What do you do when someone won't let go of the relationship? I can be a friend but that's all. I realized there is no lasting future because of our differences. I've tried everything I can think of other than being means as hell. Nope, come to think of it I tried that too.

Wow, who would deny their kids? That's so sad. Yes, I'll admit I have a few stinkers of my own.

Thank you.

I believe people who cheat are selfish. No regards for anyone feelings but their own. Any excuse used, it's still an act of being selfish.

Helen Keller (1880-1968) American Writer
Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.

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Just testing

Me and Korean actor, Song il ****!

I'm happy with my life as it is now. Sure there's room always for growth in certain areas, which I work on all the time. When ever I go into one of those oh, woe is me pity party types of moods I try to remember there is someone worse off than I am. Just looking at all the things that are going on in the world now makes me count my blessings. But when ever I'm unhappy about any given situation I'm in I always try and find a positive way to solve it some way or other.

My first name is Ybarra(pronouced E-bear-ra). I didn't like it at first because it sounded to manly to me, and in waiting rooms when someone calls for me they always are surprised I'm a lady, they were expecting a man. Why, because my first name is a Spanish last name. So when people read my name they think my first name is my last name and my last name is my first. Wait I'm confused, did I say that right.

That made my heart warm.

I think we're putting to much into this guys. Isn't it more a preference here we're talking about. Would you choose someone who is beautiful but not very smart over someone who is smart but not so beautiful. I don't think there is anything wrong with a preference.

If you gave your answer, I received it as being honest. We're not talking about what will happen down the road, that's a whole different conversation that could upset people if your answer is different from theirs. All of us in some degree are selfish by nature. My question was about preference, not your moral obligation to someone if something happened to them. I'm not judging anyone here for that.

I have a strong attraction for Asian men, would you call me selfish for that? That is my preference, but I wouldn't pass up a black, white, red, or blue man if his heart were right and we had the right tools to make a successful relationship work.

I'm not Halle Berry and I don't have a Phd, so where the hell does that leave me. So while some guys might look at me and say, she not beutiful enough for me, or she's not smart enough for me, it's all good. You're not selfish to me. I'm just not your type, I'm some one else's type. It was just a question guys, let's not take it so serious.

First of all you have got to stop seeing every woman as you ex. You have to give that person a chance to prove to you who they are without those thoughts of them. My father cheated on my mom several times, and she held that hurt in until this day. She was never truly happy with any man she was with after my father because she saw all men as users and cheaters.

My first and only husband cheated on me. It was a hurt that took 4 years to get over. We can't say what others will do are not do. People are human. I didn't want to live like my mom, bitter and not trusting. I'll still take a chance to find true love any day. Good luck to you.

They are out there. I'm a hopeless romantic, I'll always believe that there's a good man out there for me. They say you always meet them when you least expect it.

It was just a hypothetical question. Guess we would all like to believe that if something happened to someone we love we wouldn't leave their side because of it. Be it looks or brains. I don't expect people to response to a question I ask the way I would. To each his own. It's been interesting read everyone's replies.

I think everyone has a right to any kind of relationship they want. The way I understood her question is why do men chase women they have no intention of marrying? Correct me if I'm wrong.

If it is not their intention of marrying, why chase women who are looking for marriage. His beliefs, feelings or reasons for not wanting to get marry is not the case. That's just being selfish. Look for someone who wants the same kind of relationship you want.

Wow, you're real close to where I live. Small world.

When I fall in love I give it all. I find it hard to hold back. But I'm cautious, that's not like holding back is it?