Well said, Syn.
Guys need to take a look in the mirror & see if they think their actions EARN the desired attention.

Thanks Sage!
It does seem that the guy just whined to us and then ran away. I don't think he really wishes to see anything else but what he already perceives. We all (women and men) tend to wear blinders when we want something other than what we have, so that we can rationalize why we want something else.

Don't you think it is because people have had bad experiences! Men had a tendency to not tell the truth!

Well, you may be right. But there is one man, who is.

The problem is that while I am interested in women my age, very interested in women in their early sixties, and extremely interested in women in their seventies, I am only interested in good looking, cultured women of that range.

And god knows I'm not cultured or good looking myself.

But I still insist.

However, it's been the scourge of my life that some older women ALWAYS presupposed that I want them for their money. Whereas I wanted them, always, for nothing but their bodies and company, and nothing else.

So... a young 55-year-old like me... what am I to do?

I'm tellin' ya... These gun-totin' Americans, with their right to bare arms.

"I love you... please don't shoot me." Bang.

"International diplomacy... please don't shoot me." Bang.

"What can we learn from our past? Ask history. Please don't shoot me." Bang.

"Ask not, etc. Please don't shoot me." Bang.

"Raising the young, the answer to our future... don't shoot me." Bang.

"everything else..." Bang.

(Good to see you here, man.)

I can only respond from my perspective. Currently I am 70 and I have a little trouble thinking about dating a woman of the same age. In my experience (certainly where I live) they don't seem to be interested in much except sitting around the house, chatting with the other 'crones', looking after their grandchildren, getting obese and waiting to die.

I came to Mexico 20 years ago, met, fell hopelessly in love and married a woman 23 years my junior. We had a complete and blessed relationship until she passed away 3 and a half years ago of cancer. In retrospect, she gave me back 20 years of a dormant lifestyle. Her relative youth. Her 'joi de vivre', dedication and loyalty literally brought me back to life. We partied, we danced on the beach, we drove our ATVs, we enjoyed the beautiful Sea of Cortez in our boat, we camped, traveled, we raised her children and we loved each other. Am I wrong to wish for something similar now that I am a widower?

While I appreciate that I am limiting my choices here in our small village but it doesn't make any sense to have a relationship with another 'very senior' person. I have way too much living to do. I own and operate a beachfront cantina and work 12 to 14 hours a day and I play just as hard. I am not planning for a future, I am in it and I want to enjoy it with someone who can enjoy it with me. At the same time I can help prepare her and her children for theirs.

Age is just a number and does not exist where true love is involved. After all love is not a feeling, it is an ability, and saddly some never develope the ability.

YES some men won't date women their own age but fior decent and mature men, there is usually a reason.

Generally, midlife crisis has a lot to do with it; they see their life as half over when they look in the mirror. The glory days are gone and these men don't want to face the fact that they're older; and in most cases, not appealing to the 20-30-40 age range. It may take awhile, but they usually come around to realizing that even though they want a spring chicken, the spring chicken doesn't want an old ****, and they'll accept the fact that although our boobs aren't as high and tight as they used to be, neither is their scrotum.

Very well said

My kids have a problem keeping up with me.. made me get a phone and have to check in...who is the mother here..LOL I intend to live the rest of my life on the go as much as possible as I know the day will come when I can't. I am waiting on no one and if someone wants me, they will have to catch me...

Or maybe a little red sports car like a BMW,(which is also known as "Bald Man with Wallet)

You know what, I tried that, and it worked.

At between 40 and 45 I was convinced each year that it would be my last to be able to recruit a woman into the bedroom, and I went all-out. At forty-five I gave up smoking, gained weight, became first a diabetic, then a diabolic, then a diatribe.

So don't place too much emphasis please on self-fulfilling prophecies, because the risk is alway there that they work.

That's one thing. The other is that they want the man to do a complete romantic performance, with no or little help from the chorus. These young ladies take it easy, they just lie back and relax during the entire ordeal, maybe read a magazine or take a cat-nap. It's always the man who has to put out and do the more strenuous work.

Some even want us old geezers to run or sail or lift heavy weights.

I didn't do any of that in my thirties! Why do they think I'd wanna start now?

Oh... and their kids. They plant frogs in my white beard or make slingshots out of the elastic strands in my suspenders. The little scoundrels have no respect for old men.

This is no country for old men.

My old gf used to say, "old men are not thankful, they are not grateful, nor helpful; they're full of something completely different."

Girls got a good life going on at her age one could hope. Plus one of the sweetest ladies. Good, happy, attutude and love for life :)

I like this answer.

Although it is true that some are not, for a variety of reasons, it is more likely that you will find those men who are definitely interested in those of their age group, with whom they have a common history. Because they actually by far outnumber the few who are just looking for a hot young babe.

In my experience there are many who believe that age really doesn't matter, and with the right person, it does not. So don't give up, keep looking, Love is Patient..., He's out there.

Personally I think it's "different strokes for different folks", we all have a personal agenda of what we do or don't want. So if someone prefers someone older/younger, well good luck to them Here we go again, same ol,same ol, younger women/older men, younger men/older women nah nah nah.........

I would date a woman 10 years older than me, No Prob. They tend to like the same Music I do.

Thanks Carol