I know people who are just not built for dating but they are built for marriage. I know it's not real common talking like this in the US but it is very common in other countries to get right down to the question of compatibility. There is still a period of "get to know" but all the restaurant/bar movie going is replaced with hanging out at home and doing things that couples do right off the bat.

I think that the US creates it's own false sense of who the other person is by doing too many things that are not necessarily the types of things that people do as couples. When they do become a couple it becomes a bit of a shock because your not doing the same things all of a sudden and real life sets in. For myself I'd rather get to the real life right from the start. I'm either exciting to her or I'm not.

For example: the last thing I want to do is be married to a bar fly so why would I ask someone out for drinks. This BTW is the number one dating scenario in the US. It is also the number three reason for breaking up in the US, behind money issues and unfaithfulness.

If someone says to me I want to get to know you as a friend that is one thing, but if they say I want to get to know you for a potential mate that says something completely different. Personally I have enough friends and am way to busy for chit chat (I have mingle lol). Both of my wives asked me right up front "are you a potential mate?". For myself that was much better than a hang out buddy. I've had hang out buddies before and wouldn't be interested in that as a mate. The weekend jitters is not my thing.

So I would say her topic and approach is very legitimate.

On the issue of scaring women off. Sometimes that's helpful. I know a few guys up here right now that I would call "the perfect catch" and yet because they are open and honest they do not get a bite. That says not so much about that fellas in my book the women. Are they (the women on mingle) really looking? I wonder? Sometimes I think we should just say it like it is for us and see what happens. This young lady has and we see the numbers! Would we see numbers this high if people were not interested in the straight approach? I don't think so, nor do I think she is coming across as desperate.

You gals be direct and watch how many men come running. That's how men are built. Dangle the bait and we'll come biting. Look too subjective or high maintenance and we'll be looking at the easy bait. Remember men want to eat, women like preparing a meal. Two different points of view.

every successful relationship good woman behind it

well first one ur on your own lol second one well ya can go to the toy store an get some the third one well no clue i dont have any either lol an the first one just go buy another pair lol

god if only :) thats the perfect situation, hanging out at the mall... been a guy wudnt u hate that by the way?

well, i do have a big zit on my *** cheek...
would you pop it for me?

well his mother is grant actually she is kul, its his brother and dad which wreck my head, moaning if he goes out, moaning if he dosnt u cant win.

heck i use this just to keep in touch with my friends

oh pfffft!!

nice to see ya