Oh no, no, no.....I always swore when I was married I didn't have PMS....then I figured out afterwards...my husband was right!

nah...my periods are bad enough...don't need a man to have one as well!

The question of the ages....it happens all the time to women by men and to men by women...don't worry, you're not alone and obviously he's not worth your time, worry or attention to behave that way towards you.

Yet another great point,

And one that hinted to a possible feeling that maybe changing 250,000 years of evolution in 30 years might have had some repercussions?

Hey I am not making waves here, maybe little ripples, you will know when I make waves!

But is it too much to ask for full time open conversation? I feel that woman expect males to KNOW when we are to switch, and I am here to say I am not a light switch, I can be all those things that I put on my list, but not at the same time!

When I here a woman say that she wants this and that in a man, I can tell you with absolute certainty, she is full of it 99% of the time.

Yes of course we all want nice, good, tender, caring, nurturing, pretty, this is easy, MY point is ladies, you also want to have protection, challenge, and some one to take the heat at times.

*act – climbs a tree to the highest branch.



nope, it's not too much to expect...I agree 100% women should say what they want and not play games. Men cannot read our minds and we shouldn't expect them to. The fact is, the majority of my friends are men because I don't like playing games or getting jealous because a man I'm dating talks to a woman. Women need to be more open, honest and to the point with men to make it work.

I think you misread my response to your prior post. I was agreeing with you.....

I think this is probably an issue the site admin could answer better? I understand you're venting but it is their site and it's free so they do get to monitor the posts...Online free boards are not the best option for expressing arguements about how the site is run... they own it and we're not paying for it so we have no expectations of much of free speech or anything else. Just my opinion after dealing with many free online boards and chat rooms. I'm sorry I didn't see your post so I don't know what the issue was but I did learn long ago free sites are free and if I'm not paying I can't argue with their decisions regarding deleting posts.

I don't think it's a battle of the sexes persay....I think it's more that we're now in a society where women can support themselves and their children and expect the same respect as a human being for doing what men have been doing for centuries.

I'm not a feminist and I actually personally believe that the feminist movement had quite a bit of fallout (some good some bad) on the family structure; however, now it's here and women are working as hard as men and have proved they are quite capable. If we could get that respect in relationships as well where we are not supposed to either be the subservient woman at home while still having a career and/or not have a man decide that since a woman can pay the bills he shouldn't have to contribute equally financially (to the best his career will allow), in the home and in the relationship, then a lot more relationships would work.

Women now are/have broken through the glass ceiling at the office but it seems we're still supposed to then come home and take care of the kids, the cooking, the cleaning and the other little things that make having the energy for focusing on your significant other exhausting. Granted, I'm speaking on what I have experienced and perhaps I've looked in the wrong places and occasionally chosen wrong but I do think that if you're talking about a serious committed relationship where both people are working, then to make the relationship work you have to work together on the issues at home that are basic things such as dishes, dinner, laundry, taking out the trash, car repair, etc. Even when I've found someone that was an equal or making less money than I do, I still have come home with the expectation that I take care of all the household responsibilities.

Fact of the matter is, my ex-husband and I get along very well, make equal money financially, have joint custody and yet I have to make sure he gets Boy Scouts taken care of, talk with all of the teachers, get him to the doctor, push my ex to take him to the dentist when he's with my son. My ex is a good person and a great father....but we're in a limbo where the mindset of relationships and family roles have not caught up with the needs of relationships.

As a woman, its hard to work 8-10 hours a day, come home and take care of a child, the household chores, bills, etc and then still have the energy to jump into bed and be the wild woman.

I know it's a long response but it's what I've found are issues with relationships for me....balance is still not there.

The point of the job one is....please don't try to move into my house and have me support you...should have probably clarified that one more....disability I understand...I'm a nurse, I deal with the disabled often...

Just speaking from experience as to a decent start....

hmm...let's see

in 1999 my son said there was a NEW Backstreet Boys for the NEW millenium and....from now on....they will ONLY wear white suits (I believe he got that from a soda commercial)

one of the million unanswerable questions...."what does vinegar smell like?" -- still no idea where that came from

when he was 7 someone cut me off in traffic and I said something not so nice to which he replied "Mom, they just don't know who they're messing with do they???"

hmmm....lets start with:

1. You need to have a job which supports you and your bills
2. You need to have your own vehicle to get you to and from that job
3. You need to not live with your parents unless you are taking care of them
4. You need to be able to not lie
5. You cannot wear my clothes
6. You may not wet the bed because you drink so much you cant figure out you need to wake up and go to the bathroom....

Those are a nice start for me....

hmmm....depends on your definition of what is naughty and what is nice....

Now I love that post....I've been alone on new years for at least the last 4 years and my son is still the best company I have (although if I hear the bass track to 'sweet child of mine' one more time tonight I may hide his bass)

exactly which is why I relate to those in deities in religion so well :)

the greco-roman i mean ;)

same as in dallas...a lot of weeding out of people, getting up the nerve to meet a stranger and juggling work, family and currently holiday chaos....keep your chin up...it's not easy and takes effort but it will happen.

I find this all interesting and somewhat odd but for serious answer, I'd start with filing police reports if you're being stalked and attacked, then seeing a counselor through your local community services or through your school. If this is serious, then you need help and sex is not going to improve the situation. Everyone needs to work on themselves first before trying to find a relationship and it sounds like you have some issues that need to be addressed before worrying about dating, sex and relationships.

I've always been the one to have the sex, drugs, parenting talks with my son. I'm realistic. I've told him I don't want him to do it and that girls that age that are having sex are likely to have some emotional issues going on, abuse, if they are jumping into sexual activity so quickly. My son knows that I don't want him to have sex at his age but he also knows that if he does, that he knows that he needs to have condoms and he can come to me. I've told him repeatedly I'd rather have a little embarrassment with mom now than a pregnancy or STD later. My stepbrother became a father at 14. I asked my son, can you imagine being a dad at your age? Think about that and if you decide to have sex you better be safe. Abstinence is a great idea, but with peer pressure, media and kids growing up so much faster than they are emotionally ready for....it's not realistic and parents need to, in my opinion, accept that to protect their children.

*laughs* hell i'm never getting out of jail....isn't there a statute of limitations on some of these things????

I remember that movie...It causes me to laugh like crazy still today each time I see it!

I agree, at least a "thank you but I'm looking for someone closer" makes a person feel that at least you were acknowledged. I also figure if nothing else, maybe I'll make a new friend. No harm no foul. (so if i missed a reply or an email I apologize, it's been a crazy week and I didn't mean to miss you for a reply and I've been known to accidentally delete things on this laptop!)