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Topic: Taboo
Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Sun 02/12/12 12:07 PM
A new study shows that Ghonorhea is becoming untreatable....so swing at your own risk.

newarkjw Joined Sun 05/25/08 Posts: 17172	Sun 02/12/12 01:03 PM
People be crazy. My great Aunt Gracie always said you only need so many chickens in the barn if you ain't got a bull in the field....

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sun 02/12/12 01:12 PM
What is with the TABOO on open relationships/ open marrages/ swingers, or any thing of that nature? when the topic is brought up its usaly followed with "ooh lord" or just ignored. people interested in that are better off to find sites specifically catering to that in my opinion, and they are out there.... and marking their profiles appropriately on here - as casual encounters or not seeking commitment or something of that nature so y'all can find each other we are all entitled to our preferences whether or not they include the things you mention - and that < is the reaction I am most familiar with in here on mingle - a kind of live & let live - it may not be for everyone but if it works for you fine w/e

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sun 02/12/12 01:12 PM
People be crazy. My great Aunt Gracie always said you only need so many chickens in the barn if you ain't got a bull in the field.... chickens? bulls? must've been some interesting crossbreeds in her yard...

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sun 02/12/12 01:14 PM
I tried the open relationship thing, if you love someone it hurts to see them or know that they are giving themselves to someone else. that not a relationship I can handle, I don't want to share the one I love. Either we are together or we are not, not being together does not mean we still can't have sex, just means there is no expectations of loyalty. I believe a relationship is 2 people and only 2 people. what do you mean if your having sex then what do you call that? I know I'm no rhodes scholar but that question is just to easy: you call it having sex

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sun 02/12/12 01:19 PM Edited by sweetestgirl11 on Sun 02/12/12 01:20 PM
i knew a couple once, they were swingers. it eventually led to jealousy hurt anger. i think if you really love someone, it's not meant to be shared. JMHO zactly bastet it is a very special bond between 2 people that is unique to the 2 of them - it cannot be shared or duplicated with another and if u love each other it cannot be equalled by being with another it is unique AND qualitatively preferred that is why it is so hurtful when you desire another or are unfaithful if your partner is not qualitatively preferred then u are not in love (my opinion) if you can readily share your partner and be OK with that you are not in love

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sun 02/12/12 01:25 PM
Fair enough a relationship is hard work no matter how many ppl are in it, but in most relationships it ends due to the fact that either someone cheated or someones needs are not meet. So why not take that out of the issues you have? So you're assuming that everyone is going to cheat? Not at all. I just beleve you should be true to who you are. There are some people who know that they cant be with one person for the rest of there life but they dont want to be without some one either. then he needs to grow up, put on his big boy pants and choose what is most important because not many women will settle for that arrangement if you love a woman who will not settle for that arrangement the choice should be simple

TBRich Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 8232	Sun 02/12/12 01:31 PM
Actually Swinging couples are generally shown to be happier than others, which of course depends on both parties wanting the lifestyle. This is like most things, you both have to want it.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Sun 02/12/12 01:33 PM Edited by msharmony on Sun 02/12/12 01:34 PM
Actually Swinging couples are generally shown to be happier than others, which of course depends on both parties wanting the lifestyle. This is like most things, you both have to want it. Im just curious how 'happiness' is gauged in such findings,,,, kids who eat junk and candy may be 'happier' than those being made to eat healthier,,,,,but how fleeting and temporary and relevant is that type of happiness?

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sun 02/12/12 01:34 PM
Actually Swinging couples are generally shown to be happier than others, which of course depends on both parties wanting the lifestyle. This is like most things, you both have to want it. I doubt that is true ( the happier part - as I have mostly observed the opposite) but I do agree that it is something both would have to want for it to be successful just like many other things between a couple

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Sun 02/12/12 01:36 PM
Actually Swinging couples are generally shown to be happier than others, which of course depends on both parties wanting the lifestyle. This is like most things, you both have to want it. I doubt that is true ( the happier part - as I have mostly observed the opposite) but I do agree that it is something both would have to want for it to be successful just like many other things between a couple exactly, its being fulfilled in terms of what is important to YOU,, and the same for your partner,,,

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sun 02/12/12 01:37 PM
Actually Swinging couples are generally shown to be happier than others, which of course depends on both parties wanting the lifestyle. This is like most things, you both have to want it. I doubt that is true ( the happier part - as I have mostly observed the opposite) but I do agree that it is something both would have to want for it to be successful just like many other things between a couple exactly, its being fulfilled in terms of what is important to YOU,, and the same for your partner,,, right adn most of the open situations I have observed it is usually one partner pressuring the other into accepting or trying the arrangement against their wishes

irisheyes79 Joined Sat 11/10/07 Posts: 16745	Mon 02/13/12 07:53 AM
i have a few secrets which for the time shall be until further notice the shock n wow factor would be too much for peeps here

lowdrag79 Joined Wed 12/24/08 Posts: 26	Tue 02/14/12 08:23 PM Edited by lowdrag79 on Tue 02/14/12 08:26 PM
i knew a couple once, they were swingers. it eventually led to jealousy hurt anger. i think if you really love someone, it's not meant to be shared. JMHO zactly bastet it is a very special bond between 2 people that is unique to the 2 of them - it cannot be shared or duplicated with another and if u love each other it cannot be equalled by being with another it is unique AND qualitatively preferred that is why it is so hurtful when you desire another or are unfaithful if your partner is not qualitatively preferred then u are not in love (my opinion) if you can readily share your partner and be OK with that you are not in love Why does it have to just 2? for those who are " poly" or have multiple people in there relationships...ie some men with multi wifes , or a wife with multi hubby s ?? or even thoes who have multi wifes and hubbies in one relationship??? is it that we can only have 1 love at a time?

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Tue 02/14/12 08:33 PM Edited by sweetestgirl11 on Tue 02/14/12 08:35 PM
i knew a couple once, they were swingers. it eventually led to jealousy hurt anger. i think if you really love someone, it's not meant to be shared. JMHO zactly bastet it is a very special bond between 2 people that is unique to the 2 of them - it cannot be shared or duplicated with another and if u love each other it cannot be equalled by being with another it is unique AND qualitatively preferred that is why it is so hurtful when you desire another or are unfaithful if your partner is not qualitatively preferred then u are not in love (my opinion) if you can readily share your partner and be OK with that you are not in love Why does it have to just 2? for those who are " poly" or have multiple people in there relationships...ie some men with multi wifes , or a wife with multi hubby s ?? or even thoes who have multi wifes and hubbies in one relationship??? is it that we can only have 1 love at a time? reread the thread unique no two people are the same every one on one bond we have is unique as is the love relationship the love bond is qualitatively unique - if you love someone else as well as me (for exmple - I in no way mean this personally ) - then you do not have a unique and qualitatively strong bond -that cannot be duplicated - no one wants to share something that special with a 3rd prty poly - they are not in love- if u are OK wiht sharing me I am not OK with that it would mean that you do not place enough value on our bond and I have never seen it last mire than a few weeks anyway -

lowdrag79 Joined Wed 12/24/08 Posts: 26	Tue 02/14/12 09:22 PM
i knew a couple once, they were swingers. it eventually led to jealousy hurt anger. i think if you really love someone, it's not meant to be shared. JMHO zactly bastet it is a very special bond between 2 people that is unique to the 2 of them - it cannot be shared or duplicated with another and if u love each other it cannot be equalled by being with another it is unique AND qualitatively preferred that is why it is so hurtful when you desire another or are unfaithful if your partner is not qualitatively preferred then u are not in love (my opinion) if you can readily share your partner and be OK with that you are not in love Why does it have to just 2? for those who are " poly" or have multiple people in there relationships...ie some men with multi wifes , or a wife with multi hubby s ?? or even thoes who have multi wifes and hubbies in one relationship??? is it that we can only have 1 love at a time? reread the thread unique no two people are the same every one on one bond we have is unique as is the love relationship the love bond is qualitatively unique - if you love someone else as well as me (for exmple - I in no way mean this personally ) - then you do not have a unique and qualitatively strong bond -that cannot be duplicated - no one wants to share something that special with a 3rd prty poly - they are not in love- if u are OK wiht sharing me I am not OK with that it would mean that you do not place enough value on our bond and I have never seen it last mire than a few weeks anyway - SO does that apply when you have children, do you only have 1, or do have only 1 to love??

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Tue 02/14/12 09:27 PM
i knew a couple once, they were swingers. it eventually led to jealousy hurt anger. i think if you really love someone, it's not meant to be shared. JMHO zactly bastet it is a very special bond between 2 people that is unique to the 2 of them - it cannot be shared or duplicated with another and if u love each other it cannot be equalled by being with another it is unique AND qualitatively preferred that is why it is so hurtful when you desire another or are unfaithful if your partner is not qualitatively preferred then u are not in love (my opinion) if you can readily share your partner and be OK with that you are not in love Why does it have to just 2? for those who are " poly" or have multiple people in there relationships...ie some men with multi wifes , or a wife with multi hubby s ?? or even thoes who have multi wifes and hubbies in one relationship??? is it that we can only have 1 love at a time? reread the thread unique no two people are the same every one on one bond we have is unique as is the love relationship the love bond is qualitatively unique - if you love someone else as well as me (for exmple - I in no way mean this personally ) - then you do not have a unique and qualitatively strong bond -that cannot be duplicated - no one wants to share something that special with a 3rd prty poly - they are not in love- if u are OK wiht sharing me I am not OK with that it would mean that you do not place enough value on our bond and I have never seen it last mire than a few weeks anyway - SO does that apply when you have children, do you only have 1, or do have only 1 to love?? I think you are just trying to rationalize here do u just like to pick arguments? if u think the love for kids is the same as love beween intimate partners we got no more to talk about that's just some sick shyte

lowdrag79 Joined Wed 12/24/08 Posts: 26	Tue 02/14/12 09:31 PM
so no reply so you use personal attack?

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Tue 02/14/12 09:33 PM
so no reply so you use personal attack? there is no personal attack there but your false accusation and attempt at diversion form the issue is all the proof I need that I am right men don;t like women who are right but hell I've always known that meh - doesn;t mean the sex isn't good

lowdrag79 Joined Wed 12/24/08 Posts: 26	Tue 02/14/12 09:37 PM
so no reply so you use personal attack? there is no personal attack there but your false accusation and attempt at diversion form the issue is all the proof I need that I am right men don;t like women who are right but hell I've always known that meh - doesn;t mean the sex isn't good you you should only 1 person at time?? you lost me .. and what does you being a woman have to do with anything??