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Bring on the pain
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OP, you are too young to be so jaded. Give yourself time to heal.
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Everyone has a "but" even you.
I just think we should get over ourselves. |
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Be brutally honest
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Um, you're up front about what you want which is a good thing. But you appear to think you are above others. While you have plenty going for you, very few women want to be with a man who so outwardly looks down on everyone around him.
I would guess that your past relationships have been very unsatisfactory as well. And if I was a betting woman I'd bet you think you were never to blame. You said be honest. |
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Am I delusional?
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Lily, I think we meet the same stinkin guys! I'm over it too.
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I need opinions!
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I think you can get sick of ANYONE with too much togetherness, although... I can tell when I need some space, so at that point I have the option of sucking it up and gettting more irritated or saying something.
That's where people go wrong, they don't communicate their needs. and that's when the restraining order comes in! |
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It's not strange for a man your age to want children... no stranger than it is for a woman my age to want children. Although the older I get the more hesitant I've become.
Perhaps you are looking in the wrong places. I don't know, because I have been wondering how it is a mean and nasty psycho can find a man that will stick by her through her manic modes and I, being a normal and independant woman just have had very little luck at all! So good luck on your quest! |
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How do you move on?
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Put one foot in front of the other... Take time to take care of yourself. Let yourself be sad. Then go on about your business. It will get better, it just takes time.
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Edited by
simplyleslie
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Tue 01/01/08 04:13 PM
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One of the ABSOLUTE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS you can learn in LIFE is GOOD COMMUNICATION!!!!! This applies to EVERY aspect in LIFE! Anything from work to personal life, from friends to a spouse. WHY DO PEOPLE MAKE SUCH A SIMPLE THING SO HARD!!?? Say what you mean and mean what you say! There is nothing worng with just asking him..or better yet, telling him how YOU feel! Then if need be ask him how he feels. It's better than having to GUESS at everything. of course you risk "rejection" of not getting the same feelings in return, but you can also GET THAT FEELING IN RETURN! How are you going to know??? JUST COMMUNICATE!!! 
This is the absolute truth. Communication is key. And if it is indeed rejection, Tawny, better to find out sooner than later. Take it from someone who is speaking from experience... your situation seems to be a very common one, as I have recently experienced something very close to this as well. I found that all you can do is ask, yeah, it's awkward and uncomfortable for a minute, but what ensues can either be wonderful or a let down and that's the gamble. Life is full of ups and downs... |
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trying to decide
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a break from dating and hanging out with friends instead for a while is the time-honored tested and approved method of transition to moving on. either that or rebound guy of course! 
Yes, wise and simple advice. |
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trying to decide
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I am sorry you don't get the point The whole purpose of the posting was to say to you that you shouldn't even ask the question both ways if you continue you will remain the same mess unless you change your outlook Capish??? I am sorry that you got involved. First of all... I'm not a mess... this situation has caused a weird thing to happen in my heart... something that I'm not used to. I don't need some condescending man, who has only seen this small piece of my life, to begin passing judgement on me. Capiche? |
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trying to decide
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I read your dilemma with interest However it occurs to me that although you know some of the answers so well how could you allow yourself to repeat mistakes over and over again But the way you derive your conclusions are so wrong which it will eventually hurt you, rob you of your youth and effect no one else except you? I couldn't help but writing a few words perhaps it may sink in I have been friends with a woman who is now 10000 miles away from me and is living contented with a person with whome she has a child and as a family they are very well off finantially and emotionally On the other hand I am divorced with a set of twin boys. This lady knows most intimate wishes and fears of mine knows what turns me on and what puts me off etc. When we joke the language is shocking to say the least. I have never slept with her and neither has she (To my knowledge) Her husband has accepted that he has no choice as we do not subscribe to any of that because we know eventually it will ruin our friendship and neither of us wants that . Going back is never an option going forward is. Get yourself dusted and consider this. Dating must remain fun and you should take from each date one positive thing that you say you like and move on. Don't rob yourself from your chances you and only you would be the loser Amen interesting advice. not sure it's right on target... as the question was simply trying to decide whether to take a break from dating or not. Not whether to go live in a cave with a guitar until I die. |
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What a girl wants
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I want honesty, loyalty, dedication and lots and lots of affection. Affection... what the heck is that? OH if you are a guy that's the same as sex right?? and that is why women get assholes.......... yep, you're right |
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What a girl wants
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I want honesty, loyalty, dedication and lots and lots of affection. Affection... what the heck is that? OH if you are a guy that's the same as sex right?? |
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Fresh start for a new year!
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I am not looking to start fresh...
I AM. I refuse to repeat last year. |
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trying to decide
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well if you find any girl like that.. send her my way lol. LOL that's funny. |
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trying to decide
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haha so tru, gyms work mircales is more than one way.. go for it, you have nothing to lose. the only thing you are going to gain is physcial and mental health. now get your foot in the door and get in the gym woman! Yeah and when my body is looking like a sex machine... then who'll be looking for platonic crap? |
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trying to decide
Edited by
simplyleslie
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Tue 01/01/08 12:18 PM
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Sounds like you "fell" and he didn't. And it doesn;t sound, from what you wrote, that he was being misleading or deceiving..so you can;t blame him. Its something that has happened to most of us at some time in life or another. you just found yoursself liking him more than he liked you past the "friends" stage. That's just it! He was the one going on about "if we were in a relationship" "if we were married" "when you move" "I should marry YOU" HE was the one using words, like "boyfriend" and saying the things that lead me to believe that there was something more to it. I told him I am hurt that he has misled me and he says he still wants to get to know me on a more platonic level... Now am I being a jerk by thinking that I don't really see any point in having a "buddy" who lives 2 hours from me? I mean seriously I don't see the guy driving down to take me to a movie and dinner. There's plenty of "friends" available right in our own neighborhoods. |
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What a girl wants
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What this woman wants is for men to be honest, stable, nonjudgemental, and know what he wants. I do not want be taken advantage of or treated like a piece of meat unless it's a piece of meat that's not going to get tossed to the wayside when another cut wanders by. I want to find someone with equal feelings to mine who deserves what i have to offer and apreciates it.
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trying to decide
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I'm trying to decide whether I should take a break from men for awhile... not that I want to get together with a woman or anything either... But about 3 months ago I started talking to a guy who I was actually interested in on many different levels. (First time that's happened in a very very very long time). We hit it off, met in person several times, talked on the phone so much my last phone bill was almost 250$... and then within the last week he has slammed on brakes and has done a COMPLETE 180. He wants my "friendship" suddenly... which he already had... I know this means he isn't ready to make what we have a bonafied "relationship" and probably never will...
I'm disgusted with myself for opening up as much and as fast as I did and I'm thinking that it would be better to just take care of myself for awhile. But I realized in the last 3 months that I actually was looking forward to spending time with the guy and I'm wondering if it's HIM or just that he filled a void... Dating kinda sucks... but being alone all the time sucks too... a gym membership would be much easier on the emotions than all this! |
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I've been living alone for the last 10 or so years. Even with relationships I still don't cohabitate.
Yes I like my own company, I have fish that keep dying and plenty of plants... but my bed is cold. I have started to think that it would be better to have someone to ask where all the Ben & Jerry's went than to eat the whole thing... I have started to wonder where I will be @ 85 yrs old? Will I have lived only for myself for 85 years and die alone? But then again, when you break it down, we all die alone... unless you are driving and intentionally crash only because the vehicle is full of other miserable people. However... It is better to be alone and lonely... than with someone who makes you miserable. I know I won't hurt myself and that makes it very easy to be alone even when my hearts desire is to give all of who I am to someone who deserves it. |
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