Quads frequently get infections, all their muscles atrophy. Things tend to get worse by each passing year. I work with quads on ventilators.

I'm just wondering, was there insurance from the accident?

If there was, do they have outside help? Respite?

It is a really huge task they have taken on....I feel for him.... trapped in a body that won't work...and for her, being a carer 24/7 is huge...

yea but having this happen to you is bad enough, then having the one you love leave you... I really think he would literally die if she left...just give up and die. I think that is part of why she stays.

Yes, quite a large settlement. That helps alot. She has to pay someone to be there while she works, special equipment, many expenses. The settlement takes care of that.

I just want to cry for both of them....


And yet, they are inspiring also....

they really are love in motion... and the 'in sickness and in health'...


pass on my kudos....please.

That is sad I don't know what to think about that

I will pass on the kudos Thanks
They are both great people. I have known her since before she met him, was at their wedding.. very sad to watch when you love them both so much. Also I am able to feel what both of them feel...like really feel their pain. Difficult to watch those you love hurt so much. We have all experienced that I'm sure.

Seriously here, if my wife was paralyzed I would take care of her, and I would take care of myself (not with another woman). The thing about the wife in this situation that bothers me is she only lasted 10 months before seeking self satisfaction. Maybe I am wrong, but that seems like a pretty short time after years of love and marriage. jmo

i have a friend who was paralyzed from the chest down and he told me once that in order to keep his long time girlfriend he said she could have affairs just as long as he didn't know about it. he didn't want to be alone. its scary.

but ....

in the end it killed his heart. to know she was out there... with other men getting what he couldn't give her killed him inside.

he told me he wished she'd have just left him.

That horrible!!!!

ABSOLUTELY

She has a pretty big support group of family and friends. His family is supportive of her even knowing what she is doing... I know some of his family and honestly I think they would rather have her doing what she is doing, I don't think they want to be bothered taking care of him... sad to say.

maybe he gave her his blessing?

personally, if my partner was having sex with anybody else during our relationship, for whatever reason, and i found out, we would be over as a team.

if he were not capable of loving, and honouring, me in the sickness part of it, the time when i most need his loyalty and devotion, then i don't want any part of his pity and if i were able, i'd help him pack his bags.



how cruel and inconsiderate i think this is, that she is not allowed and capable of making her own decision of whether or not she wants to stay with the man that she loves.

maybe she doesn't want to be saved by him, from him?

Most excellent point..

My Uncle who is a great man!

His wife at 21yrs old right after they got married had a child, then she developed MS only shortly after that diabeties. so for 47yrs my uncle took care of his wife.

Dose he not have the right to love physicaly a women who can not ever have sex, could you imagine laying on a person that can not move or make motion? it is a loss feeling of a soul, the person you love more then life can not love you back the way you need them to love you.

All the words and patts on the back is never going to be the same as two souls coming together to make one.

I will say this, after there 47yrs and him being with his girlfriend for 27yrs. When his wife passed away, at 67yr old he got married to his long long time girlfriend and they have been happy ever since.

They also still live in the same house as his wife that has passed away.. Yes my aunt.

I lived with a man who had Parkinson's and he could not perform, so the answer is yes, I would do with out for my love for him was faithfulness... Honer and Respect....

For better or worst in sickness and health, death do us apart.

End of my $3.00.... He did not want a women to live like this so he left to go home to were he was born to die! with out ME and MY family............ Selfishness... or a selfless deed?

Your the kind of woman some men would die for. that was beautiful

When you love you love whatever.

It's a hard situation to judge until you are in face of it and whatever i think now might be very different if I'm ever in front of it myself.

I respect her love for him but understand her needs, right now if it was me in the wheelchair I would let my lover get what she needs because I love her to.

My concern is that she may fall in love with one of her affairs but i can see where she may get lonely.
it would be very difficult to make that decision.

I understand one has needs but we are not controlled by our bodies, by our emotions. We can choose to create better standards even in rough situations such as this if we really wish to do so, we were given minds for a reason.

In my mind, if you commit to someone, then you commit to them to the bitter end, in mind, body and soul, no matter what happens to the other.