Soufie
Japan is way to far

sex could never be over rated, it doesn't get better than 2 compatible people engage in it. most of us cannot have get enough sex.

I mean, it was actually ment for reproduction, which is one of God's favorite things he gave 2 humans, so he also made it pleasurable...BUT humans also have sexual cravings that is hard 2 cope with, so we do "the deed" 2 satisfy our bodys way of telling us it is ready 2 make babies. So, is it really over rated? or is it just apart of human nature, even though God says to not do it out of wedlock?....the reason why God said don't do it out of wedlock is a totally different subject.

ok, lets speak virgin wise. All my friends told me that when they lost their virginity 2 the guys they thot loved them, ended up dumping my friends and they were hurt 4 a while, feeling stupid....I guess after a couple times you have sex, you end up having an "idc" attitude....this doesn't apply 2 married couples, but um if more girls give themselves up, then how would sex be special? just like currency, the 100 dollar bill currency is limited because if it was thousands more 100 dollar bills than currently circulated, it would lose its value and become like a penny, basically useless, because everyone would have it...so, if a girl didn't want 2 have sex because she feels, "why have sex now because on our honey moon (if we get married) sex would lose its value because he already knows what it is like 2 have sex with her, and might just move on to the next girl....relationships are not just based on sex anyway but, if all girls put out then what really is the point of marriage? most guys tell me they like a challenge and just use the girls that would "put out" after like 2 weeks, and I heard my bros friend say that the girls that do that have a low self esteem problem or whatever so they try to keep the guy by giving him whatever he wants but that doesn't work, so the marrying type are the ones that treat themselves as a prize and let the guy chase them......wait! im totally off topic (-_-) lol oh well

ok, lets speak virgin wise. All my friends told me that when they lost their virginity 2 the guys they thot loved them, ended up dumping my friends and they were hurt 4 a while, feeling stupid....I guess after a couple times you have sex, you end up having an "idc" attitude....this doesn't apply 2 married couples, but um if more girls give themselves up, then how would sex be special? just like currency, the 100 dollar bill currency is limited because if it was thousands more 100 dollar bills than currently circulated, it would lose its value and become like a penny, basically useless, because everyone would have it...so, if a girl didn't want 2 have sex because she feels, "why have sex now because on our honey moon (if we get married) sex would lose its value because he already knows what it is like 2 have sex with her, and might just move on to the next girl....relationships are not just based on sex anyway but, if all girls put out then what really is the point of marriage? most guys tell me they like a challenge and just use the girls that would "put out" after like 2 weeks, and I heard my bros friend say that the girls that do that have a low self esteem problem or whatever so they try to keep the guy by giving him whatever he wants but that doesn't work, so the marrying type are the ones that treat themselves as a prize and let the guy chase them......wait! im totally off topic (-_-) lol oh well

in this ^^ regard, using sex as a tool, i would say yes, over rated. nothing but selfish, manipulative and destructive behavior there.

it will BE special when you wait for someone special, and if the word "put out" has to be used to describe it, it's not special.

when you finally make it to a loving relationship with a healthy sex life, married or not, these questions won't need to be asked.

The definition of love.

“Sex is interesting, but it's not totally important. I mean it's not even as important (physically) as excretion. A man can go seventy years without a piece of a$$, but he can die in a week without a bowel movement.”

Charles Bukowski

Ok here's my view.

Sigh..

After you have sex for the first time, you wont see it the same anymore. You will see that he loves you and you love him and that will be enough for you to feel the comfort to continue to have sex, plus you will crave it now. Sex will become something you do on the normal, like drinking water, and you wont have second thoughts to continue the act with him.

After you break up or divorce. You no longer have his love. You no longer trust him. That comfort is gone. But you will begin to crave that comfort, affection, companionship and sex that you once had.

You can take different routes at this point.

As you said, have the "IDC" attitude and fck around to fill that void. I can tell you though, this usually doesn't end well. You will probably end up hurt. And yeah, we've all heard guys like the chase blah blah. But here's the thing. If the guy you really like isn't looking for a relationship/marriage, he's not going to stick around whether you do him or not.

The difference is that when he leaves, you can either be left hurt because you got attached after you did him, or have no regrets and move on.


There's too much to type. But yeah.

Sex is totally UNDERRATED! Just sayin... it should be more of a priority than some people make it. I believe it is absolutely essential to have plenty of sexual activity in order to keep a relationship strong.