Well, that goes without saying mostly, but.....

I'm not exactly the kind of person that jumps into relationships, I have a daugter and a life and friends and those come first when i meet someone i don't drop everything.

My question is, I have met a few guys that come on pretty strong on one hand and use the "I'm not looking for anything but a friend" on the other hand... Is this some kind of test that I am failing at miserably?

I don't engage with them after that..... I figure I know what I am looking for and a bunch of new guys friends isn't one of them... I got enough of those!!

what's the deal with that line?

the coming on strong but just want to be friends but can have sex occaisionally line.blah blah ...know what you mean ..i dont mind having mail friends if they keep to normal conversation...that goes out of the door tho if it become flrting ...cos you dont usually flirt with friends....its different on here can have a flirt and be friends too cos i probably wont ever meet the guys ..live to far and its a giggle...but know where you are coming from

In my opinion, with a lot of guys, once they find someone they like, they're always looking to improve on it. Basically, it's like: "I've found someone that's this nice, there must be someone nicer here too." I don't think the problem is with you, most guys (some gals too) aren't sure what they're looking for and end up passing by what could be the best thing that could have happened to them.
If it's any consolation, I love you

Oh ya, I don't settle, I will write someone off in a heart beat... I have a ton of friends.... I don't need baggage to weigh me down... I have my own thanks..and it all matches and fits neatly inside each other for storage..

Thanks...I'm not lacking in love..with me you either love me or hate me, and luckily I don't care much either way, I let people decide who they are to me, and then treat them accordingly... just the way it is...but that one special person thing.... It's like the quest for the Holy Grail...

Sometimes it isn't a line. The whole premise for my being here was not in finding a relationship. Mostly because every time I've tried to find a relationship... I ended up with something I should be running away from.

I find that letting the chips fall where they may, while building friendships seems to be a better way.

Amen.

I agree to let the chips fall where they may, but.... why come on so strong on the other hand...that's my issue.... not the friends thing...look i love you from afar babe.... I respect the friend thing...now.... you tell me you wanna date, and I'm on the next plain to Oregon...or whatever western state you're in........

That would be both ironic and tragic. Not to mention pretty self defeating on my part... Because I'm sure that someone would take issue with that.
You'd be here in Oregon alone.. While I'd be in Ohio... trying desperately to explain myself to a young lady I'm supposed to be meeting there!

hehehe you know...... you're one of my favorites.... a woman in ohio.... could you break my heart any more?? really??

That is sweet to say. I'm sure your guy is out there... He just hasn't surfaced yet. It can be pretty difficult to come up..when surrounded by sharks.

Oh he's out there... I know it... he's the lion tamer... I just don't understand the other ones??..."Baby, your beautiful, I gotta get to know you, your so different........" and the second you show interest it goes to...." Ya, know you're my girl, but I just wanna be friends" then it goes to.... the second they think you are talking to another guy " what's up... I thought we had something?" WTF??? If we are friends....why would it matter if I talk to other guys...wouldn't you be happy for me???

most women don't want to comit to fast and the guy knows that so he says things to calm the girl down and get her to a comfort zone so he can get what he wants from her sooner then she originally wanted to give it to him.

lily if we ever went out and I am allready attracted to your pics but if I became more attracted and wanted you to be my girl I would make a commitment to you I wouldn't just want to be your friend I would want to be everything to you and you me I guess people don't think that way anymore but I do.

That's my point, I'm not stupid.... Then I run into the guys who think I'm a challange.... I'm a basic kinda girl, I will take you at your word... You say you wanna be friends..we're friends, and you go into the catagory with all the other guys friends I have.... The catagory where we hang out, on a moments notice and drink beer and burp and talk about stuff no one but us laughes at, and if one of us can't come, no one gets bent about it... the catagory where i go home at the end of the night, a little tipsey, but feeling totally loved like in a dystfunctional family....Those are my friends...no kissing no hugging (mostly...) and def. no sex..... You wanna be my friend...that's who my friends are.

I agree 100% with legman

Lily, I think we meet the same stinkin guys! I'm over it too.

Do you wanna have a nice hand holding only lesbian relationship with me then?? I'm down...

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thats all i have to say im in the same boat i just had a email saying do i wanna be his booty call

you know what he can kiss my booty