I guess I should add that there was two beautiful children that came out of the relationship and that a few years back my ex sent me a Christmas card telling me that she still thought of me. The card scared me so bad. It still gives me nightmares. Grief was bad enough but that card and how many years we tried to make it work. It really gave me a real healthy fear of her. I keep my distance. If I would see her walking down the street and she crossed my path. OMG and I am not really a superstitious person.

Jst got back from the Vet.......sighhhhh, we don't know what happened, but we figure it was a bee or spider bite/sting. He may have puked as part of the allergic reaction, and the vet gave him a shot of benedryl and some anitbiotics for the runny nose and sneezing. Whole thing cost me 42 bucks. I knowthat is low but for me it is a fortune. Sure glad I don't smoke anymore. he is fine now. All full of piss and vinigar.......

Scared the **** outta me though. I was washing out the water dish outside and I turn around and his whole face was puffed up bad. Called the vet and took him in. Got lost going there too since I had never been there before.

All seems to be well, but I will have to spray the yard and keep them in the back yard for a few days. Doc said it could even be red ants and we just seem to have had those show up here. Two years Ive lived here and no ants at all. now red ones...where the hell do they come from?

Roy, I just don't know what to say about your story. I don't understand people who remarry thier ex's......it's beyond me, but Im glad you learned your lesson, even if it tok so long. Now you can share and maybe save someone else from the expirience. Gotta give you credit for having balls.

Roy, I'm glad you (unlike my oldest aunt) decided after the second didn't work out to stay away from her. My Aunt Margie married the same man three (yes THREE)times, when he died of complications due to the car wreck he was in.....the marriage was headed for divorce again and we all know Margie. If they would've divorced, it would've only been a matter of time before they got back together again.

Oh, so true Karen and Amber. Do I still love my ex? Yes, I do. But I am the reason she had to take Prozac. She was even telling me like Amber was talking about about how she knew someone who had married 5 times to the same person and even at the divorce court she even asked me if I wanted to go through the divorce. She told me that she still loved me even after the cold shoulder she gave me. I have found that irrevocable differences are just that. And that it wouldn't matter how many times we could have could gotten married that they would just still be there. It has the same logic of shooting a dead horse. I mean why. Its dead isn't it? Oh, its easy to understand from my point of view, Karen. It is simply insanity pure and simple. Making the same mistake over and over and expecting different results. Like maybe if I drink poison today it won't hurt me like it did, yesterday.

Yeah, I can't judge anyone on that either, my ex fiancee left me four times and i took him every single time until i finally left him

I am glad you can understand, Amber. I just thought to myself then. This is crazy. All we had together was compatibility and sex at one time. Not what you would really call friendship. I mean I really didn't know her. We couldn't have a conversation without it turning into an argument. I had some block that would cause me to rage. It was a moment of clarity when I would rather be with my friends rather than with her because they were my friends. I had gotten where I liked being with friends. Some how we didn't have a friendship. She helped me a lot. Things she ponted out to me helped to identify character defects that without her help I wouldn't had any way of knowing. After the grief process I was tempted to marry her again if she would have gone through with it. I was lucky though she had a boy friend. My deceased taught me a lot. She told me not to be with her just out of loneliness or even out of compatibility or even sexual attraction. What I really liked about her was that she was really my friend. I have really missed my friend because she died but because of her I am meeting new friends everyday. I think one of the many things so women have taught me is that friendship should come first before anything because what do you have if you don't have friendship? In the end to me friendship is the most important thing in a relationship. Everything else is just like window dressing.

Morning peeps well off to school I go for my longest day of the week. Ugh! Hope you all have a better day that I will. hugs.

it's been a pretty long day for me too Karen.....i had dance class again, then i helped plant some flowers in the big flowerbed at church.....then i went to work today, helping my former sunday school teacher put plants in pots.....i think we got 40 done today in the space of an hour.....THEN i had to wash dishes from this morning and then had to fill up 48 water bottles.....i got in dad's recliner, kicked it back and konked out.

i have depression ive had it for almost 17 yrs now
aint easy let me tell you that
but im doing good trying to be positive here about life
when your feeling down just pray or get out and walk
life will be better i promise you here

hi michelle and welcome.
good advice.

welcome michelle

Glad you can join us, Michelle. I am doing laundry this morning. Yesterday, I had a good time removing a broken alternator tensioner bar from my van. While removing the jury rigged device and looking at all the duct tape wiring I decided that instead of just complaining about the raw deal I got on the van to inquire at the junkyards and part stores to see if I get it replaced. While at the parts store a friend from work was at the parts store told me that if I could get the broken tensioner bracket out of the van that he would weld it for me. It took me two hours and a lot of black grease on me but I got it out of there and he told me he would weld it for me. I am having fun restoring the old van but I could have looked at the project in a negative way. I have had fun playing outside with me dog. Thanks for the positive outlook.

welcome michelle Hi peeps......can't wait till this hell week is over

I pray that you find comfort in your time of trial, Karen. I am doing the fourth load of laundry. Gee, I didn't know one person could make this big of mess. I have moved my computer around so that the window is to my back and found that the end tables make good end tables. Trying to get things organized. I am finding that cobwebs are an ongoing thing. Doing more dusting and trashing trash. I am keeping away from yardsales for the time being until I can formulte a plan to buy only stuff that I actually need instead of want. I am finding that yardsale stuff actually occupy time and space in the continuum of cleaning. Yardsale stuff has a way of becoming catch alls for even more catch alls. I am finding that even I can become a catch all.

and THAT'S why i prefer not to have cash on hand..................... i admit i'm addicted to going to a yard sale, but hey, i have found some useful stuff......Roy, i remember when my daughter was still a small infant (about 4 months old), i had my own apartment and it was just the two of us......i went EVERY week to my dad's (ok ok he picked me up since i didn't have a car then) to do laundry since i couldn't afford to go to the laundromat.......i swear to god roy, in ONE week, between the baby and I, it took from 9am to 7pm (yeah, 10hrs, no break between loads) to do all the laundry that had piled up......and 90% of it was MINE, mainly work uniforms........ i spent around 40 bucks a month on detergent and 20 for liquid fabric softener (that's all i prefer to use), so i feel your pain roy

and THAT'S why i prefer not to have cash on hand..................... i admit i'm addicted to going to a yard sale, but hey, i have found some useful stuff......Roy, i remember when my daughter was still a small infant (about 4 months old), i had my own apartment and it was just the two of us......i went EVERY week to my dad's (ok ok he picked me up since i didn't have a car then) to do laundry since i couldn't afford to go to the laundromat.......i swear to god roy, in ONE week, between the baby and I, it took from 9am to 7pm (yeah, 10hrs, no break between loads) to do all the laundry that had piled up......and 90% of it was MINE, mainly work uniforms........ i spent around 40 bucks a month on detergent and 20 for liquid fabric softener (that's all i prefer to use), so i feel your pain roy


Oh, bless you, Amber. I was running out of room to put the useful stuff. It was getting harder to differentiate between the useful stuff and stuff that I keep collecting. Too organize it I have devised a plan based on the law of supply and demand. If you will the survival of the fittest. My accumulation was reaching a critical peak. In other words, I wasn't able to walk around it or step over it. Kicking it under the bed and couch seemed to defeat the purpose because subconsciously I still knew it was still there. My drawers and closets are filled to capacity with useful stuff that because they are so full I am not really even sure what is there. This dilemna has me talking to the stuff and asking it if it is really useful. That didn't work for me because the stuff like my dog doesn't ever really talk back to me. Oh, the pain.

Oh the pain! I live in a 600 sq ft mother in law house. I have no where to put anything and gawd forbid I hit any yard sale. I have to step over the front tired of my bike and at the same time over my easle.........they touch! I can blow real hard and make the curtains in my front room move from my computer desk in my bedroom. I have a full bath and kitchen with teenie tinnie refridgeerator and stove.....like living in a dollhouse. I love this place and location. Thank GOD I didn't end up in the getto. I very well could have and would be paying more to boot. Needless to say, I am very quiet and don't complain to the owner......I live in a quiet well groomed nieghborhood. But I still have to step over everything and gawd help me should I have cash in hand. I have spent over 20 bucks I didnt have to spend just on junk food at the college. Sighhhhhhh, quit smoking and you get hungry....sucks. I guess being able to breathe is better than gaining a few lbs and being broke. WHat am I saying? Im always broke

So far none of the yardsale places take debit or credit cards. I am sure in the bigger cities that may be an option. I have even found some yardsales that will haul it to your house for a nominal charge. I think those people running the yardsales are serious about getting rid of useful stuff that they no longer have a use for. I really like to visit the ones that are comprised of more than one family. It is amazing the lengths that people will actually try to get along for the common good.

There is a house up the raod. I swear they must hit all the yard sales and pick up stuff cheap then re-sell it for a higher price. They have stuff out there and people buy it! Duh! They are creating an illegal bussiness. I think someone turned them in cuz they only do it on the weekends now. I stopped one time months ago and they wanted outragouse prices. I laughed at them and left.