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You fall for someone for a plethora of reasons. You stay with that special someone because they are worth your best. That is all!

we all different so diff things attract I guess is it.what one likes another doesn't.i like funny guys with great soh.it's all what we each like so who can really say

Sorry so gotta break this post up... For the life of me how can you be with someone you don't think is attractive? I am so crazy about my guy and to be honest what attracted me first was his written word. That led me to want to know more.. His looks were so secondary...Do I think he is a a hottie of course I do but that encompasses so much more than just his physical. The whole package is freaking sexy...




I have never cheated.. Period well I have never in a exclusive relationship. My partners looks would never be the reason I would leave... I don't buy that" if " I so love you but your are butt ugly so I am going to go bonk the neighbor... nothing personal they just look better that would be so later days dude...



For me attractiveness isn't easily defined. It can be Gobsmack eye candy then they open their mouth and well that just turned ugly.

Attractiveness is the whole package...

As far as rating a point system I have no clue if we are with in a 2 point range or not.. Who cares... not me.

when my husband and I were married we were both young, in college and crazy about each other but as time went I on I did realize at some point along the way that I was no longer attracted to him physically. Did I stray from my vows knowing this? no I stayed for many other reasons..


now having said that I will say this
chemistry and physical attraction should not be the only thing
that draws you to another human being but it should enter the equation somewhere

yep you can't build on sand.has to be something of substance and that could be sense of humour,coupled with a loving heart and kindness and if u got faithfulness and honesty built in that's a winner

My question is: Why are you involved in an "exclusive" romantic relationship with someone you find unattractive in the first place?

Personally, I have known women that did not possess "classic features" of beauty but they were really sweet, good natured, decent human beings. The longer I was exposed to their personalities and the way they participated in a relationship the more I became attracted to them mentally and physically. They actually looked prettier and sexier. It was like some sort of metamorphosis (not the Buffalo Bill from Silence of the Lambs kind of metamorphosis, just a regular kind of metamorphosis). And I pursued them like a ruttin' buck!

What happened then? No, I didn't cheat on them. (LOVE DON'T CHEAT) The relationships ended because they wanted to marry and I wanted to maintain the status quo. Or they wanted a baby and I wasn't yet ready to commit to that. Stuff like that. So I let em go get what they desired. Dumb a$& me!

Point is, to some people, the inside can make a difference. That's why we got the old adage, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder"


P.S. METAMORPHOSIS!

If a person is morally bankrupt, and
has little to no ethics, its probably true
that they will cheat.

However, a cheater will cheat, and not need
a reason. Simply because its their nature.

I'm sapiosexual , so I would just just punch your idiot coworker in the head.... probably with a book.

Call me if you need me.

if people want to cheat, they will... it's not a matter of looks, it's a matter of honesty...

This.^^^^exactly

and this ^^^^

your co-work has a very sceptical view on love. i've fallen in love once and i felt like she was enough. although i wldnt say it to her, but she was not themost beautiful girl i'd met, but she was "enough" for me. i felt complete and sure i'd be expossed to so much temptation but when its love its more than justphysical attraction

When I first met my ex I didn�t find him attractive either so at first we were just friends. But somehow those sparks in the eyes when he laughed made him absolutely irrisistable. So yes, there exists some kind of metamorphosis there.
And must agree with mightymoe too. If people want to cheat, they will, no matter what. I personally, have never had problem with that, not even a thought. If I am with someone, then there is only him and nobody else. Start to be blind for others, they won�t interest me at all. Something like even if I would have in my pocket million $ belonging to someone else and only 10$ mine, for me it would be like that million doesn�t exist. I�ll think only about those 10$.

Maybe I am an alien

no, you just have a better understanding of what love is/should be... nowadays people confuse lust with love, not understanding either...

Love is a CHOICE. The initial infatuation with the other person's god like physique soon fizzles. (any Buddha lovers? No? I'll continue then...) When that burns out, you are left with a DECISION to make.

Even if the other person was abusive or dumped you for whatever reason, they made a choice not to love you. And based on their choice you made a choice to not love them in return. End relationship.

If this were not true, we would ALL still be with our "first love" (other than those whose loved one passed away ).

There is no "perfect match", no "soul mate". Lifelong love is only enjoyed by two imperfect people who partner for the purpose of working for their common good. Read "committed to one another". You don't swear oaths to maintain emotions but you do choices.

I so agree with this... I do believe that when you truly love that person and are committed to them outward appearances doesn't really matter since that is going to change through out time.

I'm at least 4or 5 points out of your..
rating system...lol.... in my favor..

Utter nonsense. If you love someone, whether it's what's on the inside or outside, usually both, you don't cheat simply because you do love them. When people cheat they no longer love their partner in my opinion, whatever their reason for cheating is, the love has gone.

Welcome to Mingle2 and good luck in your search.