oh it can always be worse mrs scrooge...

she's blond no good...

So are you saying I am not a man?

We never truly know someone though, we only know what they lead us to believe.

Hahaha. I just thought it was what you were looking for. It caught me pretty off guard when I looked at it, I had to re-read it just to make sure I wasn't imagining things. People aren't usually so forthcoming.

here ya go http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewProfile&friendID=432212988

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Let me ask you something do you believe in marriage?

Oh and by the way, more than 1 million people have lost their job in the last 2 months. I guess they're unsuitable for a relationship according to you, you know with those wife and kids or husband and kids, single and kids, or just plain single.

Well I'm not exactly sure if I have the answer to this as I am not the know all person.

Friends to me always come first. I look for friendship primarily as a pre-requisite to anything else in life. If I can't be a friend to this person then I most certainly can't be a lover vice versa as well.

How does one know if or when to take it to the next level. This a tricky question. I don't think as a species we ever truly know if we should ever take it to the next level but for some reason it happens. Like lightning striking it's not always going to happen and it may not happen for a very very long time but given conditions, situation, and timing it can strike anywhere.

How does a man know whether a woman only wants friendship. I could give smartass remarks about this but I don't believe smartass remarks are what you're looking for. I don't know if it's me or not but I make it clear that what I am seeking is friendship. I slowly move from that point if I sense that it can be something more. Others are less hesitant to each their own.

You lose me at the end. Look we all try our best at deciphering whether or not this person is the perfect candidate for the next level or at least I like to think we do. *probably not so*. We then approach the situation as such but in the end no one is ever going to know whether or not that next level is going to work out. That next level can be totally abolished with *I just want to be friends*, a cheating incident, lies start forming whatever the case may be one of the partners isn't committed to the relationship whereas they were once committed to the friendship. It's hard to go to the next level without getting hurt because you lose a friend but you also lose a lover. The more time you have spent together probably will lead to a more devastating heart break.

If you don't want to break hearts then when you move to the next level there should be commitment from that point on unless they ruin it somehow. I don't and can't understand how a woman can easily just give up on the relationship or decides to abandon it. At least not in the ways it has been done to me.

You forgot down to earth...

I believe you can love anyone.

I think it's possible to love strangers most definately!

February 2008

Well it always takes 2 to tango.

psh shows how much you know... I have friends like this.

I think people can communicate in different ways other than just having an extensive vocabulary. It might take more of an effort on your part but that should be interesting to you :).

What I meant by the conversationalist example was it takes you a few months to finally realize the person you're talking to truly isn't a conversationalist. In other words, they depend totally on you for this opportunity to exploit themselves. I find that this is really hard to overcome with anyone. People may enjoy letting me talk and asking them all kinds of questions but I'm slowly getting bored by this so in turn you have found companionship because you have a listener but you don't have what you were seeking originally... Here's the best way I can put this. Shy girl is sitting by herself. You notice her, you talk to her. She digs you so she answers, you keep moving forward because she's intriguing to you and in her mind she's just shy never fully blooms to be what you imagined her to be... Does that make more sense?

You know what's really sad I truly don't care about like a good 80% of that. I've asked those questions so many times that if I was to ask them again I'd go insane hahaha. I ask new questions now. :). *probably due to the same responses given.* The internet corrupted me.

Value was definately the wrong word to use for what I was getting at. What I mean to say is a person who can clearly express themselves through imagery or words may not be the only suitable person for you. It might make life harder on you, but compatability is much deeper than someone who can use eloquent words. That's what I meant by value as if to say unless you're dating a college english professor you're kind of leaving everyone else behind. This may be great for a conversation at a cafe but love life yeah not so much. At least not with me anyway.

I would tend to believe the more educated a person is the harder it would be for them to commit to communications. For example you take dumb blonde barbie girl and you ask her the meaning of the universe... If christian she might recite the bible, if non christian she may as well just give up not answer ignore the question or answer honestly and be like that's way over my head. Then you have the educated one who is going to just throw random crap out there like me that makes no bit of sense might capture your imagination but will not lead you any closer to your destination hence the communication issue is still out there. Also, I would tend to think that the more you want out of a partner is conversation or something original, intriguing, never heard of before... Truth is though, people become stagnant. Unless you form a bond with this person that makes communication soooo open and non intrusive that it becomes less of a trust issue and more of a social atmosphere. For example... My best friend not the brightest kid by any means but he's totally social with me. He allows me to bring out, exhibit behavior and talk for hours on end about absolutely nothing yet in the end we're both having the time of our life. This doesn't mean he has the education of college, he has never moved out of his hometown, and he isn't exactly sociable *social anxiety disorder* kills his life. He's not a very good poet and uses curse words a lot of the time. None of this however prevents us from being open with each other or in public for that matter. He never even graduated high school. Decided it was best to drop out 3 months prior. Had I ever interviewed him as a test subject of mine, he would've failed miserably but as a friend and his morals throughout life he's amazing. Shy with social anxiety but great to be around with me. He turns me into something that I can't even put into words. My whole outlook and my personality are so vibrant when I am near him that life doesn't seem boring at all. Everything is full with color, imagination and creativity. It's like the cold barren streets are our kingdom and we're the rulers of the world as poor as we're. I don't know exactly how to explain it and if you haven't ever encountered this feeling, I wouldn't be as subjective as you're assuming what is perfect for you to find either based on previous experiences or how you find your niche in others.

The tattoo thing it's more of being grossed out. It's not that I wouldn't be a friend to that person, but I most certainly wouldn't move forward with a kiss. I don't kiss beings in this world that I don't find attractive and tattoos or overly pierced people don't bring a sense of oh my I must see if this is going to lead somewhere. That isn't to say that I would break up with a person because they have a tattoo or a piercing that I didn't agree with. For example, 2 girls ago had pierced nipples. Sex life was completely different than normal and I will say that I didn't like her nipples pierced. I felt like I'd rip them out or play with too hard it's annoying but it's not something I would've been like go **** yourself over. I knew ahead of time what I was getting myself into but her personality, as hot as she was, even had a giant tattoo on her back but see back tattoos are hot to me I don't know why. Front tattoos aren't. I used to think I'd never date a girl who would wear certain types of clothing and then I encountered her and I was like oh my privacy of her own home and that just looks soooo good... :).

Why not have it upfront... What if a person likes to go to a party once a month and get trashed. That's 12 days a year out of 365... It's not a drunk but they feel this overwhelming sensation of not even attempting with you because they're afraid of you going away having you learn this about them? Maybe they don't even talk about it or hide it from you as to not upset you or some other way of dealing with a communication issue. I mean I understand where you're coming from with people who drink. I don't even kiss a girl when I've been drinking whether she's my girlfriend or not. It's my preference. That's probably why I don't go to bars to pick them up... Not exactly what I am looking for but that doesn't mean I'm going to force my beliefs on my partner and be like hey listen you can't drink or it's over. People are people and are going to do things that upset us throughout life whether it's our children, our mothers and fathers, or our lovers. In a perfect world I am sure it would be easier if your girl was every single part of what you want her to be, but would she truly be alive or just your puppet to play with?

Selectivity is awesome and it does grant us the ability to pick and choose from a smaller ratio of potential to really potential bad failing relationships still though I think all relationships are built on the fundamental principle of a friendship. We surround ourselves with friends and then we move forward to a relationship. I don't know why I have the friends I do, but I have learned that they share a lot of the same qualities. As for relationships, the same qualities have always existed as well. For one, they accept me for who I am and don't try to change my behavior which is why I brought up that drinking thing that you so brought up. I wouldn't say I'm much of a drinker. 99 out of 100 times I am not going to drink alcohol. If I am in public and I'm driving, I'm totally sober 100% of the time still though I do like to be surrounded by friends at a party or social event that may involve drinking or has the potential to be a drinking place. This doesn't even mean everyone there is drunk because we're all different. I lived in a party house free alcohol every single night of my life and 6 out of 7 days I didn't drink. Another person may have drowned in it or partook even more than I did.

For 2 they seem to share the same morals as I do. *although this is never really true by the end of the relationship*

For 3-they bring me happiness when in there presence.

For 4- some reason allows me to move forward with a kiss. I don't just go around kissing everyone I see, I'm not exactly sure what this quality has to do with it yet.

For 5- they seem to be there for me

and for 6-they're interesting.

Has nothing to do with intelligence, where they went to school, or what they do for a living. Mechanic to a rockstar to a nurse to working at the dmv. These are my best friends as for ones I've dated I'm a little young so most people I've dated haven't found their careers yet.

My family is a pretty crazy place and although I would be tolerable of another family I doubt my gf would ever be introduced to mine. I think it's best that way.

Only August... Doing a much better job than I... I've had 3 relationships in the past 2 years and I've been single since February.

The idea of love at first sight is the ability to spark up conversation with the other to see if you do match. It takes two to tango though and well one may see love the other may see yay another person to drool over me :).

I think the questions in general are pretty generic but also allow the forum to discuss topics that are questions pretty much everyone asks at some point in a relationship so if you use this site and the person answers his posts you can get a good general idea of who you're talking with before moving forward.