noooooooooo, I said I would.

I would say no because either I like them enough to go out or I don't. No amount of persuading on their part will change my mind. And I would never try to persuade someone to go out if they turned me down before. That's not in my nature. If someone turned me down I would simply say I understand and let them know that I will always be here if they ever change their mind. That certainly is not persuasion. That is just being a gentleman.

not sure i follow what you are asking of me...to me, it is all a matter of scale...for example, i travel a bit...before lotto, i book econ coach class and moderate accommodations...after lotto, i book first class and hotel suites...i am still spoiling myself in both instances...just a matter of scale...Charities and family , etc get four or more digit giving instead of two or three...

if you want big scale whim...buy an island and a yacht...buy a ticket to travel to the moon and back (they do have those, you know)...

my scale is in synch with my means...nothing more, nothing less...

I don't need to win the lottery. I am filthy rich. Wait a minute..................I got that wrong. I am filthy minded. I knew filthy was in there somewhere. On my way to buy a ticket...

Partying??? I think I'd skip that altogether, lol.
- I think I'd first buy myself another car.

- Get the therapy that would likely cure my chronic ailments which I now cannot pay for.

- Go to Scotland, the Magickal Journey that I now cannot afford that will take me to all this power places. I'd add Culloden to that, as I really want to go there.

- Back home, buy myself a house somewhere, not sure where, so first I'd have to find a nice area where I want to live.

- Put money aside for retirement

- Rent in people to set up my company online with all the to-do. Once that's out of my hair, I can focus on the training session I want to do and start doing them.
Get some proper advertising going for them so I start making money, the idea being to invest to keep it going.

- Go to my fave crystal shop and buy the crystals I so want!

- get the oracle & tarot decks in that are on my bucket list (about 10).

- a proper camera to both take good piccies with AND video clips for my YouTube channel and training sessions

- buy new clothes and shoes.

- Finally get another settee!! And dining room chairs.

- New PC, monitor & laptop.

When all that is done, bought, and sussed, I think it's time to do some traveling. The online webinars & training sessions I can do from anywhere in the world. Matter of taking my brand-new laptop with me and Bob's your uncle.

New Orleans, Mt Shasta, and I want to see Uluru again.

hmmm...lets see, right now - sometimes i feel altruistic and give to family, charities, homeless, etc; sometimes i feel selfish and spoil me big time with very little consideration of need vs want; sometimes i spend on a whim; i throw up my hands (Yayyyy!!) when the rhythm of life goes up and i hold on tightly (ahhh nutbutter!!) when the darn thing starts the down swing ; at the end of the day, i say "what a ride!"

if i win the lotto - when i feel altruistic i would give to family, charities, homeless, etc; when i feel selfish i would spoil me big time with very little consideration of need vs want; i would definitely spend on a whim; i would throw up my hands (Yayyyy!!) when the rhythm of my life goes up and i hold on tightly (ahhh chitzoo!!) when the darn thing starts the down swing ; at the end of the day, i would say "what a ride!"

Now where's the nearest lotto store?...

When I was younger I wouldn't have minded. But now I would. I've had enough chit in my life as it is, I don't need stress and anxiety yet again.
And I know myself, the way I love someone is deep, and I would be worried.

I do like excitement, having fun, but that is entirely different from having stress and anxiety over my loved one's work. So no, rather not.

That makes me think of something else worthy of notation.

There is a big difference when the person is already in a dangerous job than if they choose a dangerous job after meeting/becoming involved with you.

With one, you enter into the relationship knowing about the risk, It kinda prepares you.
With the other, the risk changes the relationship conditions. The stress might be higher.

Probably not the job.
"Dangerous jobs" tend to attract certain personality types/traits, and create/exacerbate certain personality types/traits.
Ones that I know I'm not all that attracted to.

The job wouldn't be the issue so much as what their personality would have to be in order to fulfill the job.

Kinda depends on the job too, though.

I mean there's technician in a nuclear plant vs. lion tamer vs. EMT vs. Ultimate Fighter vs. Police vs. Military vs. Crab fisherman vs. oil roughneck.

I dated a woman, once, who worked on a crab boat in Alaska.
Showed up, profile pic was obviously fake, had no teeth, smelled like menthol cigarettes which was weird for someone who put "non smoking" on their profile.

Some jobs are going to chew you up and spit you out.

Might be different if I were 18 again, and dating someone else 18, and their dream for the future was to go into a "dangerous job" vs. someone that's been in a "dangerous job" for 20 years.

right to the point, ha ?

.. Be sure to have a good life insurance ..

beats me.. never cared for the one I have though.