or not

i don't think that particular conversation can or should be forced NOT AT ALL - you will lose him

(or he would lose me if there was any backing me into a corner - I'd disappear so fast that you'd miss the dust off the backs of my boots)

so if it's not a good comfort level then it's not time for the conversation yet - and it's best to just let the friendhsip flow IMO

at some point but I think a friendship has to progress to a point where both people want to talk about where it's heading - as I said above it can't be forced or you will lose him/her

I'm not saying have the conversation on day one. I'm just saying that before assuming you are in an exclusive relationship, you have to talk about it.

yes that I agree with - I've learned that lesson the hard way

that's an awesome way of putting things - most of the men I have dated would prolly have smacked me if I said that - but whatever that was then this is now

and I think ur right if "he" doesn't want to talk about these things then maybe he's not the guy for me anyway (see #3 on seakolony's post - that's what I'm used to)

prolly not gonna happen but I like ur general attutude

the difference between us is that I want the friendhsip to develop and remain whether or not we end up as romantic partners - I don't see it so much a sorting process as I do a gathering in...

and I would prefer the guy to initiate conversations about where things are heading - that's just me

well first - I did not say that I have sex first

second - I got that idea from one of your posts where you dissed a guy because he wanted casual - see I might not bump him but I would want to stay friends unless he was a TT douche - which if he was Ima not gonna be talkin to him about sliding it slippery anyway

yes that happened once or twice in the past but it is not my normal "MO" - they were just some learning expereinces I guesss - I come from a place where people can be trusted- so, hey, "we're not in Kansas any more" was something I had to learn.


Are you sure it was he who wanted to argue, klc?

well klc frm what I can see you stay just as you are and lucky is the one who gets ya! I really appreciate the chance to bounce some thoughts and questions around w/ you & singme, thanks

well klc frm what I can see you stay just as you are and lucky is the one who gets ya! I really appreciate the chance to bounce some thoughts and questions around w/ you & singme, thanks

I think one of you mentioned these things should be able to come up in casual conversation or be felt on both sides...I will look back and find it..

I think it is normal when you start talking to the opposite sex on a frequent level, you should be very honest with your feelings, even if they are not...If you are having weird feelings about it, then discontinue that part of the relationship...ie sex---

Some guys are good friends, and some good lovers, some are both...and then there are some that are just BLAH altogether. If you are confused about your feeling for someone than stay clear from sexual relations until you sort it out.

Friendships are a relationship generally with some sort of emotion involved....even when i fight with some of my best girlfriends, it hurts if even just a little, when they do something or say something that comes across disrespectful....so

for everyone saying that friendships with benefits and having agreements/ it's not a contract for sex or anything, sheez....and that one guy said, have fun with your friend and have a good time but then go and have sex and expect nothing else in return....I expect things from all my friends, it's called respect and reliability. If it's just sex, purely sex, than it's not FWB. It's just cheap sex.

I'm not a woman, but I find the FWB **** to be a waste of time...Like getting a package of Oreo's that have no creme filling.

I gotta disagree......

Find a big girl...who just sucked down a case of Twinkies...

Lotsa creme filling and she is asleep during the sex so, this is a "Win/Win" situation.

agreed

i COULD be one,,,I mean,,hey,,we meet,,,we share,,,then we what? We get closer,,IF that goes GREAT we want to make more of that,,,if it doesn't we back away,,BUT,,in THAT process,,what have we did?
We WERE friends with benefits for a bit,,IF that is what YOU FEEL a need to place a name on friendship degrees of use,,,,wink,lol
As for me,,,to be VERY real and honest,,,GIVE ME THAT TRUTH,,as to FEED ME BS,,any day as to what YOU do with life and friends,,or me,,because I can HANDLE ANY TRUTHS,,,I just HATE lies and hiding what is someones REAL personal behavior or desires to live like...

I want,,and would LOVE to find a real caring love,,,but being real with life,,two people can be horny and love their love making with each other,,but not see that go any further,,Personally I would not want to do a FWB with a lady I KNEW I could not have MORE WITH,,because of fear SHE might desire me more,,and at that point of saying I didn't feel that way toward her,,would be hurtful to her,,and I live NOT to hurt anyones heart..Including mine,,but I mess that one up a bunch,,,lol

nothing wrong with F.W.B ur friends u have benefits! NO PROBLEM.just friends with nice benefits.keep it that way shouldnt be problem.if problems arise out of situation shut down benefits or start a relationship status with the friend if u both going in that direction.no problem!!