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Have to wonder why every time I try to just sit and enjoy a cup at Starbucks by myself, I am usually approached and asked "hows the brew today or something to that effect. Now, I do understand people just being friendly but.. because I am alone really does not mean I am wanting to entertain open conversation with strange guys. Anyone else out there having the same problem? I really hate to be mean so I will try to be a polite as possible but it usually winds up with me having to look at my watch and stating I have to go before I was really ready. Any thoughts or ideas are welcome.
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Any thoughts or ideas are welcome.
Uh . . . avoid Starbucks? |
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Virtually every time I'm peacefully enjoying a cup,
at a cafe, it gets ruined. I'll be sitting, deep in psychotic thought, and some lady approaches me uninvited, and asks, "Can I top you up"? |
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Have to wonder why every time I try to just sit and enjoy a cup at Starbucks by myself, I am usually approached and asked "hows the brew today or something to that effect. Now, I do understand people just being friendly but.. because I am alone really does not mean I am wanting to entertain open conversation with strange guys. Anyone else out there having the same problem? I really hate to be mean so I will try to be a polite as possible but it usually winds up with me having to look at my watch and stating I have to go before I was really ready. Any thoughts or ideas are welcome. Some of us have the opposite problem and feel invisible. At least the ones who approach you open with friendly conversation. I was at a Starbucks and somebody approached just to say he hates my kind |
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Edited by
Integrityis1st
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Sun 03/12/17 04:36 PM
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People actually acknowledge you? Where is that?
Some people developed a sofisticated technique where they just ignore you so you just go away. I am certainly not recommending that you do this. Just saying. |
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Have to wonder why every time I try to just sit and enjoy a cup at Starbucks by myself, I am usually approached and asked "hows the brew today or something to that effect. Now, I do understand people just being friendly but.. because I am alone really does not mean I am wanting to entertain open conversation with strange guys. Anyone else out there having the same problem? I really hate to be mean so I will try to be a polite as possible but it usually winds up with me having to look at my watch and stating I have to go before I was really ready. Any thoughts or ideas are welcome. Just mace the guy.. word will get out and you will be left alone to enjoy your coffee in peace |
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Have to wonder why every time I try to just sit and enjoy a cup at Starbucks by myself, I am usually approached and asked "hows the brew today or something to that effect. Now, I do understand people just being friendly but.. because I am alone really does not mean I am wanting to entertain open conversation with strange guys. Anyone else out there having the same problem? I really hate to be mean so I will try to be a polite as possible but it usually winds up with me having to look at my watch and stating I have to go before I was really ready. Any thoughts or ideas are welcome. Just mace the guy.. word will get out and you will be left alone to enjoy your coffee in peace |
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Just tell them you're waiting for someone....
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There is another motive...it may be that they find you attractive and feel that politely talking to you is a way of getting to know you, and maybe ask you out for an initial social get-together. This works for both genders.
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Just tell them you're waiting for someone.... C'MERE!!!!! |
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I used to have the same problem at the gym.
I went to exercise but apparently there is a bigger market in chatting there. I would use headphones and keep my eyes closed..to no avail.. when I opened my eyes they would be lined up waiting to talk to me. I would nod and look..vacantly blond..still no go. These are social places, it is a real trick to be left alone. |
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Just tell them you're waiting for someone.... C'MERE!!!!! |
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Umm mmm. .. what's a Starbucks..???.
Lol |
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lol ^^^^
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I love coffee.. and Pink
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Have to wonder why every time I try to just sit and enjoy a cup at Starbucks by myself, I am usually approached and asked "hows the brew today or something to that effect. Now, I do understand people just being friendly but.. because I am alone really does not mean I am wanting to entertain open conversation with strange guys. Anyone else out there having the same problem? I really hate to be mean so I will try to be a polite as possible but it usually winds up with me having to look at my watch and stating I have to go before I was really ready. Any thoughts or ideas are welcome. Oh quit bragging about your numbers. |
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Edited by
Piscesmoon02
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Sun 03/12/17 06:11 PM
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Have to wonder why every time I try to just sit and enjoy a cup at Starbucks by myself, I am usually approached and asked "hows the brew today or something to that effect. Now, I do understand people just being friendly but.. because I am alone really does not mean I am wanting to entertain open conversation with strange guys. Anyone else out there having the same problem? I really hate to be mean so I will try to be a polite as possible but it usually winds up with me having to look at my watch and stating I have to go before I was really ready. Any thoughts or ideas are welcome. I have this problem at work. I'm around people constantly and at lunch time, I like to go sit in the corner and have down time. I'm guessing some people have issues with being alone, so they assume you want or need company. I figured out if I have my phone in one hand, pretending to text or read, then they leave me alone, they still say hi, but they sit elsewhere. On the other hand, maybe Mike6615 is right and they are attracted to you. If it bothers you though, and you want to continue having coffee at Starbucks, maybe consider bringing a book or magazine. |
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Edited by
sybariticguy
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Sun 03/12/17 06:12 PM
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sounds like you don't have social skills and simply address mens approaches sad to blame others seeking conversation etc... does demonstrate a lack of empathy on your part...
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I don't mind anyone chatting with me while I sit drinking coffee in my favorite bakery or coffee shop. No Starbucks here. I like to sit by the front window reading newspapers or magazines.
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