Maybe I'm different but when a man posts his profile pics with his child or children I am put off. First I think you are exposing your child or children to the predators out there. If you mention in your bio info text that you have a child or children that should be sufficient. This would go for women as well but I don't see female profiles so I don't know.

Any other women or men bothered by this?

I agree with you.. profile pics should only be of the person who created the profile.. no cats, dogs etc.. just that person.

I agree.. and if you want kids in your profile, put someone else's kids in there.. good looking ones.

Makes you look better ;)

Pics of kids on a dating site, always a bad idea.

Doesn't bother me.
I've not worried when I've had my kids in the profile pics.

No names, teenage/grown, and my kids have their FB profiles pretty locked down.

Yeah, it bothers me when guys post pictures with their little kids. It's a big turn off.

Do you believe they are/should be trying to be attractive to you specifically?
Maybe that's a weeding process for them to dissuade people from contacting them, to attract people that aren't put off by it?
Maybe they want to (or don't care if they do) put certain people off and you just happen to be in that group?


You pretty much do that just by having kids and letting them leave their basement cages.

Do you honestly believe there are "predators" out there that are selling their windowless van, so they aren't hanging out in front of schools or parks, to buy a computer to sit inside, away from their neighborhood kids, and avoiding all the direct contact chat or kiddie interaction sites to focus on online dating sites to potentially find a random picture of some random kids that live somewhere in that town so they can then print it out and maybe walk around town (since they had to sell their windowless van for the computer) looking for those specific random kids who may be with the parent?

Or do you mean you believe that predators go online and find someone with pictures of kids on their profile and then target that dater to date and get access to those kids, as though they are confounded when a profile just says "has kids" and they are incapable of asking their ages, or getting the parent to talk about their kid(s), or find them on facebook or other social media?

To me the whole "omg! I'm worried about your kids when you post pictures" is like the pop in. When a girl comes by your house and doesn't go away, and she's all "oh, I wanted to stop by because I was worried!"
IMO it's BS.

Other than that, you might want to avoid Youtube. There are so many videos of parents and children on there it might send you into apoplectic fits.


Lots of people are bothered by all sorts of things.
It would be great, and maybe you can do this, for someone to petition the government or start some kind of gofundme page to set up a profile standardization process for all internet dating sites/apps to use?

Some of the most common "botherings" seem to be:
- old pics/catfishing
- photoshop/filters
- fish
- kids
- cars
- pets
- lack of full body
- cartoons
- lack of smiles/not the right smile
- locations and things but not the person in it
- covered face pics/too many/too few clothes
- lighting
- bathroom shots
- flattering unreal angles
- opposite sex/friends/family/too many other people
- too many selfies/not enough pictures
- cliche/vague profiles
- too long profiles
- too short of profiles
- bad tone of profile

You forgot sunglasses.

Yes, that turns me off.

A man contacted me, I asked who the cute babies were he said his grandkids.

I agree with Idaho.

No shirt on

PUT UR DAM SHIRT ON

I agree with "ciretom".

The pervs to worry about are teachers, extracurricular activity leaders, friends' parents, and their own kids taking it upon themselves to go to websites they have no business on >> parent's lack of oversight.

back in 1998, I caught my oldest, 11 yo (she was claiming 16), was in a chat, with some guy claiming 19 yo

I shut that down fast and warned her about any future shenanigans.

I was the computer administrator and had access to my 3 kids accounts.

she was po'd that I spied on her. I told her that was my job.

And raise the camera so I don't have to look up your nose

hahahahaha

those hairs distract from the rest of his face.

In some cases that is better...

Yep, I am bothered by it, it's off-putting.

Also a cropped photo where you can see him leaning in to where his ex used to be If you cannot even make a decent NEW photo for your profile, then don't bother at all.

- Pouting men, the 'duck face' lips. HORRIBLE, and not masculine. Plus it reveals smoker's line on the top lip. So not attractive!

- Men holding a big fish, EEWWW.

- Men sticking out their tongue. I don't need to see that huge lap of meat. So gross

Fish or dead animals - real turnoff

Kids or friends - posting photos without a person’s permission

Posting with other men - so which one are you?

Profile says you don’t smoke but the photo shows you holding a cigarette or cigar

Profile says you drink occasionally but every photo shows you with a drink

Men who use a woman’s name for their ID and a woman’s photo - are you transsexual? If you like THAT woman why are you here instead of with her? If she is an ex then let her go. No woman wants to be a replacement for your fantasy woman

And yes photos with kids - either your own or grandkid is just wrong - photo editing is too easy for child pornographers

Yes to SparklingCrystal and MsLeeHM comments

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