I'd be surprised to find any Conservative man that wouldn't prefer for a woman to have a gun & practice with it so she's much more likely to be able to protect herself. The guy must have been a Lib, they're really twisted in the head. I certainly don't see how anyone would call horse riding a man thing, clearly lots of men & women ride horses, it's not just for one or the other!

1. They really don;t have Conservative and Liberals (as we here in the US define them) in Switzerland, where the OP lives.

2. I am a Liberal, and I own guns, and go to shooting ranges.
Last gun I shot was a vintange SKS (not mine, a friends)

But, whatever.

Why?
*Someone* has to pick the activity/ place to meet.
If *I* have no preference, I'd rather *they* pick, as they might...
Or, vice-versa..

I do know thos...*I* have never been interested in someone not telling me what we are doing or where we are goinbg...and, unless I am in a commited relationship with someone I trust, and vice-versa....I wouldn't even do that to someone else..unless it was their birthday or our anniversery.

Yes that probably is :-)

Good for him.
I love horseback riding and shooting but I won't do it with women also... It's just a personal preference, no reasons really.

Hummm I have never met a man that would not agree to go to a shooting range.....

But I have met a few that was scared to death of horses or had no clue how to ride.. Which I can understand...

After owning horses for 17 years there are plenty that may not want to ride... It is always best to find out what kind of sports they like or willing to do..

Myself actually had a first date that we went to a shooting range.. I had never been to one at the time and had not shot a gun in over 20 years.. It was a blast... And would diffidently go to one again...

But those two things are not for everyone~~~

Having been around horses for years myself, I understsand that..
But, he should have said so..not just bailed/ ghosted on her..
I would NEVER shame a guy who was afraid of doing something I am very comfortable with...just like I would want him to do that to me...
Or be pushy and say "how do you know you won't like it until you try..?"
Dude, i said NO.
Disresepcting my boundaries right away is *not* a good start.

I *do* have to say this, though...

Years ago, like in the late 70's..I had dated a guy for a while...and it was at the point he invited me to the family reunion (in Rayville/ Ruston Louisianna).
Everything was going well....until I kicked his *** at skeet shooting, in front of his male cousins & nephews...
(they snickered at me when i asked could I have a go at it..)

He was cold/ distant the rest of the time I was there...and never spoke to me again..

Guess I made some gross social error, eh?

Living in England and having grown up in cities, I can't ride or shoot (and me being Irish, where most kids learn to ride around the time they learn to walk ) But it sounds great and if I lived somewhere where I could and a woman wanted me to join her in those activities, I'd be willing to learn and I've never been embarrassed by somebody being better at something than I am.

I don’t get how talking to someone for months and these interests
never came up.

It sure is popular to jump to final conclusions with almost no information at all, as usual,I see.

A guy vanishes after someone suggests horse riding and pistol shooting as a "casual first meet," and people are leaping to declare everything from his politics to what kind of clothes he wears. Sheesh.

Answering the original question of whether or not those things are stuff that "guys like to do," I can say for me, they sound like fun.

HOWEVER...if someone suggested those (rather expensive) things to do as a FIRST MEET, and that person thought it was "casual," I would be put off. I'm not the "go quiet and vanish" type, so I wouldn't do that, and I wouldn't blurt out that I thought those things were "guy stuff," since I don't think that way either.

But at least around where I live, doing EITHER of those things as a FIRST MEET, would be both expensive, and, I think, counter-productive. No way to converse comfortably doing either one; most of the time spent together would be spent (for safety reasons) doing things other than getting to know each other. So yeah, great ideas for things to do for a fun couples outing, but not good first meet choices.

Maybe in Switzerland, there are shooting ranges with bargain rates, and horse riding facilities that cost less than a cup of coffee, but where I am such activities would require a LOT of advance planning and money. Especially doing both in one day.

Maybe the guy was put off by a sense of rushing directly to spending a bunch of cash for a first meet. Maybe he had bad prior experiences with women who suggested such things. Heck, I've had women suggest rather extended first meet scenarios, as a way to hint that she wanted me to go the heck away. Others who were testing to see how much money I make, without asking directly.

Heck, maybe all there was to it was that he suddenly realized that she was "out of his league" in all sorts of ways, because of the overall exchange.

I've talked to a few who were not into the same thing I was. I think every woman should be able to handle a gun as well as she tends a baby. But then again I was raised that way. A woman should be able to protect herself and her family. To be able to feed them if that is what they wish. Hunting is a good habit to get women and children into. Will stay with them always.

never had a guy said that horse back riding and guns are men stuff but where I come from everyone packs sounds like you are better off without him have had guys get mad because you shoot better than them also its way in the country so there plenty of places to target practice without costing anything also the shooting range is only 12 dollars a year and 2 dollars for a guest

Maybe this!

that's even cheaper than here.
i'll be right down
but i might get cranky iffen i don't win

Why cranky?

Why cranky?

cuz i'm a guy

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she probably got another date.. she'd be back.