The most handsome man I ever knew would not have been considered good looking by many. Many might consider his nose too big, or his eyebrows too bushy, but his smile made him stunningly handsome!

I wonder how he would have answered this. Haha!

I have no doubt my late husband did many things he would rather have not for the sake of keeping the peace in our marriage. Those acts may have won him some respect, but would not have gotten any added heat in the bedroom.

What fuels those fires are the times he did thing he wouldn’t otherwise have done, not to simply keep the peace, but because he genuinely cared about the things that were important to me. Often times, despite how unimportant they were to him.

Living alone still seems very new to me, though it’s been over 4 years now. Even though I’m become ng used to it, I find the silence deafening at times and almost always have a radio or tv on low for background noise. It does help. I’ve thought about taking in a student for a roommate.

I’m curious about fermented grains. I’ll have to check that out Blondey. I’m a sauerkraut gal myself. Love the stuff! I’m not a big fan of beetroot, but have though of making myself add it to my juicing mixes on occasion. Great thread.

I dated a man with depression once and he seemed great for the first several months before everything went downhill fast. I was told by a psychologist friend that it’s common for people suffering depression to crave the new love feeling as a form of self medication. Once the initial high wears off, they need a new source of feel good hormones. Searching for love can become an addiction for them.

I don’t think that means we shouldn’t date people suffering depression, but to be aware of signs you may be being used as a feel good drug and not a potential partner.

I’ve tried a lot of different mixes in the past, but for years have stuck to a simpler practice of 12 waking hours a week of fluid diet, including sea salted water (for electrolytes), teas and broths (potato-leek is my usual choice). I don’t have energy crisises or gut issues, so assume it’s doing a decent enough job. Since it’s so easy to do, I have no issues sticking with it.

Your own happiness is all on you. You may find people, places or situations that give you temporary happiness in the moment. But you can’t depend on this during hard times.

True and lasting happiness comes from within. Being okay with being unhappy, angry or restless at times can be as much a part of being happy with your life as the beautiful and joyous moments life gives us at other times.

Happiness is a choice we make to accept all our emotions and feel at peace with them. We need to cry and laugh, brood and feel contented in all of our lives or we wouldn’t know when to appreciate the good over the bad.

In the end, I believe happiness is a choice we make to be okay, come what may. If you’re experiencing a rough time, examine the good in your life and choose to be happier about having food on your table and a roof over your head more than you’re upset about the ding in your car bumper or the medical bill sitting on your desk.

Choosing happy doesn’t happen on its own. It’s an art that must be practiced. The better you become in the art of happiness, the easier it is to concentrate on fixing the problems life throws at you, because those problems are more easily recognized as just a part of life and not the whole. They are less overwhelming when your perspective is ruled from a state of peace and happiness.

This was not meant to be a sermon, but I believe strongly in this notion. It’s gotten me through some very bad times when I could have easily crumbled instead.

I think the men I dated, including my husband, cared more about being appreciated than admired for their biceps or (cough) other appendages. Though my husband was a little vain about his hair when he was young. Haha!

We’re old enough to know better too. But I won’t tell if you won’t. Hehe!

You’re very sweet to say that. I hadn’t seen your profile before. You’re not much younger than me. You look so young! it would be hard to hate you for it. You’re too nice.

I couldn’t fib about my age if I wanted to.

My grandkids calling my cell in the middle of a date would give me away.

That could happen on bith sides of course. I think that would be the first thing on my mind, not that anyone would want to fly around the globe to meet me. Haha! You young beauties are the ones who have to worry about that.

My profile says “Looking for marriage”, but I think I am more likely to make a friend than find love and marriage again. I don’t care if I cultivate friendships with women or men. Friends are friends to me.

I noticed there is no option for seeking “both” or “either”. If you’re seeking frindships, you have to choose one or the other also. Lol!

I know this question is for the guys, but had a thought to share. Hope you don’t mind.

It’s possible that a man excited enough to go that far has built an ideal up in his mind that noone could possibly live up to. Even if she’s a wonderful girl, he will be disappointed to have gone so far only to find a human at the end of his rainbow.

it takes time to get over any loss and find our way on our own before inviting someone new into our lives. Only then do we know we can give 100%.

I will consider dating a younger man within my own generation. I would not want to be romantic with a man now the age of the boys I used to diaper!

Thank you.

Keep looking. There are good men out there.

Plain shoes were bad enough.

My late husband painted my toes for me every week for a month when my leg was in a cast. He never stopped doing them after the cast came off. It started as a functional thing and turned into a loving thing. I liked it. It was sweet.

I stepped on a man’s “particulars” once. He was sitting on the ground and told me to
step over him, but I tripped. It looked like he was going to faint. I felt terrible! That poor man!