Does it take men longer to establish feeling than it does for a woman? I have known this man for a short 2 months or so... I have met others but no-one makes me feel like he does. I get mixed messages from him and don’t know where I stand... I guess I can say he likes me but we all like people or we wouldn’t be here. I don’t know... I’m not in a hurry to rush things but don’t want to end up trying to piece my heart back together either. I’m so confused.....

ask him.........

How long have you had any time together like to talk chat you know the usual?

baby..if you get an answer to that let me in on it ok!
i went thru sumtin similer i just couldnt get the right messages from him
it seemed tho he led me on till i reached max and then let me fall to the bottom....
im just sayon thats how i feel
not thats what he did
and its never easy

you known each other 2 months but in that time how many times has it been just one on one? Has he too kyou out anywhere spent money on you? Has he bought you any gifts? What kind of hugs does he offer are they friend hugs or i like you hugs?

And then allow him to know what you are feeling or thinking, communication, communication, communication.

He is probably just as unsure as you are so, communicate & then you are less likely to end up picking up the broken peices.......

Good Luck

Talk to him. Be honest and tell him how you feel. Figure out where he stands too.
If he doesn't feel the same way you'll be hurt but not as much as if you keep waiting and hoping.
He might be feeling the same way you are too.

No it does not take longer for men to establish feelings. Everybody is different. Some people have a hard time showing there feelings or don't know how to show them without feeling akward about it. If your friend ship is good you should talk to him about it...

We chat quite a bit and met once. Plan on meeting again but I just don’t want to be led on... cause if he leads me to a cliff I swear Ill jump!

Ditto. Men usually appreciate the direct approach.....

Yes- ask him... I had my heart jerked out of place because
things were unclear. From now on I am asking instead of just believing... Good luck!

Some guy's r just afraid to show ther feeling's
just ask him, and the go from there..ther is nothing
wrong with haveing these feeling's just take it one day at a time..

I am going thru something VERY similar right now! I have met a guy, in my hometown (myex's sister fixed us up).... we had been together 2 months, had STRONG feelings for eachother, then on Christmas Eve, he told me that he needed tome to "Sort things out"... We have talked a few times since then, but nothing like before. I really miss him being here with me. We were supposed to spend the evening together last night, but he never called. I was very hurt, and upset. I spent the evening alone, sittingon the couch or on the computer. But I did find out today that he was in the ER last night with an allergic reation to some new meds that his doc put him on (he has MS). So I felt like an A**!!! He did apologize for not calling, but he left both his cells at home... and didn't even call his kids that live with their DA mother.
So if you figure out how to deal with these situations... let me know too!

I guess this all makes perfect sense... although I do believe I have received an answer.. maybe I was trying to ignore it. He isn’t looking for a LTR right now. I believe that is what he said. Does that ever change? I would be hurt now but If I fall any harder I will be devastated...

I am going thru something VERY similar right now! I have met a guy, in my hometown (myex's sister fixed us up).... we had been together 2 months, had STRONG feelings for eachother, then on Christmas Eve, he told me that he needed tome to "Sort things out"... We have talked a few times since then, but nothing like before. I really miss him being here with me. We were supposed to spend the evening together last night, but he never called. I was very hurt, and upset. I spent the evening alone, sittingon the couch or on the computer. But I did find out today that he was in the ER last night with an allergic reation to some new meds that his doc put him on (he has MS). So I felt like an A**!!! He did apologize for not calling, but he left both his cells at home... and didn't even call his kids that live with their DA mother.
So if you figure out how to deal with these situations... let me know too!

I am going thru something VERY similar right now! I have met a guy, in my hometown (myex's sister fixed us up).... we had been together 2 months, had STRONG feelings for eachother, then on Christmas Eve, he told me that he needed tome to "Sort things out"... We have talked a few times since then, but nothing like before. I really miss him being here with me. We were supposed to spend the evening together last night, but he never called. I was very hurt, and upset. I spent the evening alone, sittingon the couch or on the computer. But I did find out today that he was in the ER last night with an allergic reation to some new meds that his doc put him on (he has MS). So I felt like an A**!!! He did apologize for not calling, but he left both his cells at home... and didn't even call his kids that live with their DA mother.
So if you figure out how to deal with these situations... let me know too!

I am going thru something VERY similar right now! I have met a guy, in my hometown (myex's sister fixed us up).... we had been together 2 months, had STRONG feelings for eachother, then on Christmas Eve, he told me that he needed tome to "Sort things out"... We have talked a few times since then, but nothing like before. I really miss him being here with me. We were supposed to spend the evening together last night, but he never called. I was very hurt, and upset. I spent the evening alone, sittingon the couch or on the computer. But I did find out today that he was in the ER last night with an allergic reation to some new meds that his doc put him on (he has MS). So I felt like an A**!!! He did apologize for not calling, but he left both his cells at home... and didn't even call his kids that live with their DA mother.
So if you figure out how to deal with these situations... let me know too!

One of the ABSOLUTE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS you can learn in LIFE is GOOD COMMUNICATION!!!!!

This applies to EVERY aspect in LIFE! Anything from work to personal life, from friends to a spouse.

WHY DO PEOPLE MAKE SUCH A SIMPLE THING SO HARD!!??

Say what you mean and mean what you say!

There is nothing worng with just asking him..or better yet, telling him how YOU feel! Then if need be ask him how he feels. It's better than having to GUESS at everything.

of course you risk "rejection" of not getting the same feelings in return, but you can also GET THAT FEELING IN RETURN! How are you going to know??? JUST COMMUNICATE!!!

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