Maybe if he became a nicer person. Haha! He is a bully and mean spirited. So until then...no chance.

Funny that I never considered that. Haha! I bet you’re right.

I think this is a sound policy. And I agree it just becomes irritating, even to the point of creepy (like the guy I mention in my original post) unless you’re friendly enough with them for it to be a lighthearted, ongoing joke to let them know from time to time you would still be interested if their circumstances have changed or whatever.

I could see doing it if someone was not creepy about it.

The fact that they continue to ask does speak for the sincerity of their motives. Which can be very endearing.

When I was young, the meat counter guy used to make me blush with his joking teases, like, “Are these steaks for me to grill for you on our date this weekend?” I never learned if he was really fishing for a date or just liked to tease his customers. Haha! I was too shy back then to ask.

Sorry if it’s not well written. I did not mean to imply breaking a date or pulling a no show. Just persistently asking until you or they give in and go out with you.

You bring a lot of good scenarios to the discussion. Those are all very real life situations that would be valid reasons to persuade or be persuaded into trying to date someone you or they might have misgivings about.

Nice!

Part of my answer was erased somehow before posting it. This is the lost portion of my previous answer. I’m not an expert quoter yet. Haha!

I agree with you here Tom. Only honestly will insure excuses are not construed as “maybe another time”. I think pulling out the old “I’m washing my hair on that night too.” is pretty insulting.

Good point. Offering an alternative circumstance if the one you presented was what she may have been turning down...and not you personally is not pushy, invasive or creepy like it might seem if she had said she didn’t want to go out with you specifically.

My late husband was shy too. You could try what he did to open conversation with me. We were at a laundromat on campus when he approached me to ask to borrow a quarter for his dryer cycle. He didn’t know that I had noticed him making change at the machine for 5 dollars of quarters and only had one load. Haha!

it was a simple approach that didn’t take much effort and allowed me to make an easy retreat after first contact if conversation didn’t appeal to me.

Yes, we began on a lie, but it was innocent enough to be endearing.

Well that sucks. I admit to shying away from pointing out personal areas to the opposite sex. Where a guy might get defensive about thinking another man was checking out his jewels, most women would be more likely to thank another woman for pointing out a Janet Jackson at Super Bowl moment.

Good point! The guy who was rude to me at the ticket counter is on his own when I see his shoe sporting TP at intermission. Haha!

I expected to see more jokesters showing up here.

Is it possible saving people embarrassments we wouldn’t wish to endure ourselves actually trumps people who love to laugh at others misfortune? Nice!

So do you feel that to laugh at people’s misfortuneate bloopers online is different, because there was nothing you could have done to help them anyway?

I deserve it. I will have to make it up to you.

But does she have Grey Poupon? One must have their standards!

Very well said! I love the...”I can make up my own mind thank you very much.”

Exactly!

Good answer. Let any change in decision happen organically. I think trying to urge anything forward, overly encouraging someone to get to know you better, would been taken as pushy or manipulating anyway. Therefore spoiling any chance they might choose to do so in their own time.

Being a grandparent is way better than being a percent. You get to spoil them and then give them back before they get grumpy. Haha!

I don’t have an actual store of items or “go bag”, but have calculated the risks we could face in the Midwest and feel, in most events, my everyday pantry would suffice.

I don’t eat canned or packaged foods generally, but keep a shelf in the panty with those items and take them to the local food pantry every 6 months and buy new packaged and canned products to replace them.

I keep a good supply of wood and charcoal in my shed in case of electrical outages that I can still cook for a couple of weeks, starting with whatever is in my freezer before it becomes useless.

I change out a drawer full of assorted batteries once a year when I check my smoke detectors. This drawer also contains fire starters, matches, candles a hand crank radio and hand crank flashlights, and a basic first aid kit. I also have an emergency bag with rope, panchos, tools, fishing line and hooks, knives and a flare gun.

My garage always has a large gas can I refill every dozen times I use it for the lawn mower, though it is never more than half empty. So I always have at the very least 5 gallons of gas available.

It may be a minimum by some standards, or an unnecessary precaution to others. But I have used the extras and been glad to have had them during several storms that left me and my family without power for several days.

I agree! I’m hip with a lot of things, thanks to my kids and grandkids, but dateing again will be on the comfortable terms I had the first time around. No BFFs or Hook-Ups for Granny here. Haha!