I'm attracted to intelligence, but I think we can all safely say I am absolutely nothing like anyone else.

* playing Devil's Advocate here *

But, if there is no attraction at all in the first place, how likely is it that you would find out they were intelligent?

A dating site where you can read their words and gauge their intelligence that way being the exception.

That is why I'm not attracted to too many people, I have to have a conversation with them, guage their intelligence and go from there. Intelligence is my attraction, which is why I am more difficult and probably why I won't ever find anyone.

Intelligence shines...T.....it is clearly more obvious, than pretty hair or a pretty smile..

The obvious intelligence is a stand alone trait.....how a person holds themselves, how they observe others....their interaction with those around them...

You can see it from across a room.

Sometimes, though I've found this to be rare and inconclusive, therefore I won't date anyone I haven't had a long, good conversation with.

We all have our preferences, and I'm not trying to say mine is any higher than anyone else's. All I'm saying is that I'm attracted to intelligence and nothing more, I'll date a Gargoyle if it is one of the most intelligent Gargoyle's I've ever met (which wouldn't be hard considering I am yet to meet a Gargoyle).

Physical attraction matters not one bit, that all fades anyway. I don't want to date a super model that will look like a melted plastic toy when she gets older. I want to date someone that stimulates my mind, and it is always a plus if they can open my eyes to something or even teach me something I didn't know before. I'm sure you all know I am a very logical person, I figure this can't be that far-fetched to believe coming from a person like me.

That's no real experiment. Of course Men are Shallow. Women are shallow too. People can be shallow and deep. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but for most men, there are some general preferences that we all agree on...just like for women.. I know some good looking men who like BBWs (formerly fat girls) but I don't know any good looking women who go for a Lard-***-Couch-Potato Dudes.

In closing, women are just as shallow as men. More so, because often times, I see rich unattractive older men with young bimbos. Who's shallow there ?

hmmmm, how do you know they are bimbos? have you spoken with them and confirmed that analysis or do you just see them and automatically know?

men are shallow but so are women. men just admit it. young women with older men thats because older men are more mature, more experienced etc. look how many young boys go for older women. only remember most women over 30 start to lose their looks men don`t.

when it comes to pain, none of us are truly shallow, and we strive for the wisdom of....why.....and when it's not resolved, one turns to selfishness, and control....and it tarnishes our true feelings and soul, and is either learned, or not learned and repeated, but never the less, the answer is always there....it's whether we choose to acknowledge that answer or not, is to what we learn from it. selfishness and laziness are what make people look at the pictures, for it's the same reasons that a kid would eat desert for dinner, it's easy, good to taste and look at, and it's the easy way out, not the practical way out................................via, the communication problems most seem to have when forced to deal with problems in the relationship......

we've all heard......."i don't want to talk about it". more laziness, and of-course, the easy way out. everything is becoming temporary, and they want the "long haul", with perks, and without the effort to keep it.....they justify deserving it. boy are there gonna be some dissappointed people as time rolls on!

ringtones, fingernails, rims, Mc Donalds, proccessed box food with preservatives, reality shows, and an attentions span of 2.........it's where people feel safe.......these are the new world order.................temporarily!

hmmm, i notice a lot more outa-shape and ugly men as time rolls on.

and women in their 50's 60's and 70's that are fine as sh|t, while men in their thirties are beer bellied pigs.

i'm rather hidious looking, but in incredible shape, and terribly strong...... for what i have to do in life.....it's what your priorities happen to be, whether or not you improve yourself at what-ever age you are, and this includes excersizing ones brain, to keep one from being shallow.

and i'm no fall chicken. not even winter.

Looks ARE important.. who caressss though?
If you are not for someone you arent for someone.. find someone else!

Women are shallow as far as looks too, and if having looks be important is shallow.. include me in there too.. O well.


I go through TONS of mutual match, and its no,.. no .. nope. wtf? nooo...


Sorry, there needs to be interest or attraction.

I think men are total visual fools!! Jk

That's why the sex industry is as big as it is and almost all of it. Almost. Is geared to men

They just love to look
So what

Put up pics YOU WANT them to see

And let them enjoy !

shallow is just another word for preference,people who use the word shallow are upset cause someone turned them down or they simply have low self esteem.everyone is "shallow" to an extent,but its THEIR PREFERENCE so don't be hatin

(I haven't read the whole thread so this might've been mentioned)

If you send out a pic that implies you don't care enough to look nice for what is the first impression, it doesn't instill much confidence in the recipient. One might think "Hmm, am I going to pick this person up for a nice dinner and find he/she's wearing sweatpants or ratty jeans?"

You don't go out to meet people looking like you just rolled out of bed - why send a picture that looks like you did?

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And women are total audio fools. Generally, men are attracted by what they see; women by what they hear. Since talking is easier and cheaper than doing, in that regard at least, men have the advantage, one of the few that we as men have left. Wouldn't it be nice if men and women didn't play so many games? Ah, but would life be any fun without the games?

Um, who told you this? I'm not attracted by what I hear, I'm attracted by what I see. If a guy is hideous, he can talk til he's blue in the face, I won't be interested.

I knew this would happen, sometimes a post just requires a closer reading, lol. Read my post again, if you like, and notice I used the word "generally" at the beginning of my statement, thereby exonerating myself from any and all charges of making an absolute statement. And to the degree that I know what I'm talking about, it is not because I was "told" anything, but because I am smart enough and experienced enough to know, without anyone having to tell me.

I'm thinking this will not be printed in any Journal of Psychology...anywhere.

No, not the Journal of Psychology, but the Autodidact Quarterly!