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Topic: Is it you or them?
DTHRomeo Joined Wed 06/20/07 Posts: 43387	Thu 06/04/09 10:40 PM
Now thats a proposal!!!! When do you start......errrrrrrr I mean.........when do we get married??? Whenever baby! (I got the feeling i might be asking again for the 5th Time sometime later)You set the date honey bun

DTHRomeo Joined Wed 06/20/07 Posts: 43387	Thu 06/04/09 10:41 PM
I know exactly why princess.....because Im not actively looking for anyone. I never have since Ive been here. Im me.....take me or leave me. In real life.....I work such odd hours.... But is that really the reason? or have I been hiding???? wow! that was deep The boobas get deep sometimes.....

JustAGuy2112 Joined Sun 12/16/07 Posts: 18033	Thu 06/04/09 10:41 PM
Do you ever wonder why it's so hard to meet someone you'd like to date? Of course you do we all do.. Do you think it's distance? I used to, I don't anymore... Do we set our criteria/expectations to high? Anyone mentions nice guys/girls as a reason gets shot by the firing squad... Oh and let's concentrate on the POSITIVE not the "women suck or men suck" b/c that's bullsh*t! I firmly believe that people simply set their criteria much higher than can be reasonably expected. Thanks to Hollywood ( not to mention quite a few posts around dating sites like this one ) people have been told to " never settle " for anyone who isn't " perfect " for them. I would think that when looking through the rose colored glasses people are so fond of that the " perfect " someone just may be out there. But for those who are grounded in reality, the idea of the " perfect " person for you, me, whatever, simply isn't a reality. For instance, I like a WIDE variety of music. From some classical, to horror punk. Being that scattered in what I listen to makes the likelihood of finding someone who likes exactly the same kind of music ( " perfect " for me ) very slim. I have stopped looking for some that is " perfect " for me in every way, and am now just looking for someone who can take me as I am and feel that I am good enough.

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Thu 06/04/09 10:41 PM
Now thats a proposal!!!! When do you start......errrrrrrr I mean.........when do we get married??? Whenever baby! (I got the feeling i might be asking again for the 5th Time sometime later)You set the date honey bun I'll let ya know!!

DTHRomeo Joined Wed 06/20/07 Posts: 43387	Thu 06/04/09 10:43 PM
Now thats a proposal!!!! When do you start......errrrrrrr I mean.........when do we get married??? Whenever baby! (I got the feeling i might be asking again for the 5th Time sometime later)You set the date honey bun I'll let ya know!! Sweet!

IndnPrncs Joined Sun 11/04/07 Posts: 58420	Thu 06/04/09 10:43 PM
Do you ever wonder why it's so hard to meet someone you'd like to date? Of course you do we all do.. Do you think it's distance? I used to, I don't anymore... Do we set our criteria/expectations to high? Anyone mentions nice guys/girls as a reason gets shot by the firing squad... Oh and let's concentrate on the POSITIVE not the "women suck or men suck" b/c that's bullsht! cause women suck fire away.... Nice try tough guy but I said "nice guy/girl" being mentioned.. The other I just called BULLSHT...

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Thu 06/04/09 10:44 PM
Do you ever wonder why it's so hard to meet someone you'd like to date? Of course you do we all do.. Do you think it's distance? I used to, I don't anymore... Do we set our criteria/expectations to high? Anyone mentions nice guys/girls as a reason gets shot by the firing squad... Oh and let's concentrate on the POSITIVE not the "women suck or men suck" b/c that's bullsht! I firmly believe that people simply set their criteria much higher than can be reasonably expected. Thanks to Hollywood ( not to mention quite a few posts around dating sites like this one ) people have been told to " never settle " for anyone who isn't " perfect " for them. I would think that when looking through the rose colored glasses people are so fond of that the " perfect " someone just may be out there. But for those who are grounded in reality, the idea of the " perfect " person for you, me, whatever, simply isn't a reality. For instance, I like a WIDE variety of music. From some classical, to horror punk. Being that scattered in what I listen to makes the likelihood of finding someone who likes exactly the same kind of music ( " perfect " for me ) very slim. I have stopped looking for some that is " perfect " for me in every way, and am now just looking for someone who can take me as I am and feel that I am good enough. Your tastes in music shouldnt make or break it. I have an electic music repertroire. I dont go by that. I go by if we can be "real" with another and he definately needs to treat me like the fab o lous person I am. If not........*** off!!!

DTHRomeo Joined Wed 06/20/07 Posts: 43387	Thu 06/04/09 10:44 PM
I must thank Prncs for letting me propose to Gypsy Without kicking me out of her thread for high jacking

JustAGuy2112 Joined Sun 12/16/07 Posts: 18033	Thu 06/04/09 10:46 PM
I don't know Gyps, I think you've hit on something.. HIDING... We play on here and hang with our friends and love chatting but really we're not looking for something it would have to hit us upside the head... and everyone is far away that I connect with on that level. What are there? 4 canadians on here??? Heyyyyy...I'm CLOSE to Canada. LOL

IndnPrncs Joined Sun 11/04/07 Posts: 58420	Thu 06/04/09 10:46 PM
Do you ever wonder why it's so hard to meet someone you'd like to date? Of course you do we all do.. Do you think it's distance? I used to, I don't anymore... Do we set our criteria/expectations to high? Anyone mentions nice guys/girls as a reason gets shot by the firing squad... Oh and let's concentrate on the POSITIVE not the "women suck or men suck" b/c that's bullsh*t! I firmly believe that people simply set their criteria much higher than can be reasonably expected. Thanks to Hollywood ( not to mention quite a few posts around dating sites like this one ) people have been told to " never settle " for anyone who isn't " perfect " for them. I would think that when looking through the rose colored glasses people are so fond of that the " perfect " someone just may be out there. But for those who are grounded in reality, the idea of the " perfect " person for you, me, whatever, simply isn't a reality. For instance, I like a WIDE variety of music. From some classical, to horror punk. Being that scattered in what I listen to makes the likelihood of finding someone who likes exactly the same kind of music ( " perfect " for me ) very slim. I have stopped looking for some that is " perfect " for me in every way, and am now just looking for someone who can take me as I am and feel that I am good enough. Ahhhhhhhhhh you just made me think of something that I had forgotten b/c it's been so long since I've been there... I do think that when we meet someone that just has something that gets us, I think we let them get away with some of those things that we wouldn't let others.. Perfect is not necessarily what we're looking for b/c who is perfect for me may not be perfect for another, etc.

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Thu 06/04/09 10:48 PM
I don't know Gyps, I think you've hit on something.. HIDING... We play on here and hang with our friends and love chatting but really we're not looking for something it would have to hit us upside the head... and everyone is far away that I connect with on that level. What are there? 4 canadians on here??? Heyyyyy...I'm CLOSE to Canada. LOL YA and Im on the left side of the map above washington state.

IndnPrncs Joined Sun 11/04/07 Posts: 58420	Thu 06/04/09 10:49 PM
I don't know Gyps, I think you've hit on something.. HIDING... We play on here and hang with our friends and love chatting but really we're not looking for something it would have to hit us upside the head... and everyone is far away that I connect with on that level. What are there? 4 canadians on here??? Heyyyyy...I'm CLOSE to Canada. LOL YA and Im on the left side of the map above washington state. Sorry Murphy's Law.. No worries Romeo

JustAGuy2112 Joined Sun 12/16/07 Posts: 18033	Thu 06/04/09 10:49 PM
Do you ever wonder why it's so hard to meet someone you'd like to date? Of course you do we all do.. Do you think it's distance? I used to, I don't anymore... Do we set our criteria/expectations to high? Anyone mentions nice guys/girls as a reason gets shot by the firing squad... Oh and let's concentrate on the POSITIVE not the "women suck or men suck" b/c that's bullsht! I firmly believe that people simply set their criteria much higher than can be reasonably expected. Thanks to Hollywood ( not to mention quite a few posts around dating sites like this one ) people have been told to " never settle " for anyone who isn't " perfect " for them. I would think that when looking through the rose colored glasses people are so fond of that the " perfect " someone just may be out there. But for those who are grounded in reality, the idea of the " perfect " person for you, me, whatever, simply isn't a reality. For instance, I like a WIDE variety of music. From some classical, to horror punk. Being that scattered in what I listen to makes the likelihood of finding someone who likes exactly the same kind of music ( " perfect " for me ) very slim. I have stopped looking for some that is " perfect " for me in every way, and am now just looking for someone who can take me as I am and feel that I am good enough. Your tastes in music shouldnt make or break it. I have an electic music repertroire. I dont go by that. I go by if we can be "real" with another and he definately needs to treat me like the fab o lous person I am. If not........*** off!!! I'm not saying that it's a deal breaker, Gypsy. It never has been for me. Although it actually has been for a couple of women I have met. They just couldn't deal with the stuff I listen to. All I am saying is that the ideal of a " perfect one " for everyone is nothing more than a fairy tale. People want what they want. I totally understand that. But, when you set the standards so high that there isn't much chance of anyone ever being able to meet them, then it becomes hiding from the reality of the world rather than actually looking for someone that will love you in the way you deserve. Even if they aren't that " perfect " person.

Jtevans Joined Fri 08/10/07 Posts: 30654	Thu 06/04/09 10:50 PM
Do you ever wonder why it's so hard to meet someone you'd like to date? Of course you do we all do.. Do you think it's distance? I used to, I don't anymore... Do we set our criteria/expectations to high? Anyone mentions nice guys/girls as a reason gets shot by the firing squad... Oh and let's concentrate on the POSITIVE not the "women suck or men suck" b/c that's bullsht! cause women suck fire away.... Nice try tough guy but I said "nice guy/girl" being mentioned.. The other I just called BULLSHT... i was so close....

JustAGuy2112 Joined Sun 12/16/07 Posts: 18033	Thu 06/04/09 10:50 PM
I don't know Gyps, I think you've hit on something.. HIDING... We play on here and hang with our friends and love chatting but really we're not looking for something it would have to hit us upside the head... and everyone is far away that I connect with on that level. What are there? 4 canadians on here??? Heyyyyy...I'm CLOSE to Canada. LOL YA and Im on the left side of the map above washington state. DAMMIT!!!! I could always move to California....lmao

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Thu 06/04/09 10:53 PM
Do you ever wonder why it's so hard to meet someone you'd like to date? Of course you do we all do.. Do you think it's distance? I used to, I don't anymore... Do we set our criteria/expectations to high? Anyone mentions nice guys/girls as a reason gets shot by the firing squad... Oh and let's concentrate on the POSITIVE not the "women suck or men suck" b/c that's bullsht! I firmly believe that people simply set their criteria much higher than can be reasonably expected. Thanks to Hollywood ( not to mention quite a few posts around dating sites like this one ) people have been told to " never settle " for anyone who isn't " perfect " for them. I would think that when looking through the rose colored glasses people are so fond of that the " perfect " someone just may be out there. But for those who are grounded in reality, the idea of the " perfect " person for you, me, whatever, simply isn't a reality. For instance, I like a WIDE variety of music. From some classical, to horror punk. Being that scattered in what I listen to makes the likelihood of finding someone who likes exactly the same kind of music ( " perfect " for me ) very slim. I have stopped looking for some that is " perfect " for me in every way, and am now just looking for someone who can take me as I am and feel that I am good enough. Your tastes in music shouldnt make or break it. I have an electic music repertroire. I dont go by that. I go by if we can be "real" with another and he definately needs to treat me like the fab o lous person I am. If not........*** off!!! I'm not saying that it's a deal breaker, Gypsy. It never has been for me. Although it actually has been for a couple of women I have met. They just couldn't deal with the stuff I listen to. All I am saying is that the ideal of a " perfect one " for everyone is nothing more than a fairy tale. People want what they want. I totally understand that. But, when you set the standards so high that there isn't much chance of anyone ever being able to meet them, then it becomes hiding from the reality of the world rather than actually looking for someone that will love you in the way you deserve. Even if they aren't that " perfect " person. Im not looking for perfect. I know Im not perfect. Im just want what is perfect for me.....someone who "gets" me. And still likes me!!!

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Thu 06/04/09 10:53 PM
I don't know Gyps, I think you've hit on something.. HIDING... We play on here and hang with our friends and love chatting but really we're not looking for something it would have to hit us upside the head... and everyone is far away that I connect with on that level. What are there? 4 canadians on here??? Heyyyyy...I'm CLOSE to Canada. LOL YA and Im on the left side of the map above washington state. DAMMIT!!!! I could always move to California....lmao I heard cali was the hardest hit in the recession. Maybe not such a good idea.

JustAGuy2112 Joined Sun 12/16/07 Posts: 18033	Thu 06/04/09 10:55 PM
I don't know Gyps, I think you've hit on something.. HIDING... We play on here and hang with our friends and love chatting but really we're not looking for something it would have to hit us upside the head... and everyone is far away that I connect with on that level. What are there? 4 canadians on here??? Heyyyyy...I'm CLOSE to Canada. LOL YA and Im on the left side of the map above washington state. DAMMIT!!!! I could always move to California....lmao I heard cali was the hardest hit in the recession. Maybe not such a good idea. There is a whole state full of people here in Michigan that would beg to differ about that. Remember, our state's economy was almost entirely based on the auto industry.

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Thu 06/04/09 10:56 PM
I don't know Gyps, I think you've hit on something.. HIDING... We play on here and hang with our friends and love chatting but really we're not looking for something it would have to hit us upside the head... and everyone is far away that I connect with on that level. What are there? 4 canadians on here??? Heyyyyy...I'm CLOSE to Canada. LOL YA and Im on the left side of the map above washington state. Its just what I read in Macleans magazine.......... DAMMIT!!!! I could always move to California....lmao I heard cali was the hardest hit in the recession. Maybe not such a good idea. There is a whole state full of people here in Michigan that would beg to differ about that. Remember, our state's economy was almost entirely based on the auto industry.

moofooga Joined Thu 01/31/08 Posts: 25515	Thu 06/04/09 10:56 PM
I don't know Gyps, I think you've hit on something.. HIDING... We play on here and hang with our friends and love chatting but really we're not looking for something it would have to hit us upside the head... and everyone is far away that I connect with on that level. What are there? 4 canadians on here??? Heyyyyy...I'm CLOSE to Canada. LOL YA and Im on the left side of the map above washington state. DAMMIT!!!! I could always move to California....lmao I heard cali was the hardest hit in the recession. Maybe not such a good idea. There is a whole state full of people here in Michigan that would beg to differ about that. Remember, our state's economy was almost entirely based on the auto industry. That's definitely true... but Cali is a CLOSE third behind Vermont. And yeah- it IS getting really hard hit in this recession.