sorry

that was just begging to be quoted

No need to apologize, you were just doing what you thought best. It's just that I now realize it's not them, it's me. I'm just not visible to the single female. I think that once a woman is wearing a gold band with a diamond in it I become visible, must be a reation with the gold.

I found out that women can't hear me when I ask them out. I didn't realize that. For years I just figured that they didn't like me or were ignoring me. Turns out the "no" that I so frequently got, was just natural reaction. One of the women I had asked out recently revealed this information to me. You see shortly before her wedding, like all betrothed people, she was giddy with matchmaking. So she says to me one day "you know you should find yourself a good woman."
I replied "****, you wouldn't go out with me when I asked you out, why would you think some other woman would?"
To wit she retorted "when did you ever ask me out?"
After giving her no less than for examples of when I asked her out she simply said "I kind of remember talking about that with you, but I didn't realize you were asking me out."

A couple of days later it hit me, women just can't hear me (or apparently see me, but that's another story), I apparently am just too good of a friend to think of in "that way." Hence, a guy like me can never successfully ask a woman out, so any advice I may or may not have on the subject could only be a wrong answer.

I'm just not visible to the single female.

You're very visible. I have noticed you many times. We just happen to have incompatible religious views or I would have emailed you long ago.

What happended to the good men ages 35-55 huh? Well, part of the men that age will be completely jaded by now, either through lack of luck (like me) or because some other woman ruined him for the rest of you (i.e. divorce). That's just part of them though.

You see, a truly honest to god good man is easy to find, you probably already know one, but just can't see him. He's that guy that's attentive to you, helps you out when you need it, sometimes shows up with pizza and beer just to watch movies with you. Oh, you probably tell the gals "he's just a friend," but I bet if you asked, he's dying to go out with you. Now a woman's first response is usually "I don't feel that way about him." But in fact, most ladies just have never thought of having those feelings for that type of guy, and a friendship is a great place to start a relationship. So, that's where you find a few more of the "good" ones.

Another place to find them, church. I'm not saying become a religious zealot by any means. But some people need the inner peace derived from sitting in a large room with 200 strangers. Meditation helps no matter where you do it, but some need that. These good men, probably aren't even on the internet dating sights. Might not have the self confidence to do it.

Just remember, most truly good men have had some person in the past take complete advantage of there soft hearts, and then dump the like a bad habit when something that only appeared better came into view. These men will be cautious, emotionally conservative and rather quiet. They know they can be easily hurt and are less likely to put themselves into situations where it can happen again. If you feel you're having to wait for a guy to come around, odds are, he's a good one. Be patient, and a little agressive, you'll bag him.