So I am interested to know what difficulties you face the most with dating and relationships?

With dating:

Is it distance?

Having the courage to ask someone on a date?

Knowing what to do on a date?

Knowing what to say on a date?

Age difference?

Not much in common?

Worried about scammers?

You just want sex, not a relationship?

Or is it something else?


With relationships is it?

Lack of communication?

Not knowing how to effectively communicate?

Lack of sex?

Not knowing how to have good sex?

Sexual incompatibility?

Lack of intimacy?

Not knowing how to communicate effectively with your partner?

Or is it something else?

Most common reason is lack of sex

When she won't STFU.

Getting the lid off the jar of lube in the dark.. Especially with older women.

Something else.

The hardest part for me? - Being aware of, and understanding, and resisting the temptation to manipulate, influence, and adjust the other to be more like my expectations and my ideas which are different from reality.

Everything.

Ok if i have to say. The hardest is to relax and be myself.

Committing and following thru on an actual meet in real-time.
Dismissing ecpectations.
Accepting someone else for being who they are instead of who you expected them to be.

The hardest thing?... Finding someone who wants to date me to begin with.

((( River )))

Just means there are things he has to work thru before he’s ready.


OT: A myriad of things...

Thanks Stormy... I like that way of looking at it.

Jaysis


OT: Distance, yeah. That can be a real stinker

Looking pass all the faults of my partner, on a date or in a relationship.

What something else would that be?

Finding someone I want to date and who is willing to go out on a date.

Socks.

Nice!

Biggest problem in dating is not coming across someone I'd want to date.
And I've only really been ready for dating for a relatively short time.

Relationships... it's either having fallen for the wrong man for me, usually to do with commitment problems from the other party.

A big issue is sex. At this age the potential partner will be 40+ and then most have lost the steel in their 'equipment'. Not everyone is willing to take the blue pill. That means never having great sex again, and then you have a big problem in a relationship.

Also mismatch in sexuality. I've had this twice, not expecting it as the men seemed very passionate and fiery. One needed to warm up to having sex for a long time, as in 3-4 days.

In all seriousness, none of the above is a problem.
I swing in two directions, not wanting a relationship and then wanting one. So I am double minded, which means I am obviously not "there yet".

I may be like you.... Asexual