I just noticed that if I post a thread in here it will probably stay active for weeks. So I want to take a minute to say hello to all the lovely ladies in louisiana and let you know that if you are the mellowed out, laid back, cool like fonzie type then there is a guy down here in Opelousas that would love to meet you. No kids or drugs. I know that I'm a jerk for saying no kids, but I'm tired of not having it work out and saying goodbye to them, so I made a rule.

Awe, maybe someday we can learn to hate you too.

and most of the people who reply to hostility at these threads don't realize that we aren't making all inclusive statements. I hang out in bars with lots of guys and would not recommend 90% of them to a girl I cared about.

well, I wouldn't say ONLY whores and sugar babies, but yea that's pretty much the concensus. There sometimes is that girl that got dragged there by her friends or some kinda baby shower, bachelorette party, birthday party or some other nonsense. Definitely stay away from the chick that shows up at a bar with no money.. What the hell is up with that?

So there I was, sitting at a bar minding my own buisness on a tuesday night and there was some guy there talking about how there aren't any good women out there up for grabs, how the best ones are already taken and bla bla bla.

Now don't get me wrong, I think I screwed up and sent the "perfect" one for me away a long time ago, and having a hard time trying to fill that hole in my heart, but this guy needed some cheering up.

So I asked him, "You really want to know where the good ones are?" and he said "yes," thinking that I had access to some kind of super knowledge or a quick fix to his little problem.

I told him, "They are probably at home in bed"

I never try to pick up girls at the bar, but I do go quite often just on that off chance that someone who's right for me will just happen to walk in, just happen to be single, and I'll just happen to have my spirits up enough that night to talk to her. Every once in a while I get one out of the three, lol.

Same thing goes for girls I guess, you can't really just expect to find a good guy at a bar. I have seen women who think they did only to have him hitting on the bartender the second they leave :) Kinda makes me wonder why any of us go to bars in the first place (single people).

Anyone who wants to meet you on mingle will meet you on mingle. I constantly have (girls) that try to meet me offsite, like on yahoo, with the typical "webcam" deal. I just ignor them. I advertize my personal webpage but it's a big part of my life so I see no harm in it, but someone saying "check out my profile on ...." or "what's your email" or "are you on MSN" and that kind of crap goes straight on the ignor list.

Welcome to the zoo,
watch out for the monkeys,
they throw their poo.

If I was anywhere close to Maryland I wouldn't mind hanging out, so I'm sure that you will find some friends.

I guess that settles it...

"king", "queen", "prince", and "princess" are stupid terms when defining ones ideal mate.

we will leave "the one who completes me," as it does have a glimmer of rationality for use with caution.

I'm tired and have a long day tomorrow so with that I will say good night.

yes, that doesn't justify either one though.

Maybe I can even find a "sugga momma", lol

by all means, and if you find one, all the better

friends, dates, whatever comes across my plate,

one day at a time.

it is, as are "mr right," "that someone," and "life partner"


what gives with all this nonsense, now guys are in the mix too.

I appologise for the thread being directed at women, you're absolutely right, but forgive me as I only see one side on my searches.

Seriously girls, isn't this a little cli che'?

no, I take that back, it's completely overused.

Good advice.

1. If you want more guys to approach you, you might need to "slut it up a bit" as Lex and Terry say. Not saying that you have to look like a tramp, but dresses, skirts, a little makeup, etc. goes a long way.

Sounds superficial? Welcome to our screwed up society.

Fact of the matter is that when you're browsing profile's 9/10 of getting clicked on and having someone actually read the profile is your primary picture. And 9/10 of catching eyes with someone when you're out and about is how you present yourself.

This is why the only people I meet in public don't care about how I dress. I'm always in jeans and a t-shirt. I don't mind wearing a suit, but my attire is both easy and it acts as a buffer so that I don't get gold diggers. It does drop my "hit count" quite a bit though and I get ignored most of the time until people spend some time talking to me.

2. Profile might be a bit short, embelesh a bit. I find that 2-3 paragraphs on your page is the proper amount. Gives the reader plenty of information about you while not being too long or laborious to read.

3. At least one pic that shows more than your face. You may think them superficial for wanting to see more, but guys will sometimes tend to think that you are hiding something if all you have is face shots. Sometimes that will evolve into distrust by the time they get done reading the profile, and without trust... you know?

4. What everyone else said about the kids, they are going to be a bit of a deterrant, but you need to keep it honest and keep 'em on the profile. Perhaps dressing up the rest of your profile a bit (more pics, longer description) will offset that some but it is what it is. Personally in my life I've taken care of a lot of kids that were not mine and I really don't want to anymore, because when breakup time rolls around your breaking it off with the kids too. There have been times when I would have gladly kept the kids and told mommy to kiss off, but that doesn't happen and rightfully so.

--end note I'm making generalized statements about human nature. Please don't take this as a personal insult or waste time trying to tell me what a jerk I am. She wanted honesty and there it is from what I've observed and studied about human nature.

Not sure I agree with that. There are some that you will never be completely over and others that your already over when the breakup is announced, because you were ready for it.

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