I’m going out on a limb here but I’m going to say this

1. If I want to go slow and develop a friendship first I don’t sit and hold hands and blow kisses across the table with a man I just met. That most definitely is sending mixed messages

2. If I took it too far on a first meeting and then regretted it the next morning I need to own that and apologize. Hopefully the guy will understand. The apology would help and redefine boundaries.

Personally I think you need to move on. Mixed messages and no apology spells future problems.

As a woman my behaviour needs to match my words. If a little alcohol prevents me from taking it too far then I better stop drinking alcohol on a first meeting. I am responsible for my behaviour. There are ways to let a guy know you are interested besides blowing kisses. You could just say, “I’d like to see you again”.

Fish or dead animals - real turnoff

Kids or friends - posting photos without a person’s permission

Posting with other men - so which one are you?

Profile says you don’t smoke but the photo shows you holding a cigarette or cigar

Profile says you drink occasionally but every photo shows you with a drink

Men who use a woman’s name for their ID and a woman’s photo - are you transsexual? If you like THAT woman why are you here instead of with her? If she is an ex then let her go. No woman wants to be a replacement for your fantasy woman

And yes photos with kids - either your own or grandkid is just wrong - photo editing is too easy for child pornographers

And raise the camera so I don't have to look up your nose

There are some things I know too but can't share openly because it would only give them more ideas.

Just got another friend request:

ME: Why do you want to be friends with me?
HIM: Yes
ME: Do you Read English?
HIM: ____________ (no answer) I don’t think it is in the script

Well I just had an exchange with one of them. It seems no matter what you say they have an agenda- get the email address and get her offsite.

He admitted he had not read the profile before asking what I was looking for. Then read it it ignored it all, kept calling me babe and was determined not to answer any questions.

I wonder if these guys have a script. They all have very similar questions and responses, and rarely answer direct questions.

I don’t think we are helping the scammers. I do thinkmanyofthese so-called young people are really scammersloking for amark. Some will ask for money. Some want a quick way into a country. And yes some think we are sex goddesses.

Iris only by talking about it that we have the power to stop them. Crime grows the fastest when people don’t report it or turns blind eye to it.

I bet she can run faster than some of the fellas. Just hope she can run faster than some of their wives.

Nope Definitely not interested. it is hard enough in here figuring out who is lying and who is being honest. Like others have said - I've had enough drama

My mother is 85 and just moved into a nursing home. Knowing my mother the men are probably getting a lot of activity in the past few weeks.

Not more than 15 miles.

I have tried long distance before. There were a few problems.

A couple of men thought that if they came for the weekend for a first time meeting they would automatically get sex.

Nope NO ONE gets sex the first time I meet them. Just because he comes from far away is no reason to commit to sex with a person I haven’t met yet. Needless to say we never met.

But there are issues of time and cost of traveling. There are no spontaneous dates. It costs money to travel back and forth. It takes time to drive a couple of hours there and back.

I don’t think you really get to know someone on weekend visits. It is too easy to be on your best behaviour. Do an extra cleanup before the person arrives. You don’t get to see the true person. Even a day to say slob might clean up before a visit and then revert to old behaviour after the visit. So who are you really meeting?

As the relationship progresses you may stay over more often and get a better idea of who the other person is. Plus if problems arise you would have a greater chance to see reactions and responses. These perspectives are very important to the development of the relationship.

So long distance isn’t an option for me

I think they have scripts to follow. And they don’t speak English and simply post. I consistently see the exact sa
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Just so you all know. There was a problem in the programming and the button was not there. it has been corrected.

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Feel free to use it any time you need it

false teeth might work. hearing aids, coke bottle eyeglasses. thinning hair. using a walker. You name it.

I love dealing with reality and some of these guys need a huge dose of it

I don't quite get the mind of these guys. Maybe a body that gravity has taken hold of is a turn on. What gets me is that they say they want a long term relationship that will last til the end of our lives.

So I told him this:

Hmmm I am 66. and He was 19. In 20 years you will be 39 and I will be 88 and most likely be wearing Depends to bed.

I have said this to the guys in their 20s, 30 and 40s. It stops them cold. Not one has ever come back with a good response or any response. That is an end of conversation comment and it works every time.

That is what copy and paste is for. if you can't write a good individual response to everyone who contacts you then have a generic one that fits all sizes.

I do have a fair amount of info in my profile. not that many men read it but it is there. So when a guy from the US sends me a message and says he loves my profile then I know he hasn't read it. It clears says no long distance and no international. Although I suppose they may not know that Ottawa ON is in Canada or they want out of the US and see Canadians as a ticket out. I do think most have no idea about the immigration process. And well the scammers aren't planning to be around that long anyways.

I never ever copy and paste generic responses. I will admit that I do like to be bad and play along with some of them before I offer a few facts.

I will say though that my profile has gotten the attention of more scammers than propositions. In fact I have only had one rather blunt sexual offer.

I had a 19 year old hit on me. he was younger than my GRANDDAUGHTER!!!

He said he wanted to teach me all about sex.

I told him "Child I have been having sex since before you were born. I doubt there is anything you you could teach me or at least nothing I would care to learn."

And yes I used the word child. if they are closer to the age of my children then they are considered children too and my kids are in their mid 40s.

I will never ever be that desperate.

What gets me is that by not reading my profile and only looking at the photo they can tell how smart I am.

And I don’t know about women but guys, please when I look at your photo I don’t want to look up your nose. Please hold the camera a little higher.

I agree about the looks and fun part. I look younger than I am. Some men have said I was lying about my age. Oh well. I see no point in lying. My photos were all taken in 2018.

I don’t mind a few years younger but not more than 10. I think the generation we grew up with important. It gives us more in common to talk about if we shared the same things growing up. Where were you when Kennedy or Lennon was shot? Or when men landed on the moon? Do you remember drills in school for what to do if an atomic bomb exploded? Yes I remember those things. They had an emotional impact that clearly stayed with me and helped form the person I am today. But they can also be what music we listened to. Concerts we saw, movies or TV shows we grew up with. These things are the basis for our cultural landscape and I think the more of these things we have in common the better chance we have of meeting the person we are looking for.

That’s not to say differences can’t be fun but I don’t want to be in a position of teacher to someone too much younger