Huh!!????!??
I just checked OP's profile and it's been deactivated?

Also consider that you don't know the whole story my friend. She may be hiding some things from you.
Good luck and be careful eh?

Hey Tater...nice to meetcha!

I took a peek at your profile as well, and you really seem like a great catch...if I were 20 years younger, I'd give the competition a run for their money. *smile*
My two cents?
You're very young yet...take things easy and live it up sweetheart. Focus on great friendships, focus on your own self and being happy, and productive, and well grounded.
Next thing you know the right little lady will be right around the corner, and you'll know her when you see her.
As for those women who allow themselves to be used....they have issues they need to work out. A person can only go based on what they know and what they've learned. if you've not had the chance to see how a confident woman acts (ie from a mother or a close female relative), how can you know how to be one yourself?
We are all of us constantly learning, evolving, and growing. Focus on your own growth and make yourself a strong oak...life will bless you for this.
*hugs* and good luck!!

Yes hun, true love does exist...but it's a fragile thing that both partners need to be willing to nurture.
If they invest the time and patience...water it, feed it, and yes do the occasional pruning, that love can grow to a mighty oak.
She just apparently had a black thumb.
*hugs*
You're young...use this as a learning experience, and don't let it taint your future relationships but learn from it and allow yourself to become wiser.

Oh heck...I'm in.
Granola with yogourt and berries.

That brought a smile to my face to read.
*hugs*
Mind if I ask what kind of job?

Here's a fitting joke...
Adam was in the garden of Eden after Creation was complete and he was kinda glum
God came walking through to admire all that he had done and noticed Adam sitting on a rock, and very woebegone.
"What's the matter Adam? Is everything not perfect that I have created? Why so glum chum?"
"Gee God...no everything is really great! Something bothers me though, and I don't mean to complain, but I feel kinda lonely. I noticed that all the animals have mates, but I don't...why"
"Ah my son...I have the perfect mate for you. She will be submissive to your every need...she will cook like an Italian chef, she will clean like Martha Stewart, and she will look like a runway model. Quite a pretty little thing that I created, so she is."
"Oh wow gee!! Where is she, when can I meet her"
"Well son, there's a problem. She will cost you an arm and a leg"
After thinking for a few moments, Adam looked at his Creator and asked "What can I get for just a rib?"

I'm wondering if what I say are my best and worst would be the same as what family and friends would say? Hmmmm....

Had to think about this for a little while, and I think my best and worst are the same.
I'm loving and kind...but too much so at times I think.

*hugs*
I'm so happy to hear that sugarbutt.

*blush* Thanks hun

*giving you a big hug*
Amen brother...you old time gentlemen need to teach the younger crowd about taking pleasure in the sheer simplicity of these gestures that you describe.

Mayhap this generation is also desensitized by all of the drama on tv? They want the fireworks and drama every single day it seems.

It's only very recently that the perception of the institution of marriage being a one shot deal fell apart in our society. It's in no small part due to the Industrial Revolution and the collapse of faith within the family.
I've said this before...once people stopped going to churches and started casting God out of their lives, marriage and the sanctity of the family unit became disposable.
Am I saying we all need to get our butts back to church?
No...not at all.
Despite the fact that divorce was extremely uncommon, the marriage institution was used as well to diminish women, to control them, and to leave them in hopeless states of despair, unable to escape a life of abuse.
So...within seemingly a generation, we've swung to an opposite extreme. It is my hope that someday soon we find a happy medium between the two.
We need SOMETHING to be held accountable to for our actions. For me it is God...my ex was a non Christian Mohawk, but his morals meshed nicely with mine, because he believes in a supreme Creator and his life is governed by the tenants of his society which are governed by respect and peace and fairness.
Another aspect to consider is that there is so much family dysfunction these days, again due in no small part to the collapse of the nuclear family. Dysfunction gets carried from relationship to relationship and makes it very difficult to establish healthy patterns. How can you when you don't know how? Without experiencing this family unit as a child, how can you hope to re-create it as an adult? Myself personally, that was my background, and it took me many years and lots of heartbreak to realize the negative patterns I was following, and to then consciously eradicate them and to replace them with positive ones. *sigh* It's still a day to day process where the old patterns rear their heads and I have to stamp them back into submission.

It all depends what you want to do. Blenders are basically good for making smoothies and purees and etc.
If you want slicing and dicing, then you need to go to a food processor with the blades.
I pretty much have one of everything...
I'm a kitchen gadget nut.

Which just goes to prove you need to be careful and keep your guard up. Profiles are just a front cover to the story, designed to catch your attention.
You need to do a bit of reading to find out if you want to continue to the next chapter.
For instance I was contacted by someone with a great profile and it piqued my interest. In exchanging mail he first told me he was new to the site, yet in a later letter said he'd been on and off for the last 4 years. Then he said in another letter he said he's separated for 5 months.
So my radar goes up....way up. This person was on a dating site while married? Nope...not someone I want to pursue contact with beyond the casual.
You need to let the head lead before you let loose the gates to the heart.

racism and feeling the need to establish your superiority by putting others down.

Yup...I totally agree. I very rarely venture out of the house withough make-up and my 'outside clothes', as opposed to my 'indoor clothes'.
This is one lady who will never wear her pyjamas to the store!

Is that because I'm vain? No...I was raised that a lady looks like a lady and a gentleman looks like a gentleman.
Attractive looks are primarily based on good hygeine, a care for appearance, and most importantly a light that glows from within. An average fellow with a killer smile and a twinkle in his eye would have more success than an 'attractive' man with dirty fingernails and unkempt hair.

*nodding head in agreement* Yup, uh-huh...I know what you mean by the tobacco. That's a common tactic of mine in everyday life, let alone my dates. I'll throw in a controversial political or religious lure, and it usually results in a good heated debate.

*giving you a kiss on yer noze*
Best 2 cents I ever paid.

It's true!!
You often hear "why is such a nice girl attracted to the 'bad boys?'" There's a difference though between a gentleman's firm hand to hold onto and a limp appendage that you have to lead through Wal Mart....sometime a girl wants to be yanked by her boyfriend into an alley for a quick soul drenching kiss as opposed to a hesitant pat on the back.

It probably stems from our primitive desire to find a "healthy" mate for reproduction purposes.