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Have to wonder why every time I try to just sit and enjoy a cup at Starbucks by myself, I am usually approached and asked "hows the brew today or something to that effect. Now, I do understand people just being friendly but.. because I am alone really does not mean I am wanting to entertain open conversation with strange guys. Anyone else out there having the same problem? I really hate to be mean so I will try to be a polite as possible but it usually winds up with me having to look at my watch and stating I have to go before I was really ready. Any thoughts or ideas are welcome.
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Any thoughts or ideas are welcome.
Uh . . . avoid Starbucks? ![]() |
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Virtually every time I'm peacefully enjoying a cup,
at a cafe, it gets ruined. I'll be sitting, deep in psychotic thought, and some lady approaches me uninvited, and asks, "Can I top you up"? ![]() |
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Have to wonder why every time I try to just sit and enjoy a cup at Starbucks by myself, I am usually approached and asked "hows the brew today or something to that effect. Now, I do understand people just being friendly but.. because I am alone really does not mean I am wanting to entertain open conversation with strange guys. Anyone else out there having the same problem? I really hate to be mean so I will try to be a polite as possible but it usually winds up with me having to look at my watch and stating I have to go before I was really ready. Any thoughts or ideas are welcome. Some of us have the opposite problem and feel invisible. At least the ones who approach you open with friendly conversation. I was at a Starbucks and somebody approached just to say he hates my kind |
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Edited by
Integrityis1st
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Sun 03/12/17 04:36 PM
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People actually acknowledge you?
![]() Some people developed a sofisticated technique where they just ignore you so you just go away. I am certainly not recommending that you do this. Just saying. ![]() |
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Have to wonder why every time I try to just sit and enjoy a cup at Starbucks by myself, I am usually approached and asked "hows the brew today or something to that effect. Now, I do understand people just being friendly but.. because I am alone really does not mean I am wanting to entertain open conversation with strange guys. Anyone else out there having the same problem? I really hate to be mean so I will try to be a polite as possible but it usually winds up with me having to look at my watch and stating I have to go before I was really ready. Any thoughts or ideas are welcome. Just mace the guy.. word will get out and you will be left alone to enjoy your coffee in peace |
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Have to wonder why every time I try to just sit and enjoy a cup at Starbucks by myself, I am usually approached and asked "hows the brew today or something to that effect. Now, I do understand people just being friendly but.. because I am alone really does not mean I am wanting to entertain open conversation with strange guys. Anyone else out there having the same problem? I really hate to be mean so I will try to be a polite as possible but it usually winds up with me having to look at my watch and stating I have to go before I was really ready. Any thoughts or ideas are welcome. Just mace the guy.. word will get out and you will be left alone to enjoy your coffee in peace ![]() |
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Just tell them you're waiting for someone....
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There is another motive...it may be that they find you attractive and feel that politely talking to you is a way of getting to know you, and maybe ask you out for an initial social get-together. This works for both genders.
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Just tell them you're waiting for someone.... C'MERE!!!!! ![]() |
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I used to have the same problem at the gym.
I went to exercise but apparently there is a bigger market in chatting there. I would use headphones and keep my eyes closed..to no avail.. when I opened my eyes they would be lined up waiting to talk to me. I would nod and look..vacantly blond..still no go. These are social places, it is a real trick to be left alone. |
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Just tell them you're waiting for someone.... C'MERE!!!!! ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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Umm mmm. .. what's a Starbucks..???.
Lol |
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lol ^^^^
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I love coffee.. and Pink
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Have to wonder why every time I try to just sit and enjoy a cup at Starbucks by myself, I am usually approached and asked "hows the brew today or something to that effect. Now, I do understand people just being friendly but.. because I am alone really does not mean I am wanting to entertain open conversation with strange guys. Anyone else out there having the same problem? I really hate to be mean so I will try to be a polite as possible but it usually winds up with me having to look at my watch and stating I have to go before I was really ready. Any thoughts or ideas are welcome. Oh quit bragging about your numbers. ![]() ![]() |
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Edited by
Piscesmoon02
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Sun 03/12/17 06:11 PM
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Have to wonder why every time I try to just sit and enjoy a cup at Starbucks by myself, I am usually approached and asked "hows the brew today or something to that effect. Now, I do understand people just being friendly but.. because I am alone really does not mean I am wanting to entertain open conversation with strange guys. Anyone else out there having the same problem? I really hate to be mean so I will try to be a polite as possible but it usually winds up with me having to look at my watch and stating I have to go before I was really ready. Any thoughts or ideas are welcome. I have this problem at work. I'm around people constantly and at lunch time, I like to go sit in the corner and have down time. I'm guessing some people have issues with being alone, so they assume you want or need company. I figured out if I have my phone in one hand, pretending to text or read, then they leave me alone, they still say hi, but they sit elsewhere. ![]() On the other hand, maybe Mike6615 is right and they are attracted to you. If it bothers you though, and you want to continue having coffee at Starbucks, maybe consider bringing a book or magazine. |
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Edited by
sybariticguy
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Sun 03/12/17 06:12 PM
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sounds like you don't have social skills and simply address mens approaches sad to blame others seeking conversation etc... does demonstrate a lack of empathy on your part...
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I don't mind anyone chatting with me while I sit drinking coffee in my favorite bakery or coffee shop. No Starbucks here. I like to sit by the front window reading newspapers or magazines.
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