really need the money right now, so am praying it goes through.

Thanks for your support and prayers. I feel selfish taking up this space here, but am hoping it is good news for a change.

You guys hang in there, will be on tonight, need to get off here before I get caught - am at work. Take care. Have a good day.

Marie...never feel selfish for taking up space. Your concerns are our concerns. This is very important to you and people here care about that. Your help to me and others here has been a blessing!!

tried to hide from you Wildchic, but you found us!! just kidding. Hope you are well today.

I have stopped taking my medication. Lexapro is just one of the dozens that haven't worked...just hope the withdrawl symptoms won't be bad. I am going to try something else after the new year. I already have a splitting headache though....

Take care all!!

wow, kinda scred me too. I jsut popped in adn saw that we had 1000 posts!!!!!! Jeepers, that's way more than a lot of other topics. Can't they see the need to start a perm topic?

I have asked until I'm blue in the face. they just don't want to hear from me. They don't even answer. Not one.

((((((((((Marie))))))))))))) You have every right to vent here. Thats what thisis for and there are tons of people who you have supported. Don't you think it is time it is your turn. I will keep you in prayer. You ARE NOT being selfish.

I know what you mean cuz I feel the same way most of the time. I was in a very bad way a few days ago and deactivated cuz I had nothing good to say in any of the forums.

You spew as much as you want to dear! You deserve it so much and we care so much!

MB I hope the weaning off doesn't have withdrawl. I had to go thru that with zoloft. Getting used to it was terrible, but weaning off was so much worse. I hope that doesn't happen to you.

Wild, glad we found our thread

Jeff.......so glad to hear you are doing better and just know that if you get this you are more than capable of doing it.!!!

I feel lost without school. It has be cold cold cold and raining for the last few days. Depressing but we so need the rain here right now. I wanted to clean my house and even tried yesterday, but couldn't get pass3ed 1/2 the front room. Sighhhhhh

I have the grumpies, and gloomies, and lonelies......I don't watch tv and the only warm place in my house is under my electric blanket. Not conducive to house keeping.

I have amde a friend, and he took me out to breakfast this morning. He is very sweet and we have agreed that we are just friends and that we are like sis & bro. We are both lonely people.

He is in the same boat as us and it is nice to have someone to talk to once in a while.

Ok, enough of my prattling.....hugs

Karen

Ken, don't stop the Lexapro cold turkey, should taper it down over a couple of weeks, that way should avoid the withdrawal and headache. I have struck out with most meds, had side effects from most or they just plain didn't work for me. The one I found that did work was Serzone, was on and off it for about 5 years, actually helped me sleep at night and feel better during the day, etc., but they took it off the market this past year, so so much for that one. I am on dexedrine for ADD and Topamax for migraines (both have the side effect of appetite suppression - which is the real reason I am taking them). Have lost weight but much more to go, but hit the wall about a year ago and bouncing around now with 5-10 pounds, lose it and gain it, back and forth driving me nuts.

Thanks for the support Ken, you are great, I so appreciate it, and all the support I get from everyone else here. Seriously though, taper the Lexapro, check with your doc, but will be easier on you and your body.

I am also stressing that my daughter found out she has endometrial cancer last week, but she is dragging her heels on the rest of the testing. I want to grab her by the throat and get her in there, ignoring it won't make it go away, and it, of course, needs to be dealt with as soon as possible. I haven't said anything in public about this and hope she doesn't see this, but oh well, it is also one of the reasons I have been losing control this past couple of weeks, dealing with the stress of the house refinance, her new diagnosis of cancer and being resistant to follow-through, issues with my dad in the nursing home, and finances just suck (as normal).

Darn, when I vent, I guess I vent. Take care, and check with your doc about tapering rather than cold turkey. Especially over the holidays, is depressing enough without going off your antidepressant and dealing with withdrawal. Your friends here (and I) care about you too, as we do everyone in this thread and hope you will be okay with your going off the med. Take care. Back to work.

wow marie .i'm sure the refinance will go thru and prayers for you and your daughter.she may just be scared and trying to digest this information..hope she comes to her senses!!
karen sorry your having a rough time but its cool you found a friend to talk to.i cant get motivated to clean either..could it be cause i do it for a living?hmmmmmmm
Ken never stop a antidepressant cold turkey..wean yourself off slowly and consult with your DR..love you all!!

hey guys.............had ROUGH day the other day...........i talked to my ex, and he wants me back, he's moving closer too..............i don't want him back...........he's quit drinking tho, thank god.........WHAT DO I DO???????????

I would attend an Alanon meeting, Amber. Alanon has some very good answers for you. But that is just me. I hope he has a sponsor. I am sure you are happy for his sobriety but his sobriety should come first. I would encourage him to go to meetings but discourage him from seeing you. He could try to use you for an enabler. Just be blunt with him and tell him you don't want him around. That way he will have to depend on the group and not you.

This sounds weird, but the faster I get off a med, the better it is for me. I have done cold turkey before...the withdrawls are not as bad as the psychological let-down I have with another med being a failure. So it is like a band-aid. The faster I rip it off, the better. The quicker I get done and over with a med, the better.

Rainbow has good advice Amber...alanon can be a great help. Is your ex the father of your child? If so, he will be in your life forever, and you will have to deal with him weather you like it or not. The decision to get back with him is yours to make, but he is an ex for a reason. Atonement on his part is great, but your trust has been shattered and it might take a while to reestablish that trust. Don't let him talk you into anything... your heart and mind will guide you. Good luck to you!

Amber - one thing counselors told me when I was getting divorced, that I should make my ex be sober for at least 2 years to make sure he really has changed. If he has not been sober for a very long time, I wouldn't trust him, and would suspect he could convert back very quickly to old habits. I took my ex back a few times, a huge mistake every time. Think long and hard about it. Like MB said, he is an EX for a reason. Very few people that I have heard of who were ex's and got back together have been success stories that I have heard of.

Roy has good advice too.

MB - glad you are not withdrawing and things are going okay. Thanks for the support today, I really appreciate it.

Jax - thanks for your good wishes. I still have my fingers crossed.

Karen - sorry things are down for you, but try to get some rest and recharge your batteries during this break. Thanks for your support today, too.

Thank you Marie. You are such a dear person. I've been keeping you all in prayer. I do hope that things work out this time and you can have some security. You have a lot on your plate and you are taking it like a champ, while still helping out here. Of course it is your time to vent. I'm glad that you feel comfortable enough to share.

Amber, I agree with Trout, MB and Marie. They have some good advise and you have been doing so much better. I hope this guy does't come back into your life and make it harder on you to continue to feel better. I would steer clear of him.

MB again, thank you for holding the fort when you can. You have been a huge help and supporter. I do hope that you will be ok with dropping the meds. I know what's it's like to be disappointed again with a med. Been doing this all my life. Have you asked your Dr about Lamictal?

Jeff I got your email. Keep your chin up and like I and a lot of other people have told you, believe in yourself. You are capable and you don't need to be scared. You are a great person and you can do it!

Jax, thank you for your support. And everyone, I am trying to get some rest. I have my daughter coming over Thursday to help me get some things done. Spring cleaning in winter She is a dear. Love her so much. Just getting things back the way they were when I moved here will cheer me up. Thanks for all your concern.

Hiya Wild, haven't seen a post from you but thinking of ya.

Love you all!

Karen

Glad I got to take a day off, yesterday. One aide hurt her leg and another one hurt her shoulder. I can remember stretching my tendon out of shape when cradling a resident. I guess for every He-Man there is a She-ra, lol. The problems that can be caused when one doesn't lift right; Lifts too much or over extends one's self. That isn't even to mention the backaches from not using the proper lifting techniques. Usually, it is because one takes chances. All it takes is to do it wrong once and you out of work for pains. What still fascinates me is how women I work with have used their heads instead of the muscles in some instances. I am finding more effective ways of doing things since I have been at the job. You can teach an old dog new tricks, lol. Looks like I am in for another long stretch without a day off for a while. Sometimes one needs to be careful what one prays for you might just get it, lol.

Yeah, my Aunt and a couple of other family members are in the health care business. She has had three operations on her shoulder from lifting and strining so much with the patients. it is no easy job and I think you do well especially with the fact that you aren't just changing diapers and physical things....you also have to hav a heart of gold to put up with any kind of patient. And you work with some of the most diffucult kinds. Samne goes for you JAX....

You deal with a high stress job and then come here to post and be supportive.

Everyone, you have inner strength.....glad we can all meet like this and be here for each other.

Somehow my bills seem to attack me every month and somehow I survive, yet my current job hasn't been busy his season and all the money i can squeeze out is gone...and I still have rent due, and still need to get presents for everyone. I dunno why I even bother anymore. I just want to scream until my head explodes

Scream all you need to Allen, but I think you have a great pic already. One of you without a head would be disturbing

Seriously though, we know what you mean. I gave up on holidays for the most part. I am weak though and did elf myslef. I was trying to keep it a religous holiday but I was weak and the elves too cute. There is a link on my page to my elves........it is good for a laugh.

Elfyourself.com Try it, get a giggle going, then elf your family and or friends and send it to them, hahahaha. Its a kick, if only for a short time. It got a few things off my mind.

I am over 200 bucks in the hole with my bank. My bad I guess, but I do understand not knowing where the next rent check or food money will come from.

Our family decided that we are all too poor to give presents this year, and are just getting together on x-mas eve for hot toddies and visiting. Kinda makes me feel like a Who and not the Grinch.

My parents did an elfyourself card and sent it to me, it was funny cause my step dad was the one singing (and hes big, bad, and scary as hell in rl).

Oh and to make matters worse I'm going thru a mid life crisis, and I'm only 26. Everything just seems so wrong right now.

Elfyourself.com is so fun. Did you look at mine.........it is me my parrot and my dog......the prog chose to have the paerrot sing, hahahahaha

You can't go through a mid life crisis at your age but the stress can make you feel like it.

I just found out that Mike has renamed the Miscellaneous forum -- the new name is Misc Advice, Help & Support.


So that might help people find us better! Kewl, eh?