I hear your pain.

The sad fact is that mostly men do the driving when you go for a ride, and the it's dangerous (for both of you) if he goes into a nap. Men are considerate that way, that they don't want to involve you in a fatal car accident right on the first date.

And the restaurant thing... well, if they are hungry, fine, but when they are trying to rush into a sexual encounter... a McDonald's seating area is not the best place. Those seats have been designed to feel really uncomfortable after 7 minutes of sitting on them. Do you want a seven-minute quickie????? I hope not.

I have fared even worse. Most women I chased in my 30s were 50+, and they all assumed I was after their money. Most did not have money.

Then I grew up, now I'm 55, and I chase 60 to 84-year-old beautiful women. They think I'm after their money.

Nothing could be farther from the truth. The real truth is that I honestly and sincerely want their bodies. I find a woman who's at least 5-10 years older than I and not too much overweight always delectable, desirable, and essentially loveable physically.

But... society's indoctrination works against me.

Hope I'm not out of line by jumping into this thread since I'm still 49..I'll be fifty in a few months!!!
I married later (in my 30s) and shortly after our wedding my husband began sleeping on the couch. He said it was more comfortable and he was only just falling asleep watching tv anyway so I shouldn't take it personally. Needless to say, I did take it personally!! I did whatever I could to entice him. Sometimes it worked, most times it didn't. Whenever it did work he'd still go back to the couch afterward. I gave up. It's not what I wanted out of marriage but for the sake of his kids and then our daughter I tried to just keep the peace in the house. I've had enough, filed for divorce and am looking forward to beginning a new life. I'm a social type of person, he's not. He would accuse me of not having "time for my family" whenever I went to some kind of social event at church or at a friend's house. I ended up distancing all of my friends and staying at home, usually just watching tv in my room, in order to avoid having him lose his temper.

Now I would like to meet a man near to my age who does not want to just sit at home. Of course I highly doubt I could get back into roller skating like I did as a teen but I really enjoy strolling around those little villages full of fun shops and coffee places! I love the ocean, strolling the boardwalk, movies and dancing. My ex never took me to the movies or dancing and hating eating out. But I love that stuff!! So I'd like to meet a man who enjoys those things as well.

Tell me, once you hit 50 guys do you just want to sit at home and veg? I have a friend from my teens that I just found through facebook and once he gets home from work he is not going back out! He's only 51, which I thought was young, but he shuffles along like an old man and once he gets home from work he wants to go to sleep. I've lived with that for 16 yrs and am not interested.

Sorry for the long rant! It's something I'd like to know about the 50+ crowd!
Debby

welcome to M2 Debby
I'm on my feet 8-9 hours a day so after a long day I just want to kick back. I do like to get out in the summer and listen to live music when they have it downtown. I hope you find what your looking for.

There's alot of womem that look great for being over 50,and yes I would like to have a girlfriend younger but for long term I think 50+ but the right one might be any age (over 21) lol!

That is so true.........men in their 50's late 40's want young things........I think it's for a status symbol.........see what I have!! What on earth can they have in common with a 20 something year old?

I'm a 53 years old guy, and would never dream of sleeping on the couch!!! After 50 and the kids are gone, It's Cruizin' all the time. Visiting all of New England. Winters do slow you down, But Cuddling by a fire is pretty Nice too!!

Steve

Debby, I, too, stayed in a bad marriage for the sake of the kids. It took me a little longer than you to decide enough was enough but at least we have. We just chose the wrong person. Enjoy your freedom and have a good time. Someone who is happy in their own life is much more attractive than a person who feels they need another to make them happy. So have a good time, girl, and rest will take care of itself!
Jayne

Thanks y'all! I am so looking forward to beginning my new life full of fun! I know it'll be helpful for my daughter as well. We are going to enjoy life and begin smiling.

If there are any men interested in women their age I would love to meet up with them..I am truly tired of attracting the 30 something crowd. I don't want a boy..I raised 3 of them.

I attract the

Twenties
Thirties
Forties

But the fiftiies love me!
And I love them!!

They are at their absolute sexiest at that age. JMO

From what I saw in your pictures I'm suprised that no on has scooped you up yet!

Everyone is so far away, it seems.

I know what you mean!

I am 53 and still work 12 to 14hrs a day building powerlines, I still climb with the youngsters, and I can come home clean up and and go out dancing for a few hrs. And I would rather have a woman about my age to do this with, L don't want arm candy, old sugar tastes better lol

I have to agree with Steve!

At my age the kids are grown

It's me and my man time!!!

If my man wants to do things24/7 I'm there by his side!

If he wants to do nothing but vegatate!! I'm there!!

At our age we just do it together!! A couple!!

A team!!

Good for you! I can attest to the fact that life is better after you are out of a relationship with the wrong person.

I married the wrong one, stuck it out for 34 years, and just didn't enjoy life much when I had a slew of responsibilities, but the relationship just wasn't right. It wasn't terrible, or I could not have stayed in it for so long....

But the freedom, the chance to be ME again, and the infinite possibilities life has to offer are incredible, now that I am on my own again!

So get out there. Be you. Enjoy life.

And when you need support, you have potential friends here in these
50 and over threads. Don't hesitate to ask

I'll be friends with anyone!and if I can help in any way I'll do it if I can!
Mike

I am not single by choice (nor in a bad relationship) but when my husband passed away 2 1/2 yrs ago I decided it was time to do for myself. May seem selfish but all my life I have taken care of others. I have done things I always wanted to do and have a list, crossing them off slowly.. I would like to have someone to share that with but I refuse to sit around and wait for them to find me...they will have to catch me...LOL I do have friends of all ages but prefer to have someone within 10 yrs of my age..

34 years? I think you are my hero..
It's been 16 for me. I think he really wanted someone to be a mother to his 3 children and that's why he pretended to be everything I wanted. Right after the wedding the facade came down and he changed. Once I realized that the verbal and emotional abuse was affecting our daughter so badly I knew I had to leave. Our fighting even caused her to try cutting.
I'm looking forward to our new life in sunny FL near supportive family members. This life was no life at all.
Thanks for the encouragement. Is it ok if I email you from time to time? I wouldn't mind having words of encouragement and friendship show up in my inbox!
Debby