A nice guy can also get the girl. It's really not that hard. And not all women want to be coerced into doing things they don't want to do. Oftentimes, they get SO sick of making all the decisions, where to go eat, what movie to see, what color the curtains should be... etc... so when they FINALLY meet someone who has some ideas of his own on what to do, it's so great to be able to go along for the ride, that the girl will agree to it simply because she didn't have to plan it. The problem with that is this. Oftentimes, that is a sign of selfishness (when a guy says, I'm doing this wanna come? No? Fine, see ya later) which means she's started dating a real jerk.

So if you (a nice guy) want to meet a nice woman and stay out of "friend zone" all you have to do is... don't put away your sexual self... make it clear that you are interested in the girl not only as a friend but also as someone you'd like to get a little crazy with (if you know what I mean...) Seems like lots of you nice guys think talking about sex with a woman is rude if brought on too quickly. Well it's not. it creates tension and that's not a bad thing. Women want to get together with men who want them...


Here's the thing, you don't have to jeopardize your nice guy status by turning into a jerk, but you CAN take some of the jerk's tricks and twist them into something that a non jerk can use.

For example, instead of saying, "I'm going to see Rambo has a Heart Attack" wanna go with? No? well what would you rather see?" Before even asking her out find out things she likes and plan something you think she'll like, then invite her... IF she can't go... go without her... take your niece or something and then tell her after the fact she missed a good time. She won't want to miss the next one that's for sure. And you didn't have to be a jerk...

Don't lie to the man.

First of all you're both too young for marriage. Second if you aren't sure you want to marry her, then you don't. So stop stringing her along. If you don't KNOW if you love her, then you don't... so don't say that you do.

Nothing hurts worse than being led to believe there is a future with a man who doesn't feel the same way. In the long run, you'll look like a big jerk and she will have a little piece of her heart ripped out.