Like you said, people aren't sure what they want. It's not wasted time if it is just friendship they want (providing there's a platonic connection there). If they're really dreaming about meeting someone who rocks their socks, then meeting up with anyone who offers probably won't be that appealing to them.

My mindset is of someone who's not really sure exactly what I want, but I'm open to the possibility of something developing. If I believe there's a connection of sorts there, at whatever level, I'd want to ensure the other person is on board with that (ie/ if I think it's friendship, then I'd want them to know that). Some people don't really want options though, they want all or nothing.

I don't know what you're talking about OP... This has NEVER happened to me

Thanks for all of your replies ladies.

No, I'm not trying to start an argument. Just putting something out there for discussion.

Saying that, I did expect someone to say that about my saying to her that she said that she's friendly and that I hoped that was the case and that she would reply to me. It's what's known as sarcasm and I did say to her that she could take a look at my profile because she claimed to like laughter and jokes and some women on here have told me that they find my sense of humour amusing and that my profile gave them a laugh. I was paraphrasing a bit though and the way that I said it in my message wasn't quite as blunt as that.

Leigh, I don't send out many messages really because as I keep saying, there aren't many local women on here. Also, it's not that long since I actually had a girlfriend and I wasn't trying to chat up other women while I was seeing her. I was just coming on here for the forums and that's the main reason that I do come on here because I'm sorry to say it but the local women on here are just not very friendly, compared to the women that I've chatted with on British dating sites. Last time I was on a British dating site almost every woman that I messaged did reply to me and I guess perhaps that's because they weren't getting loads of spam from other countries, or were on there to actually meet guys and not just use the site as some sort of glorified Facebook.

It's fine. I don't want to waste anybody's time either and am not complaining about not being able to get a girlfriend, or women not being interested in me. Just saying that if someone says that they are "extremely friendly and easy going" and practically beg guys to message them that's BS if they aren't going to reply to a friendly message, especially if they say that they are just looking for new friends. An "easy going" friendly person wouldn't refuse to reply just because I said that I hoped that she really was friendly, in my humble opinion.

Also, forgot to mention that she was a foreigner and probably wouldn't get my sense of humour anyway.

You do have a very dry sense of humor Tawt! ...About bullchit, this is how I've got it "compartmentalized" ...About 90% of internet social sites are composed of decomposing bullchit, but the 10% that isn't more than makes up for the bad smell!

Internet is just another lure in my tackle box.

I fish wherever I go.

Grocery store, in line paying bills, at the corner with my "Will work for food" sign.

If you have a car, it might help taking the door and window handles off the passenger side.

It's just another female ploy to grab your attention in my opinion. You will be just as likely to receive a response as if they had not mentioned how extremely friendly they are supposed to be. People should at least reply to an email, but if the lady is receiving a dozen emails a day from interested guys I guess she will not have time to reply.

Start with the forums and then get to know someone gradually. You will find this works much better than mass mailings.

Mass mailings?...Tawt?...No way!

Hi ((((Joe)))) ...BBQ turkey on the menu this year?

hi, Tawt! Now, you know this isn't true all of the time! I'm your friend :)
and if you recall.. WE became friends through the Chat Room

I went away but I'm back!

TeeBee!!!!...Is that really you!!???...Damn woman, you are looking fine!!

TB is back!

Leigh!

Hi Bear!

For some reason, I am recalling a sign I see sometimes posted outside of restaurants and other business which states:

NO SHIRT
NO SHOES
NO SERVICE

In regard to replying to messages, my motto is:
NO SPARK
NO INTEREST
NO REPLY TO MESSAGE

I like to simplify. JMHO

This.

Hello Mingle family!!! I'm back !!! Thanks for watering my plants guys!

Thankfully...