So, I was told today by a co-Worker "If your with some one and you don't find their looks attractive, you will end up cheating EVEN if you love what they are made of on the inside". Is this true? If so Why? Is the old saying "Its whats inside that matters" all wrong? Tell me what yall think? Im eager to know

Probably.
In some way.
Depending on how you want to define cheating.

It's no guarantee that if you're ugly but they love you for your insides that they'll go bang someone else.

But it doesn't mean that they won't start doing things like trying to dress you up in lingerie and whorish outfits to compensate, or binge eating, or start living an unhealthy lifestyle in order to get you fatter in order to make the problem more obvious and their behavior justifiable, rather than dealing with the actual emotions they're going through.

But that's my definition of "cheating."
Not honestly dealing with important emotions or events relevant to the relationship, and actively trying to hide them, even from themselves.

I think with most people if a person isn't attracted to you physically and mentally then that is going to cause stress they are going to have to deal with.

And if they want to have a relationship with you, what are they going to say in order to work it out?
"Sorry honey, I love your heart, but would you mind wearing this bag? Is that okay?"

People don't want to be put in a position where it's either be honest and hurt the other person causing who knows what kind of strife, or lie/hide the truth and maintain the other persons happiness and the status quo.

And if they like one aspect of you, and don't like or are repulsed by another they have to deal with daily, that situation is going to arise.

How does he look? It's called equity, you give as good as you get. In terms of attractiveness, the person must usually end up 2 points away from someone that they choose in order to have a healthy relationship. On an attractive scale of 1 - 10, the attractive meter must fall within 2 points on either side. If it is higher or lower, the person who is better looking will end up resenting the less attractive partner and the less attractive partner will be too insecure or feel guilt that he/she is with a partner who is more attractive. Thus, eventually, the relationship will implode, rot from within and fail. There have been studies done on this matter.

Speaking from personal experience, when I find someone unattractive, my feelings don't change because he miraculously transformed overnight and won my heart with his scintillating personality. I will never be into him. It would be a disservice to be with someone and lead them on if you find them unattractive. They fell in love with me and I ended up breaking their heart because I felt empty and unexcited being with them. I had to break it off for both our benefit. I no longer date men I find unattractive. A waste of time for both of us. I suppose some will cheat rather than admit the truth.

I've seen and know of quite the opposite,but I guess in most cases what you're saying maybe true,and also I feel no one should let that be any type of barrier,stuff like that can cause some people to lose confidence in themselves,and can be detrimental to them from a psychological point of view!!

Agree,don't make sense forcing something that's not there!

There are always exceptions, yes, but for the most part, this is the case.

I couldn't date someone that I didn't feel physically attracted to. I know that it's a bit shallow of me, but I'd rather tell it like it is, than pretending that I'd date just anyone who crossed my path. We can all go on, saying how personality matters more. And I agree, it does, but if I'm not physically attracted to them along with that, then how am I ever going to feel like making love to them?

I don't go by looks cos looks can fade with age illness or accident.i go for the heart.u can have someone so handsome or beautiful but if they nasty inside the looks don't mean jack.give me an ordinary looking guy any day if he has a good heart and good nature.ya know the saying-stop looking for perfect cos it doesn't exist and while you're looking you may miss the imperfect person who could make you perfectly happy

Lynn AND friendly w have a good point,but for me and I think most people,there just HAS to be at least SOME physical attraction,unless you're maybe blind,and for a relationship to last and be a genuine one,I'd have to agree with lynn

Who said that if a person is attractive that means they're nasty inside? You can have both a good looking person who you are attracted to AND a great personality. Are they supposed to be mutually exclusive? So that would mean that all unattractive people are sweethearts? Time to wake up from that Beauty and the Beast fairy tale. It doesn't work in real life. Attraction comes FIRST, darling. Oh, Wednesdayz.

When you meet somebody or see somebody. The first thing to register in your brain is attraction to their looks.. or non attraction. It is a involuntary reaction.

So yes, physical attraction does matter.

Not that inner beauty could not over ride outer beauty, but that usually takes a lot of time.

Physical attraction does matter. JMO

Of course it matters but it's not the ONLY factor. It is merely a FIRST step. If the person has a terrible personality, then of course, looks won't be enough. We look for a combination.

I don't know why I even need to explain this to some people. I thought that was common sense.

OMG,ummm,catfight

nah better things to do.anyhow bk to the subject attraction doesn't always mean how someone looks.it can be something they do or a way they have about em

hmm....

if i am already with someone...and he is not physically attractive...but he is a good person... treats me well and all that jazz... so that means it was his character that got me attracted to him... and the reason that i am with him...

will i cheat on him or not?

probably not... id ought to be ashamed of myself...

if there is a reason for me to cheat, then i'd break it off with him first. but i doubt the lack of physical attraction will be the factor for doing so...