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In life no, in death yes.
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A picture isn't enough for me to want to get to know someone. There has to be more there.
I agree, and points to the person who actually takes time to read the profile! I tend to be leery of those without much in their profile although I do appreciate those who state their intentions straight up. As for an opening email, I've been struggling with those. I just joined and got a little confused with the mutual match thing, but I figured it out. I was going with a "Seasons Greetings" thing and commenting about mutual interests... I find that I always read the profiles... every word. And if there aren't many words, hopefully the words that are there are worth reading. I have been confused about Mututal Match myself... should I write them...do I wait for them to write me, etc. Usually I wait a bit on those...with the perhaps incorrect thought that they will write me when they are ready... If I haven't heard from them after awhile... some longer then others...I maybe send out a short hello... but then afterwards I always go hmmmm... that was pretty lame, why the hell did I do that? Some I don't write at all... because after a few drinks I think...if they wanted to match so bad...MAYBE they should have said hello... Not very scientific I know... but I am not an expert either... I don't think I could do a form letter just to get a reply... I tend to think too much and feel that I should write on a more personal level and specifically mention something about the person I am writing too... an interest or something that I thought was worth mentioning. I guess I am not here to count how many responses I get... I just need the right response, from the right person, at the right time. Who says you need to do only 1 set e-mail copy paste... Make 4 or 6. Why must you get personal if you don't even know if the person is going to acknowledge your existence? Waste of time. If you want to try and sneak somethings in, make 5 different e-mail sets. Now I know that there are more than 5 different girls in the world but generally people seem to say the same ****ing thing. I want a guy like this, I like to cook, I like to go to the beach, I like to hangout with my friends, I like to cuddle on the couch, I like to chill and stay home watch a movie, I like to insert random phrase everyone uses on the internet. You want to make it personal, add one sentence to your e-mail that at least saves you time but writing an e-mail from scratch every single time, you're wasting time. You don't have to take my advice, or you could try it for one day and see where it gets you 8 days later. Also the way I am doing this could create potential stalkers from the people who can't control themselves. So if I have created an internet filled of crazy psychos from now on, I do apologize to all the women of this world in advance. I never ever ever send a duplicate e-mail or bug them if they don't respond or keep responding. When conversation is dead, it's exactly that dead. Others may be pissed off it didn't work out after they started to become more personable with you, I'm sorry for this. |
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You're right, a picture isn't enough to get to know someone however you don't walk up to every single person in the street and say hello to and try to see if you're capable of being together.
Your profile speaks for itself. Your message doesn't have to be selective in order for you to see if this person is going to talk to you. They talk to you on what you wrote in your e-mail, they talk to you because they don't find you completely hideous, and they talk to you with a possibility of it might lead to friendship. People don't respond to people unless they are interested in talking with them. If you write 10 e-mails on profiles, you read through 10 profiles, chose those 10 to write to, and if you're lucky you will hear back from 7 out of those 10. I'd say you have better odds of only hearing back from about 40% of the people on the internet. What people write in a profile is not exactly true ok you're taking a profile and making it that person. Remember something, this is the internet, people lie off the internet what makes you think they don't lie on it? So you're already feeding into possible lies from strangers you don't know, you're wasting time because you aren't going to hear back from every single person no matter what your e-mail says, and most importantly it's a ****ing e-mail. You know nothing about this person. This is your cue, go to profiles where people seem interesting. You like their background, you like their picture, you like their age, you like their height and weight proportion, then you e-mail your set e-mail. When they respond to that, then you go on to look deeper into their profile. Then make casual conversation based on the reply. You take too much into a first response and you will waste time of finding that one potential person. In the last 2 days, I have received 30 e-mails from the way I approach my situation. People are already getting knocked off because they have nothing to say, or stopped replying. You can't make people talk, you can't make people like you, what you can do is write to as many people as possible in the world and go from there. As many e-mails as I write, I still don't end up contacting half of the city I live in. You guys like this worldwide thing, oh my no no no no no not anymore :). That's just wayyy too many people hah. Stupidity is another reason people don't last. My best response was yeah there are good restaurants near where you live...... REALLY? what ones could those be? Hah There are approximately 60 more e-mails out there that have yet to be viewed, I should get about another 30 in a week or so. Now I have 60 people 60 conversations 60 profiles from potential true matches. Then we begin talking and hopefully I will make friends. |
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Honest, truthful, slim, tastes good, enjoys me, I enjoy her, smells delicious, doesn't slobber when kissing, kisses for long lengths of time minimum 20 minute clips, doesn't make me do all the work, faithful, understanding, cuddler, loves my dog, loves me, I'd have to be in love also, follows my interpretations of marriage, follows my life after death views, looks forward to spending eternity not just life, shaves,... that's a lot to ask for. I'd rather have what I want than settle for something that is incomplete. |
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Honest, truthful, slim, tastes good, enjoys me, I enjoy her, smells delicious, doesn't slobber when kissing, kisses for long lengths of time minimum 20 minute clips, doesn't make me do all the work, faithful, understanding, cuddler, loves my dog, loves me, I'd have to be in love also, follows my interpretations of marriage, follows my life after death views, looks forward to spending eternity not just life, shaves, bathes daily, trusts me and I trust her...
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What are you craving
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rosewater lemonade.
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If I email someone, I'll either comment on something from their profile, or something they said in the forums. too long (-_-)zzz if I did that, I would type more and waste more of my time. Dammit EYE OPENERS! ****ers need to pay attention! I rule at eye openers! Well at least I say I do anyway. Too long? You mean too much effort? Look effort doesn't win a response. If people find the person not to their liking just by the picture, it doesn't matter what the message says. You'd like to think the best profile is the one that people click on but let's be honest here the pretty girl gets more clicks than the non pretty girl. If the pretty girl has the words I want a down to earth individual she may never ever ever receive a good e-mail however this doesn't change how many people look at her. So your profile comes with your message on most sites *except facebook* and with that said taking your time to ask a bunch of questions to this person who has a greater chance of never writing back no matter what you write to them based on your looks and your profile is a guarenteed go **** yourself. You're not worth the time if you're not willing to write back a message after an introduction. If you want replies and to see who is truly real for you, you won't come off as asking too much upfront if you do you're wasting your time. It's as simple as that. You may think differently but facts show that's the way life is. If we see something that we find hideous within a profile it doesn't matter what is listed it's hideous no reply is sent. Want an example here ya go. This girl has a std she writes questions to everything in your profile.. Do you really think I'm going to write to that? NO! Another this girl has 3 kids she writes questions to everything in my profile do you think I am going to write to that? NO! I could go with age next, I could use height for some, I could use drugs for others. We're selective on who we choose to talk to and generally it's not what is written in the message but rather the profile that allows us to generate a connection to see if we truly want to answer this person. So you want responses you need to talk to as many people as possible. A simple generic introduction letter is all that is needed. It can be long it can be short it doesn't truly matter what matters is the more people you reach out to, the better response you're going to get. You can't do this if you're reading and writing questions based on the profile you read. You know how many profiles I read a day? It's mind boggling, do you honestly think for one second that this one person truly gives a ****? I mean if the person is searching a dating site, they're messaging other users not just you. If you think you're special in some way shape or form something in your head is loose on one simple message. *oh wow they took the time to read my profile joy they're fugly* You're not going to get the response. The feeling must be mutual, wasting time isn't cool! |
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For any of you who have met people off the internet, how long did you spend talking online and on the phone before meeting in person? When you met in person was it what you had expected or hoped for? I'd looove some opinions on the topic. It depends on the person, how much they talk to me, how much I enjoy talking to them, how unique they're from others or appear to be, if holidays are approaching, and of course how far away from me they're. The quickest I met someone through the internet was 3 weeks, she lived less than 5 minutes walking distance away from my apartment. The longest was probably 2 years at least intentionally. I've met people online non intentionally as well being at the same concert... |
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Would you defend them?
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If you saw someone being publicly harassed for being homosexual would you stand up for and or defend them? word |
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Here I'll give you a message that made over 100 replies in less than 5 days.
Since not many people have been responding to the bulletins I made, i figured i would send each individual who has added me to their friend's list a personlized message introducing myself. Like my profile says, I am in the Navy but I haven't left for bootcamp yet. I leave on July 20th, I would like to get to know those of you who would like to get to know me before I leave. Since these messages are only going to be sent to those of you who have actually added me, I question if you want to know me. So far no contact has been made, and in some cases I have actually been ignored. When I leave for bootcamp, you will have the option of deleting me from your account because I will be inactive for a very long time. So please do me a favor review my profile, and if you would like to talk then do so before time is out. I have no problem having penpals while in the Navy, I have very few friend's as it is so the more people interested in talking gives me something to do while serving active duty for the next 4 years The biggest and longest question everyone seems to ask is why I joined the Navy especially when I support the groups that I do. So here's the story of why I joined the navy. It's filled with drama and it's pretty long but please don't judge me until after you have read the story. I know it's hard for people to understand or even accept others who have joined the military and disappear for a long time. I was once like this especially as a teenager. It starts in 2000 when I got my first speeding ticket. I was also given a wreckless driving ticket. I disobeyed the law, got caught, and felt no need to argue. I was at fault so I accepted the consequences. I had 10 points added to my license within the first 5 months of driving. I was under my parent's insurance policy. I paid the fines and the tickets, and was told that surcharges would come every 3 months to my house as a bill that must be paid in order for me to maintain driving privileges. I had a girl friend back then as well as job, so I travelled back and forth. Sometime in early 2001 around February, I get a notice in the mail that stated I didn't pay my surcharge and my license was suspended. I put a check in the mail the very next day. Around 4 days pass by, and my girl friend wants to go to the zoo. So we head over to the little zoo in Highland Park. Coming back, I made a left turn on a yellow light. Sirens went off, and the cop asked me for my license registration bleh bleh bleh. So I give him my license and he tells me it's suspended. I told him the problem, he wrote me a ticket and set a court date. The very next day, my license was reinstated. I would receive a notice in the mail on the day it got reinstated 3 days later. I go to court and explain to the judge what happened, but the judge didn't care. He suspended my license for 6 months because I didn't have a license. I still had to travel to and from work everyday. About 4 months later, I was heading back to my friend's house when my cell phone went off. I went to answer it, but it fell off the seat. So I pulled into my parking space, and thought I put the car in park. I bent down to pick up the phone and my car jerked forward *obviously not in park* and rolled gently into a sliding glass door. The door shattered and a cop comes rolling around the corner not even within a minute from it happening. He wrote me like 4 tickets, I had to get a lawyer so I wouldn't go to jail. My license was suspended for another 6 months. I head off to college leaving my car in NJ. My stepfather's brother, sister in law, and my 2 step cousins move into my room. My step aunt needed a car to get to and from work. So she uses mine. They had financial trouble and pretty much went bankrupt. My parents were helping them, putting me through school, and then of course 9/11 happens. I lose about 8,000.00 directly out of my fund for college. My mom lost a lot more than that in the stock market but not enough to totally kill us. I come back from college for christmas of 2001. I asked to borrow the keys *without a license* to go and visit my girl friend. MY aunt said she would drive me since she had to take her 2 kids out to get school supplies. She drops me off and heads over to get some art supplies. She gets into an accident and totals my car. I didn't really care at that time because I didn't need a car for another 3 years being in college but the ramifications that happened afterwords hurt us financially. Since my aunt got into an accident uninsured on our policy, the insurance company got word of what happened. They see me with 9 points on my license within the first year of having it, plus the accident, plus an uninsured driver. This makes insurance for the vehicles skyrocket to around 7,000.00 per year. Luckily, my stepuncle put the insurance in his name to help out the problem. A year passes by, and my step grandfather dies. My step uncle has sustained the ability to start a new life, so he moves out. He doesn't repay the money he borrowed from my parents and they have a huge fight about financial issues. After that, the money began to really hurt us. My stepfather hadn't worked for 2 years now, and his knees were constantly bothering him. That's when I learn he needs full knee surgery replacement. He has to learn how to walk all over again. He goes through that while I am in school. Instead of my parents using money to support me financially at the moment when I am attending college, they get an idea that my stepfather can become a captain. They buy a boat, and then he learns that he can never become a captain. Instead, they get this idea that he can make money by renting out fishing trips every week/everyday by just inviting local fisherman to come out on his boat. I would have my own problems dealing with rent, food, and school supplies. I also got extremely sick while in college and needed to be taken to the hospital a few times. After my 4th semester, I learned I couldn't continue college unless I found a way to get money. So I came back home, thought I would find a job near my house and get a license, a car, etc... Maybe just take a semester or 2 off.. I get back to Jersey to learn, that the insurance they were using under my uncle's name expires. Since it expiring, and I still had my license without a car, the insurance company still asked for around 5,000.00 a year. Too much for my parents to handle, so I relinquished my license to the state. Which means no car. I tried to find a decent paying job close to home but the only place that accepted me was this little restaurant near my house. I had to find something within walking distance since no one would give me a ride to and from work. I only got 18 hours of work a week on average as a busboy. After 4 months of doing that, college loans hit me. I had to pay them back, making only 100.00 a week, I found myself unable to get out of debt or go back to college. So I went into the Navy. I'm sorry that was soo long. So now that you all know the story of why I'm in the Navy to begin with, you can decide if I am worthy of talking to or not. We don't have much time, I figure one email a day or message would suffice in allowing you to gain enough information about me if you even want to. Since I am not going to be around to talk forever, please make use of the time I have. here is a response to that e-mail... Date: Jun 10, 2004 11:26 AM Flag as Spam or Report Abuse [?] Help: Flag Message If you get a message that is spam (someone trying to sell you something, get you to look at their profile, or redirect you to another website), click the ‘Spam’ button to notify us. If the email is not spam, but is abusive in nature (cyberbullying, inappropriate content, or another matter), click on ‘Abuse’. You can then let us know what type of abuse the message is. Thanks for your help in moderating MySpace Mail! Subject: RE: Hello Body: Well Charles, I most certainly feel your pain in the whole not having a lisence fiasco. In my case, however, it was totally my fault and due to my own stupidity. You see back when I was a mere 15 years old, my friends and I thought we'd be "cool" and dapple around with some drugs. Long story short... he got sick fom the drugs and his parents made him blab to cops. There were about 5 of us involved, I being one of the 2 who got it the worst. My penalty? Drivers license revoked for 1.5 years, about $3200 in fines, and 2 years probation (which was cut down to 1 year because of good behavior and negative drug tests), oh yeah... I was also expelled from school (forcing me to go to Catholic school, which I LOVED so that worked out ok). I had to withdrawl my mutual funds to pay the lawyer and fines... there went my college fund. Another thing that sucked majorly was that I didn't even have my license at the time of the court ruling (months had passed since I actually went to court and was 16 and some months by then). Now... one would think this year and half would start right away (seeing as how I was not allowed to drive with my permit either)... WRONG. Time went by from May to January (my birthday month) and I could not drive with my permit. On my 17th birthday I received a letter from the DMV stating that my lisence had been suspended for 545 days. So really... I couldn't drive for 2 years. So here I am now... 18 years old, freshly graduated from highschool... and still not driving. Sure, the day will come shortly (July 4th I will be become unsuspended) and I will be driving for the rest of my life, but I know I missed out on a lot. I missed out on being the first of my friends to have a car and drive them around places... I missed out rolling out the school parking lot with the windows down and the music turned up. Yeah, they seem like trivial little things, but sometimes it's just the little things like that that add a little extra smile in your life, you know? Granted my whole "be a rebel" scheme was a totally stupid and ****ed up idea. For a long time my stupidity robbed me of so many things... trust, respect, family, friendes, money, driving, school, etc... but looking back on it now, I'm so thankful that it happened. I met some of the greatest people I have ever met (and probably will ever meet) at my new school. I've made a complete 180 and am a totally different person now. (and not to mention sXe) So that's me. That's Melanie. That's my story. Thanks for sharing yours. Now we have something to talk about. We have shared something, a story, a life tragedy, something. Like I said introduce yourself. I am positive someone out there didn't take the time to read all of that and I am sure I got other e-mails like this one E: Hello Body: look kid u seem very nice but that guilt trip was not appreciated... u have 2 understand that people don't always respond 2 things not b/c we r truly horrible people but we don't have the time some people work full time and when they go online they have enough time 2 read their e-mail or messages or whatever then go on their merry way... u r lucky that 2day is my day off which i barely get... in the future u do not have 2 list ur life story in order 2 make people respond 2 u or like u just chill out relax have a cup of tea ~LiV~ but I still got the reply :). The reply is key!! No reply means they don't give a **** about you! Get me yet? I will not help anymore my secrets are sealed. |
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Thanks squonk. I see you're offering a statistical approach to online dating. It sounds like a good idea though I need something good to CTRL + v. Statistics win man. Profile can hit or miss but we all know people are more likely to be superficial. You can have a perfect match sitting in front of you, she looks at your picture and is like hell no and you commented on every single part of her profile... A waste of ****ing time! Spending too much time on one person isn't going to get you talking to many. You can go into the profile when they respond. Remember, it's the reply you're after. The reply means hey he's not so bad, I'll take a chance and see where it goes. No reply means bot, liar, *****, not interested. You don't know and will never know no matter what you say. You don't control them, you only control you. Once you get the reply, you look back at the profile *it doesn't change* :) and then you go deeper. Need 2 to tango, gotta find the one who's real. I gave you the premise dammit. Others have pretty much said the samething except *I like your profile* if a girl ever said that to me I'd be like huh what part or wait no bot! I like your profile is absolutely atrocious unless you like the blondes... You can also make a few different e-mails just make sure they follow the premise. Once you follow the premise and you send out over 100, you will get 50 if it's good 10 of which will be bots. Unfortunately, I'm so picky that after looking through 10,000 profiles I may only end up sending out 20 now of which I will hear back from 7 of which only 1 has any real interest. Still 1 out of 10,000 isn't bad for me :). I'm too picky nowadays I used to just send pretty much anyone the e-mail oh god did that suck. this is from my myspace Listing 1-10 of 1970 of which 49 are still bot like and haven't been opened because they're bots. All bots usually get deleted. I've also lived in 3 states during this escapade but like I said, I began to get really picky. Mail Center Inbox Bright Idea: [Browse the site for cool people. Browse Now.] Add Search and Sorting to your inbox with Google Gears! Find Out More! Listing 1-10 of 1970 12345›› of 197 Next › Date: From: Status: Subject: Dec 25, 2008 2:23 PM ♥Jenny♥ ♥Jenny♥ Replied RE: Hiya Dec 23, 2008 3:05 PM ♥Jenny♥ ♥Jenny♥ Replied RE: Hiya Dec 21, 2008 2:34 PM ♥Jenny♥ ♥Jenny♥ Replied RE: Hiya Dec 11, 2008 3:26 PM Jenna Jenna Read FW: RE: Havent' heard from you in a bit... Dec 11, 2008 2:19 PM ♥Jenny♥ ♥Jenny♥ Replied RE: Hiya Dec 10, 2008 3:29 PM ♥Jenny♥ ♥Jenny♥ Replied RE: Hiya Dec 6, 2008 1:10 PM *AsH* *AsH*ashleigh ann Read RE: how sweet Dec 4, 2008 3:14 PM ♥Jenny♥ ♥Jenny♥ Replied RE: Hiya Dec 4, 2008 2:14 PM *AsH* *AsH*ashleigh ann Replied how sweet Dec 1, 2008 12:01 PM Adriana Adriana Replied RE: Hiya |
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I miss when my kitties would do that :(. I had a cat trying to chase how fast the letters appear on the screen as I'm typing. He was an awesome cat...
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If I email someone, I'll either comment on something from their profile, or something they said in the forums. too long (-_-)zzz if I did that, I would type more and waste more of my time. Dammit EYE OPENERS! ****ers need to pay attention! I rule at eye openers! Well at least I say I do anyway. |
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Hey everyone. I'm new to this site and to the idea of online dating so it's safe to say that I'm not very good at it. I want to meet new people and have conversations with them however I'm not so sure what to put in a first message to get a reply. What does everyone here do? What tips do you have to offer to help me and others who are having the same problems? If you want replies you need to send off a lot of e-mails :). The more you send, the more replies you get. So now to construct the perfect eye opener... Well son, that is an art only I have. If I gave away my secret, then everyone would try and be me and then I'd never get a response because people would start to wonder if bots are people and if people are bots. :). Basically you need to cover 4 areas. One introduce yourself 2- give them something so they don't see you as a bot 3-in order to get replies you must get e-mails out right? Typing may not be as natural to you as it is to me, so here goes. Create a perfect e-mail introduction center if you will. Save it in word, update as need be. Copy it. Paste it. 4-stop being picky. *I'm ****ed on this one* I am so picky! It's my downfall in life then again I won't message just anyone. A pretty face, a sexy body just isn't enough for me but if that's what you're after my friend I am sure there are lovely ladies just waiting to hear from you. easiest way and quickest way cntrl v :) You're welcome. *I still won't share all of my success though* |
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Who do you KNOW loves you?
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Who do you KNOW loves you? "I don't think I've ever been touched by a hand that's truly loved me" |
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Anime is a Japanese term for cartoons and movies. The drawings are done in their style not the American style. Thus the difference between a cartoon and an anime.
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how do you "online date"
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I'm confused by your question, what answer are you looking for here?
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Help help help help help!!!
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Well I hope I am not imagining this as a bootleg and it does turn out to be one that's number 1.
Number 2-I want my refund for the movie if it is in fact a bootleg. Number 3-I want to see blockbuster get in trouble for allowing this kind of behavior to happen whether or not it had malicious intent. I don't bring contraband into my home under any circumstances. If in fact it's a bootleg then they must face the penalty of such. That's why we have policies and warnings and labels on what is legal and what isn't. Distributing bootleg material is a felony and obtaining bootleg material is also a felony. I don't want a felony on my hands. That is a serious serious crime. in NYC it's a 5,000 fine and up to 6 months in prison. I think that's worth something especially since there is no way for me to know whether it's real or not. When I go to Blockbuster I expect to get the movie that I see on the store shelf, I don't expect a bootleg. |
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