MG, I don't care that you don't agree with me, but it's really odd when you go after me for doing what the OP was doing. Why lecture me at all for my preferences? Do you do the same for those who prefer to date skinny people rather than fat people? Or those who prefer to date short people rather than tall people? What about those who prefer to date someone close by, rather than far away?

Cool your jets little missy.

I'm just asking you questions based on your post. If you don't want to answer, no worries. That's your style from what I've seen. Just be honest and say you don't want to answer for whatever reason. No need to tell me to cool my jets. :)

That was my sense when reading your post. But, like I said, it's your style to respond that way.

I can absolutely have respect for those with differing views, however I lose that respect when I'm lectured. Especially when it's for what others have done.

I guess what I don't get is why people get bent out of shape over others' preferences. Age is just one of these preferences.

Te he he he. Cheer up do you fancy an older woman and you are miffed that she wont date your age? Pet, some woman are just obtainable. And that is just life.

Now thats just to funny :) i like people for their heart not their age and theres mature young people too and there's immature older people too its not a age thing ,people who think age is maturity is wrong people think more and react different when older i agree on that but age is a number :)

Age does matter because with age comes maturity. How can I relate what its like to have a 20 year career to someone who has never had one? How can I relate to a 20 or 30 year old guy that because of age; my best friends are dying from heart attacks? How can I relate how age is affecting me and my body to someone who is 20 or 30 years younger? How would I relate to someone about the 70s when they weren't even born? I doubt very much that I would have much in common with a younger man that say has never served a day in the military or has only served a couple years. Sorry; but guys my age have a hard enough time understanding me; a younger guy would be way worse.

LOLLLLLLLLLLL no 1s bent out of shape but i do see you love to start up on different people over nothing like just by that comment right there lolll i don't care who you chat to or when you do or what age either lolllll so may i ask who is bent out of shape???????????

First looks like I'll have to tell you gals what I meant by stuck in the mud. I was referring to someone who is so deep in their own thoughts about something that it is hard for them to let others express themselves without an issue being made. The other part to this would be giving advice to others and stating that they weren't willing to consider the same. To me that is being a little stuck or not able to accept or consider another view. It seems like when someone has a different view about dating the same people always jump in and build their camp. The problem comes when someone has a fresh or different idea of that situation.

I wouldn't go making a case out of something that isn't there though. I love the fact that all of you have your own views and opinions. It's what makes mingling rich. If you ever take me as someone who does not feel that way, please ask or send me an email. However where I get off the wagon is when people dog on others and try to suggest that their views are not valid or they are not aloud in someway to think the way they do, or making snotty remarks that look like they are in the wrong somehow.

Please make note that I did not say anyone was a stick in the mud. My comment was that's what we call getting stuck in the mud. Meaning not being able to bend or move.

I think I can speak for my friend cheer up and myself when I say we could care less about your personal preferences or ever wish to put you down for believing in them. I can't imagine where this thought came from or how others picked up that we would think that way. We were talking about someone putting down others rights to have a view, not your personal views and rights to them. We respect all views and were trying to state that, and hoped that these types of talks could be less judgemental and not more.

Could you ladies name a view things that makes age a difference specifically?

If you do it might make it easier for those of us who don't care so much about it to explain why.

For example in my case, one who has traveled all their life and is deeply involved in music and business. Someone who has spent all but 6 weeks a year at times home. Someone who didn't write their first personal check for something until they were 41. Someone who kept 3 homes running at one time. Someone who got college by tutors on a bus. Someone who probably has a far different life from what many of you would call norm. How would you even have a clue to what I would need or want age wise?

You who live by the 9 to 5 sometimes have no idea that there is another huge world out there that is way outside of your thinking. People lives who run on a completely different set of values, time lines and responsibilities. A partner for many of us has nothing to do with age and everything to do with compatibility. I've met women that are 25 with way more experience than the older small town woman. I have also met 60 years olds with more open minds than teenagers. Suggesting that there is an age group for people like myself or others like me would be very limiting as we do not look for the same things in a partner.

Another example. Someone like my self literally has no time to go around in useless arguments. My partner has to be fast on her feet and be able to move quickly through lives decisions. In my wife's case she needed someone who did not get jealous and handle her being a world traveler. Neither of us had time for domestic troubles so we both had others hired to take care of the "small things". Those small things to us were probably big things for other couples.

What I'm saying is in many cases outside of norm ( what is norm) exist a world that very much deserve love but doesn't care about the same things as many others do.

Right lol

RIGHT ON BRO:) ... i kind of think you meant stick in the mud ? ......stick-in-the-mud - definition of stick-in-the-mud by the Free Online ...
Also found in: Idioms, 0.01 sec. stick-in-the-mud (st k n- -m d ). n. pl. stick-in-the-
muds Informal. One who lacks initiative, imagination, or enthusiasm also...........Urban Dictionary: stick in the mud
Someone who prefers to allow things of seeming enjoyment pass them by
Someone who prefers to "stick" (stay, remain) in the "mud".....also ......one who is slow, old-fashioned, or unprogressive; especially : an old fogy. .........but i agree on that too bro nothing wrong with saying that cheers

Yes, very unfair.

your right bro i see so many dating in different age brackets and i think people should admire that , cause to many are narrow minded and never open up their horizon, and maybe if they did talk to couples in different age groups or see more they may think and open up but its their choice :) cheers thanks for your input

So tell me, how does someone who has an age preference fit the above definition?

And just as I would not understand what you would need in the lifestyle that you have lived neither could you comprehend living a lifestyle where it is paycheck to paycheck, a choice has to be made to pay the mortgage or buy food or the decision to stay in a marriage because leaving would mean that your children would have to give up the only home they have ever known. I married someone 12 years older. It may not have mattered much at 25 and 37 but the older we got the bigger the difference. When one spouse it thinking of retirement and the other in no where near that point if life, age difference becomes a factor. Maybe it would have been different if we were financially able to both retire but that was not the case. He is happily remarried to someone his own age and I am free to seek the company in my age group. Also when it comes to children, my ex was 40 and 47 when our sons were born. Although he was very active in their sports, they always hated having the father who was the age of some of their friends grandfathers. Here are just 2 examples of where age is a factor.