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What is with the TABOO on open relationships/ open marrages/ swingers, or any thing of that nature? when the topic is brought up its usaly followed with "ooh lord" or just ignored.
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obviously those ppl arent interested in that kind of lifestyle. for myself, a monogamous relationship feels safe and stable. ''sharing'' is just Not in my nature. Good Luck with your search, :)
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Thanks for you honesty
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What is with the TABOO on open relationships/ open marrages/ swingers, or any thing of that nature? when the topic is brought up its usaly followed with "ooh lord" or just ignored. Not everyone is into that kind of thing. I'm guessing that's why. |
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I tried the open relationship thing, if you love
someone it hurts to see them or know that they are giving themselves to someone else. that not a relationship I can handle, I don't want to share the one I love. Either we are together or we are not, not being together does not mean we still can't have sex, just means there is no expectations of loyalty. I believe a relationship is 2 people and only 2 people. |
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thats it in a nutshell, :)
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It is hard enough to make a relationship work with only 2 people. You start bringing in 3 or more people into a relationship then things get that much more complicated.
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I tried the open relationship thing, if you love someone it hurts to see them or know that they are giving themselves to someone else. that not a relationship I can handle, I don't want to share the one I love. Either we are together or we are not, not being together does not mean we still can't have sex, just means there is no expectations of loyalty. I believe a relationship is 2 people and only 2 people. what do you mean if your having sex then what do you call that? |
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I guess I kind of had an open relationship with my last husband when I finally accepted that he was going to cheat on me no matter what, so I might as well let him.
It didn't work because even though he wasn't hiding it, it still killed me. You probably get the reaction you do because most people don't prefer it. |
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Fair enough a relationship is hard work no matter how many ppl are in it, but in most relationships it ends due to the fact that either someone cheated or someones needs are not meet. So why not take that out of the issues you have?
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I tried the open relationship thing, if you love someone it hurts to see them or know that they are giving themselves to someone else. that not a relationship I can handle, I don't want to share the one I love. Either we are together or we are not, not being together does not mean we still can't have sex, just means there is no expectations of loyalty. I believe a relationship is 2 people and only 2 people. what do you mean if your having sex then what do you call that? I call it sex, just like masturbation. people do have needs and sex does not always need to involve love or emotion, A relationship does. |
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Fair enough a relationship is hard work no matter how many ppl are in it, but in most relationships it ends due to the fact that either someone cheated or someones needs are not meet. So why not take that out of the issues you have? If you find a woman who is truly open to that and won't harbor negative feelings because of it, then it's all good. Just make sure you won't be feeling jealous when she is the one having sex with someone else. |
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Also why does it always have mean your having sex or thats the only need that is being fill with a second or third relationship?
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Edited by
Ruth34611
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Sat 02/11/12 03:58 PM
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Also why does it always have mean your having sex or thats the only need that is being fill with a second or third relationship? What need is it that you and your significant other need filled that is not being filled by each other? Humans have many needs and one person cannot fill them all. Men usually have a need for "guy time" and whatever recreation they enjoy and that may or may not include his wife. People have relationships at work that fill needs for professional recognition. Is that what you are talking about? |
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Also why does it always have mean your having sex or thats the only need that is being fill with a second or third relationship? because if you're truly in love then all other needs should be met. Sex is physical so it has no place in love, with love you share an emotional bond and if you're not getting that then you can't call it love. If you're needs are not being met continue looking, do not simply add more people. |
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Also why does it always have mean your having sex or thats the only need that is being fill with a second or third relationship? What need is it that you and your significant other need filled that is not being filled by each other? Humans have many needs and one person cannot fill them all. Men usually have a need for "guy time" and whatever recreation they enjoy and that may or may not include his wife. People have relationships at work that fill needs for professional recognition. Is that what you are talking about? Yes!!!! and of course for every one it's different needs. differnt social groups,and different activites.
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Edited by
lowdrag79
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Sat 02/11/12 04:11 PM
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Also why does it always have mean your having sex or thats the only need that is being fill with a second or third relationship? because if you're truly in love then all other needs should be met. Sex is physical so it has no place in love, with love you share an emotional bond and if you're not getting that then you can't call it love. If you're needs are not being met continue looking, do not simply add more people. So sex isnt Emotional? So what is the big deal when your partner has sex with someone elese? |
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Also why does it always have mean your having sex or thats the only need that is being fill with a second or third relationship? What need is it that you and your significant other need filled that is not being filled by each other? Humans have many needs and one person cannot fill them all. Men usually have a need for "guy time" and whatever recreation they enjoy and that may or may not include his wife. People have relationships at work that fill needs for professional recognition. Is that what you are talking about? Yes!!!! and of course for every one it's different needs. differnt social groups,and different activites.
Maybe you should explain exactly what it is you need that you are not getting. Is this a hypothetical question or are you currently in a relationship where your needs are not being met? You brought up sex outside of your relationship first. That is very different than having friends and social activities that do not include your wife/girlfriend. |
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Also why does it always have mean your having sex or thats the only need that is being fill with a second or third relationship? What need is it that you and your significant other need filled that is not being filled by each other? Humans have many needs and one person cannot fill them all. Men usually have a need for "guy time" and whatever recreation they enjoy and that may or may not include his wife. People have relationships at work that fill needs for professional recognition. Is that what you are talking about? Yes!!!! and of course for every one it's different needs. differnt social groups,and different activites.
If what you are looking for is "guy time" to go hang out with the guys at the bar, then you are not looking for an open relationship/open marriage....you are looking for permission to go hang out and have other friends.. An open relationship is when you are looking for another person to be intimate with and go out with. If you are in a relationship, it should be between TWO people during it's duration not just two people at a time. (My opinion) |
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i knew a couple once, they were swingers.
it eventually led to jealousy hurt anger. i think if you really love someone, it's not meant to be shared. JMHO |
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