I have been chatting and talking on the phone for months with a local guy I met here and we finally decided to meet in person, and he asked me that I can decide where we meet and what we do that is something different from having coffee and since we both love outdoors..
I decided to keep our first meeting super casual and so I suggested we go horse riding after that we go pistol shooting that is also with in the area and eat afterwards at a local restaurant and the shooting club I thought that would be perfect....
He replied “ I never expected you to do man stuff “ I never heard from him again lol

I'd keep it to cage fighting and knife throwing in the future

I never considered shooting and riding to be "man stuff." I know a lot of women who are involved in those activities.

You're better off without him!

Shooting pistols, while riding horses...
Now, that's a way to win hearts and minds.

Please marry me now !
I don't have any pistols but I like horses, and girls who like guns.

That guy saved you from wasting your time with the wrong guy.
Or maybe he couldn't afford the hire fees, or is allergic to horses.

Join a gun or pistol club, and the guys there will be falling over themselves to 'help' you.

Don't settle for boring.

I, too, have gone deaf after beating a man at chess ;-(

I like shooting and horse riding how cool that is inev you deserve a real man the best man is on the way

That's pretty cool and unusual for Switzerland!
I still have ringing in my ears from clay pigeon shooting with a 12 bore a couple of months ago

Sounds like a great date to me inev... Hopefully you'll find someone who appreciates your suggestions in the future

It’s really cool and not to mention the breathtaking sights you see Switzerland has its fair share of beautiful horse riding trails and amazing shooting range :-)

Yes, I went through lucerne and stayed around the lake a couple of years ago on my way down to monte cassino. Beautiful really changes quickly from Zurich to the alps!

Any guy that is *put off* by a woman who does things that HE views as stereotypical "man" stuff...he's not worth bothering with..
Because he'll likely bring his misogynistic view of gender roles and so forth into the relationship.

Now, if *that* IS your thing..fine, go for it..there's a lot of guys like that out there..and some women apparently like that.

But, if a guy is going to get mad because I know more about cars than he does..he can just f*** right off..

Apart from whether it's weird or not, I don't feel it's a great idea for a first date. First dates -as in meet & greet with someone you've not met before- I rather do in a place with more people, not in the middle of nowhere. Not that I'm paranoid, but I am realistic and think of my own safety.

As for the activities, could be great when you know someone, but of course you'd need someone who too likes these things.
Also, over here it would be considered quite outrageous to do that, mostly the shooting part, as shooting and having fire arms is not like in the US. It's against the law, even specific knives are, bows, crossbows and anything considered a weapon.
You can only shoot fire arms at a shooting range and you have to become a member first. No shooting in the outdoors, ever.

I'm not sure how this is in Switzerland, I believe slightly different as most men who can be called to duty when there's war own a rifle as it has no army?

Crystal. They have those 'Swiss army knives ' with all the little tools on
Yes they have an army, I think they even have a small navy,which is strange being land locked!

I didn't know they had a navy, I looked it up, it's a few patrol boats in Lake Geneva and another lake.
Their army is mostly 'reserve' soldiers, all men between a certain age, women can volunteer if they want. I was told this by a Swiss bloke a long time ago. Each men of that age has a rifle.
But you're right, they have a small professional army as well. Makes sense, otherwise they couldn't fly planes etc.

Yes, and they have ships in the big sea to.
I'm sure they had guy's in Afghanistan to.
Anyway, it's got away from the op

Sure.
Some men.
Some men are turned off by dark hair.
Some are turned off by blonde hair.
I've been rejected because I didn't have blue eyes.
Some people are turned off going to chain restaurants.
Some people are turned off going to hole in the wall/local restaurants.

No matter what you do, it would probably turn someone, somewhere, off.

I mean:

If someone said that to me, that would be a turn off for me.


Maybe you have other information not in the op, but him saying that doesn't necessarily mean he was turned off by what you suggested for a date.

For all I know he thought he was paying for everything and he'd be driving all over, renting horses, paying for range fees and ammunition, and dinner and he thought "it's going to be an all day affair! I was thinking a 1 hour coffee meet, sounds like she wants an immediate commitment to a relationship or something..."

Or maybe he was hiding a handicap and couldn't get on a horse.

Or maybe his wife found your emails and shut it down so he had to disappear.

Or maybe the other girl he was talking to online decided to ask him over for a sleepover.

Or maybe he was a couch potato and you only met his online avatar which was his ideal outgoing self, actually meeting became too real, and he had to disappear.

There are a lot of possibilities other than he was turned off by your date suggestion.

You never know anything, really, until you meet.

But at least you received a few months of emails and phone calls.

The guy couldn't ride or shoot and didn't want to admit it.

You might shoot better than he does.

Riding and shooting is something that a lot of people do where I live. That would be good for a second date.